MSE pregnancy club II

SeptemberBaby_2

candygirl wrote: »

My DD is 13 weeks tomoz, has recently split with her bf and come to live with me.She is very up and down emotionally, and can't believe the relationship has ended as he was the one who wanted the baby in the first place.I think he liked the idea of a perfect family, but couldn't cope with the responsibility and financial side of things:rolleyes:
She is safe and comfy here, but is feeling very isolated and depressed, as her good time party freinds are nowhere to be seen now.I am at a loss what to do, as am also helping to nurse my Dad who's dying of cancer:(

Hi Candy, glad you have come back to us!

Your poor DD. I really feel for you both. Has the bf been in touch at all? Hope you are all ok and your Dad is comfortable. I can't imagine the stress you are under but I hope you are getting some time out just for you.

Take good care of yourself (and thats an order!).

xxx

My_Fathers_Daughter

Hi everyone.

Sorry for the self pitying posts last night. I woke up this morning and said to hubby that I would ring SIL today and ask if I could be cheeky and go over to theirs tonight (thinking I was sure that she would understand - having had 2 kids of her own). Hubby said that we couldn't do that and we will have to pick them up and take them out for something to eat instead.

I am halfway between being angry that he can drop something on me but we couldn't possibly do it to SIL (who isn't at work today!!) and just can't be bothered enough to care.

Anyway - it's nice to know that there is support to have a moan to when needed - thank you.


Went to see the midwife this morning and heard the baby's heartbeat :T I think that worrying about that (even if I didn't really know I was) contributed to all my tears last night.

All seems well although I have had an abnormal result for HCT (I think) which the midwife didn't seem to think was anything to worry about despite it saying **ABNORMAL** on the screen! It's something to do with my red blood cells I think.


I am covered in spots too - one in particular I think may end up as a scar because it has now has about 5 spots in the same place. I am far from blooming!

candygirl

:whistle:

SeptemberBaby wrote: »

Hi Candy, glad you have come back to us!

Your poor DD. I really feel for you both. Has the bf been in touch at all? Hope you are all ok and your Dad is comfortable. I can't imagine the stress you are under but I hope you are getting some time out just for you.

Take good care of yourself (and thats an order!).

xxx

Thanks hun:)
Yea he came round for a "talk" last week, but only lasted 5 mins before he ran off again[STRIKE]literally[/STRIKE]:eek: :eek: I wouldn't mind but he is 26 !!!!!!!!!:mad: :mad: As soon as he realised they couldnt stay in his safe little 1 bed flat forever he changed totally:rolleyes: DD is working, he is and they would've easily afforded the house they signed up for, but sadly he has been brought up to believe that money is god sooooooooo :rolleyes:
There were other issues that meant if she stayed with him her life would have been hell, but she's feeling v lonely and down, and my support isn't enough at the mo:(
Hope you're ok hun:A

My_Fathers_Daughter

Hi Candygirl.

Have you encouraged her to join an internet mums-to-be forum for a bit of company / baby reassurance? I would be lost without having a chat on here and hearing what others are up to...certainly reminds you that you are not alone.

I am also going to start going to Aqua Natal Classes next week so I can meet some more expectant mums in the area, my hubbys family are here but we only moved here a year ago so I don't have any friends of my own locally. Even if I did (I do get on with hubby's family - honest!!) then I think it would be good to meet people who are going through the same thing and will also have kids of the same age come March next year!

Is there anything locally that DD can get involved in?

Fritha_2

Candygirl, it's worthwhile your dd looking up the local children's centre, there should be lots for her to do there with the baby once s/he's born but also they do run stuff for pregnant women. Mine has a yoga class which I've gone to almost every week since 22 weeks. I know other ones offer different things so they're worthwhile registering with to meet other mums, but also they offer extra support if you need it :-)

candygirl

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Hi Candygirl.

Have you encouraged her to join an internet mums-to-be forum for a bit of company / baby reassurance? I would be lost without having a chat on here and hearing what others are up to...certainly reminds you that you are not alone.

I am also going to start going to Aqua Natal Classes next week so I can meet some more expectant mums in the area, my hubbys family are here but we only moved here a year ago so I don't have any friends of my own locally. Even if I did (I do get on with hubby's family - honest!!) then I think it would be good to meet people who are going through the same thing and will also have kids of the same age come March next year!

Is there anything locally that DD can get involved in?

Thanks for the ideas hun, it's a shame you don't live nearer as you're due at a similar time as her:o :A

SallyCinnamon

Hi All,

I haven't been on here for ages due to a combination of things and this is my first time on this thread. I've added myself to the EDD list - I see I'm the only one 'lucky' enough to be due on xmas day!!

I'm 26 weeks tomorrow with my first baby which we found out is a girl. I'm looking forward to getting to know you all and picking up some good tips!

EDD
Trish 123 - 6th September 2008
Chutzpah - 8th September 2008
jennywren1976 - 8 September 2008
jessbrown100- 10th september 2008
gyinnit - 12 September 2008
Superjules- 15 September 2008- planned c section
LolaManCity - 16th September 2008
Orange29 - 18th September 2008
worriedyoungmummy - 18th September 2008
Keelykat - 19th September 2008
m_dorph - 20th September 2008
Emjem - 21st September 2008
JPWhittle - 24th September 2008
Sarahsaver 24th September 2008
Fritha - 26th September
foreversomeday - 29 September 2008
CJ2405 - 2 October 2008
Jmarko's wifey - 4 October 2008
Mell242 - 7 October 2007
heather38 - 11th october 2008 changed after scan!
BargainAholic - 14th October 2008
Danielle_Kenzies-Mum - 20th October 2008
Pisces - 20th October 2008
Doodledoodle24 - 22nd October 2008
pollyanna24 - 22nd October 2008 - changed my date
Daisykate124 - 28 October 2008 - C-section booked
sarahriley53-1st November 2008
sarahh112 - 6th November 2008
Sammie0782 - 6th November 2008
rachelleblondel - 7th November 2008
levers81 - 9th November 2008
emmaBZ - 10th November 2008
icklepiggle - 12th November 2008
kaza - 13th November 2008
MrsY - 18th November 2008
Lwcus78 - 19th November 2008
redballoon - 21st November 2008
rosies_mum - 21st November 2008
Ladyra - 21st November
Toto - 24th November 2008
Sammiebmouse - 28th November 2008
Poppyjoe - 3rd December 2008
LashyLashla - 4th December 2008
Avfcforever - 7th December 2008
Paddington- 9th December 2008 - a girl!
miss_corerupted - 10th December 2008
giger - 5th December 2008
Skylight - 14th December 2008 - Whey-hey its not Xmas Day!
SeptemberBaby - 17 December 2008 (boy!)
Bonniethemadcat - 22nd December 2008 (this may change at dating scan)
Rara32 - 22nd December 2008 (this may change at dating scan)
SallyCinnamon - 25th December 2008
sooz - 5th Jan 2009 30th December 2008
Spendaholic13 - 31st December 2008
ladybirdintheuk - 5th January 2009
onlyroz - 7th Jan 2009
Flipper_72 - 8th January 2009
Madmoobag - 10th January 2009
Bekkki1 - 12th January 2009
boredjellybean - 13 January 2009
r.mac - 24th January 2009
Lday77 - 1st February
3onitsway - 9 February 2009
sampainter - 11th february 2009
lucifa73 - 11th February 2009
cazscoob - 16 February 2009
durham05 - 17 February 2009
MrsHayes - 20 February 2009
bargainbird - 21 February 2009
voodoozoe - 23rd February 2009
Mikeboy-28th February 2009
My Fathers Daughter - 2nd March 2009
happytails - 3rd March 2009
carrieparkinson - 4th March 2009 (ish)
Millie's Mum - 7 March 2009
new mum again - 10 March 2009
Redmel1621 - 12th March 2009
angelfairy - 13 March 2009 - Fri 13th it is so NOT happening on that day
Snuffilin - 15 March 2009
olliesmummy06 - 16 march 2009
bathbabe - 17 March 2009
Cookiesncream/cookie304 - 19th March 2009 (could change though!!)
JanineGr - 19th March 2009 (by my reckoning)
taney-19th March 2009
candygirl's daughter - 26th March 2009
mrsctobe! - prob march 2009 but having a little confusion over due date!
angchris 1st april 2009...april fools day
bloomin freezing - 2nd April 2009
jakesmummy - 4th April 2009
slscarborough - 12th April 2009
sismith42- 15 April 2009
Cat4772 - 22nd April 2009
xredwebx - 22nd April 2009
sparkle03 - 22nd April 2009
Claire Jones - 3rd May 2009
Kathy72- 5th May 2009
MrsTine - 16th May 2009
Icklebeans - 18th May 2009
GracieP - 19th May 2009

TTC LIST
witchyroo
sjm
Fishcake_random
Lesleydejager
jo_jo
picklesmum
durham_girl
likabu
Pooky
emptypocketz
Miss_pink & Mr Pink
Boobylou
lilmrsmullen
jiblets1
Lillian06
Uisge10
CHARLIE54
Andrea78
AnnieM
Wondermum07
Melvis
Janec08
Helen79

BIRTH LIST
Anm - Baby Girl - 6th August at 12pm - Madison arried 11 days early 6lb 4oz
Saver Raver - baby Girl 16th August -Katie May.
wotnext - Baby girl - 3rd September at 4.20pm - Rose - 8lb

PROBABLY GIVEN BIRTH BUT TOO WORN OUT TO LOG ON LIST
Usually allow 2 weeks after EDD before transferring to this list...
Mrs dj_jenns - 2nd September 2008

crazyaboutsaving

hello everyone,

I had my scan yesterday and it was AMAZING! The baby was in a great position and we could see him/her moving around! He/She was even sucking their thumb! My OH was absolutely blown away. He thought it was the most incredible experience. So, now that I feel relieved that everything is good and I have a EDD, I'm now adding myself to the list! Hooray! I'm officially 14 weeks today!

EDD
Trish 123 - 6th September 2008
Chutzpah - 8th September 2008
jennywren1976 - 8 September 2008
jessbrown100- 10th september 2008
gyinnit - 12 September 2008
Superjules- 15 September 2008- planned c section
LolaManCity - 16th September 2008
Orange29 - 18th September 2008
worriedyoungmummy - 18th September 2008
Keelykat - 19th September 2008
m_dorph - 20th September 2008
Emjem - 21st September 2008
JPWhittle - 24th September 2008
Sarahsaver 24th September 2008
Fritha - 26th September
foreversomeday - 29 September 2008
CJ2405 - 2 October 2008
Jmarko's wifey - 4 October 2008
Mell242 - 7 October 2007
heather38 - 11th october 2008 changed after scan!
BargainAholic - 14th October 2008
Danielle_Kenzies-Mum - 20th October 2008
Pisces - 20th October 2008
Doodledoodle24 - 22nd October 2008
pollyanna24 - 22nd October 2008 - changed my date
Daisykate124 - 28 October 2008 - C-section booked
sarahriley53-1st November 2008
sarahh112 - 6th November 2008
Sammie0782 - 6th November 2008
rachelleblondel - 7th November 2008
levers81 - 9th November 2008
emmaBZ - 10th November 2008
icklepiggle - 12th November 2008
kaza - 13th November 2008
MrsY - 18th November 2008
Lwcus78 - 19th November 2008
redballoon - 21st November 2008
rosies_mum - 21st November 2008
Ladyra - 21st November
Toto - 24th November 2008
Sammiebmouse - 28th November 2008
Poppyjoe - 3rd December 2008
LashyLashla - 4th December 2008
Avfcforever - 7th December 2008
Paddington- 9th December 2008 - a girl!
miss_corerupted - 10th December 2008
giger - 5th December 2008
Skylight - 14th December 2008 - Whey-hey its not Xmas Day!
SeptemberBaby - 17 December 2008 (boy!)
Bonniethemadcat - 22nd December 2008 (this may change at dating scan)
Rara32 - 22nd December 2008 (this may change at dating scan)
SallyCinnamon - 25th December 2008
sooz - 5th Jan 2009 30th December 2008
Spendaholic13 - 31st December 2008
ladybirdintheuk - 5th January 2009
onlyroz - 7th Jan 2009
Flipper_72 - 8th January 2009
Madmoobag - 10th January 2009
Bekkki1 - 12th January 2009
boredjellybean - 13 January 2009
r.mac - 24th January 2009
Lday77 - 1st February
3onitsway - 9 February 2009
sampainter - 11th february 2009
lucifa73 - 11th February 2009
cazscoob - 16 February 2009
durham05 - 17 February 2009
MrsHayes - 20 February 2009
bargainbird - 21 February 2009
voodoozoe - 23rd February 2009
Mikeboy-28th February 2009
My Fathers Daughter - 2nd March 2009
happytails - 3rd March 2009
carrieparkinson - 4th March 2009 (ish)
Millie's Mum - 7 March 2009
new mum again - 10 March 2009
Redmel1621 - 12th March 2009
angelfairy - 13 March 2009 - Fri 13th it is so NOT happening on that day
Snuffilin - 15 March 2009
olliesmummy06 - 16 march 2009
bathbabe - 17 March 2009
crazyaboutsaving - 18 March 2009
Cookiesncream/cookie304 - 19th March 2009 (could change though!!)
JanineGr - 19th March 2009 (by my reckoning)
taney-19th March 2009
candygirl's daughter - 26th March 2009
mrsctobe! - prob march 2009 but having a little confusion over due date!
angchris 1st april 2009...april fools day
bloomin freezing - 2nd April 2009
jakesmummy - 4th April 2009
slscarborough - 12th April 2009
sismith42- 15 April 2009
Cat4772 - 22nd April 2009
xredwebx - 22nd April 2009
sparkle03 - 22nd April 2009
Claire Jones - 3rd May 2009
Kathy72- 5th May 2009
MrsTine - 16th May 2009
Icklebeans - 18th May 2009
GracieP - 19th May 2009

TTC LIST
witchyroo
sjm
Fishcake_random
Lesleydejager
jo_jo
picklesmum
durham_girl
likabu
Pooky
emptypocketz
Miss_pink & Mr Pink
Boobylou
lilmrsmullen
jiblets1
Lillian06
Uisge10
CHARLIE54
Andrea78
AnnieM
Wondermum07
Melvis
Janec08
Helen79

BIRTH LIST
Anm - Baby Girl - 6th August at 12pm - Madison arried 11 days early 6lb 4oz
Saver Raver - baby Girl 16th August -Katie May.
wotnext - Baby girl - 3rd September at 4.20pm - Rose - 8lb

PROBABLY GIVEN BIRTH BUT TOO WORN OUT TO LOG ON LIST
Usually allow 2 weeks after EDD before transferring to this list...
Mrs dj_jenns - 2nd September 2008[/quote]

MrsTinks

I am panicking daily about miscarriage too... I am so scared of loosing this precious little bean - almost because it was too easy to concieve - it's like it was too easy so I'm not going to be able to keep it? It's horrible...
Thankfully DH and my friends are all VERY supportive I'd be stuffed without them

cazscoob

dont worry mrstine i think everyone goes through this stage, i think once you have a scan and get to see the wee one that your mind is eased!

well i went buggy testing today and had my heart on the icandy but trying it out and getting to take it apart and put it together again i was really disappointed you had to take every part off and then fold it and i was thinking about 2 screaming kids, pouring rain and me sitting at back of the car trying to get it all unclipped folded and in the car. tried and tested evry double on the market and TBH i was not really impressed with any! :mad:

Looks like i am getting a phil and teds as it was the only one i liked pushing around and was easy to fold, put up and i like the idea that i can still use it when DS2 starts walking!!