MSE pregnancy club II

bargainbird

Lucifa i was in 9 days:mad: after my first..... so opted for home birth 2nd time, things could not have been better, will also have homebirth with this one.....

keelykat

MrsTine wrote: »

I WANNA BUMP!!! *sigh* it's way early yet so no bump but I feel such a fraud cos I'm obviously not showing yet and I WANNA WANNA bump! :rotfl:
How soon did you guys show bumps with your first?

I didn't really show for ages, even now im being told ive got a 'neat' bump and wow i was massive at your stage! kind of thing. I know i dont have a big bump, not compared to some. but baby still feels heavy on my bladder right now and has been kicking my ribs etc to bits for ages!!

Fritha_2

r.mac wrote: »

It's great that in Scotland there's now legislation meaning no-one is allowed to act like this - I believe it's being introduced to England and wales at some point too (if it hasn't already).

I actually ended up looking into this for reasons best know to well, no one becuase I can't remember why. Essentially it's a bit complicated but as I understand it in England/Wales a breastfeeding woman can't, by law, be asked to leave for breastfeeding her child. It's currently an extension of the s*x (not sure if that'll get caught in the naughty filter!) discrimination laws, essentially it's denying access to goods/services. However the maternity law is being extended to cover breastfeeding mothers with a child up to age of six months. I beleive it's because it's difficult to prosecute under the s*xual discrimation laws, so it should provide more protection for nursing mothers.

Scotland is, as you say, different, I can't entirely remember how but I seem to recall that there is already extra protection in place for nursing mothers whatever age the child.

Phew, I hope that helps/entertains someone, I might have to go and have a lie down now, my brain isn't used to working this much (who said your brain is meltier if you're having a girl? Suddenly I'm very sure it's a girl! No doubts in my (frazzled) mind!) :-)

Krystaltips

That's right Fritha, in Scotland you are protected by law to feed any baby up to 2 in any way you need to, ie bottle or breast... The same law doesn't apply here but under the discrimination law you are automatically covered for having a baby under 6 months, if someone asks you to move or stop feeding then you are being discriminated against... The talk of bringing the same law that Scotland have is just talk at the minute, there's no real substance to it...

Incidentally I was never stopped feeding and never had anyone saw anything negative... I would of torn a strip off anyone that tried though!

Icklebeans

Hello all,

Back fro the one night camping trip - Gordale Scar and Malham Cove - gorgeous but blooming freezing at night!

Nothing else to report pregancy wise. Week 5 and nipple stick feels tender...

3onitsway

Lucifa73 wrote: »

Feeling pretty bleugh today - really tired and sick and dizzy Aren't I supposed to be 'blooming' by 18+5????? Oh Lucifa - i'm 19 weeks today and waiting for the bloom - i woke up with a huge spot on my cheek this morning, and my hair is dull and limp and not doing what its supposed to :mad:

BF in public is a worry to me too but you can get things that cover you up while allowing you to see your baby so those around can't see anything but you don't have to go to another room if you need privacy. I b-fed DS and DD, i managed without special feeding tops, just wore shirts with vests underneath. I managed to feed discretely wherever I was, and only had one negative moment - a middle aged man ushering his two sons away from our table in a beer-garden whilst glaring at me in disgust. I was tempted to whip my spare boob out and spray him with it- but i restrained myself and just gave my best evil glare back at him.

The thing that is freaking me out the most is the pictures in the NHS book where all the women in final stages of labour aren't wearing a stitch of clothing. maybe a little daft to be modest when my privates are going to be subject to close scrutiny etc and by people who see several naked women's bits every day but its the part of labour that's stressing me most at the minute!!! I just wore a big baggy, old nightie - and threw it away after! It was past washing. I'm hoping to use the birthing pool this time and was wondering if i could wear a nightie or a tankini top at least? Does anyone have any experience?

I'm also starting to get pre-scan paranoia and have managed to convince myself of various scenarios including the baby being dead. Will be glad to get to Friday afternoon and see what's happening in there! The nerves are translating into nightmares and Hubbles had to wake me on Saturday night because I was crying in my sleep. Me too!! I'm glad its not just me thats crazy!! My scan is Monday - i can't wait!! In last nights dream all my teeth fell out as i was brushing them, then I gave birth to a hairy monkey!!!! :eek:

I started showing a bump in certain clothes at about week 11! I'm bigger thn my friend who is 4 weeks further on than me so it is obviously different for everyone. My normal clothes stopped fitting from about 10 weeks - probably from about 17 weeks i've got a proper 'baby' belly, rather than just looking fat!

Finally - any other second/third or more time mums out there. Did you/are you going to parentcraft/antenatal classes this time round?
I don't really see the point - i know what to expect, i've done it twice before - but i don't want the midwifes to think i'm a smartass and use it against me when i'm in labour!!

Sarahsaver

The midwife said my baby's head is 1/5 engaged but i think that actually means that she can only feel 1/5 of its head above my pelvis! Sounds promising

i would not have had a home birth this time round cos I had a stroke in 2001 so they want to keep an eye on me, prob only one night tho, i get to have a rest in hospital (someone said they wouldn't sleep if sharing - don't worry you WILL you will be shattered! ) also DS1 has many complex problems (Aspergers. ADHD etc etc...) which mean he would not be able to cope with something like childbirth going on in the house!

No one showed me how to bathe my kids either, I didnt wash them in hospital. You can keep a baby unwashed for about a week :eek: according to my first midwife. The vernix you can rub into their skin. It's not dirt, after all you know precisely where the baby has been!!!
A quick dunk into a very small washing up bowl was DD's first bath.

This time round I have decided to avoid all the chemical based baby products too.

Millie's_Mum

3onitsway wrote: »

Finally - any other second/third or more time mums out there. Did you/are you going to parentcraft/antenatal classes this time round?
I don't really see the point - i know what to expect, i've done it twice before - but i don't want the midwifes to think i'm a smartass and use it against me when i'm in labour!!

I'm a 2nd tmer and I have said no to parentcraft but I might do the antenatal classes (last time round they were just a few half hour sessions with a midwife) simply because its an opportunity to meet other people expecting at the same time in my area, if you know what I mean.

keelykat

parent craft and antenatal are the same thing here?

I found them to be really usefull :-)

Krystaltips

3onitsway, I had a water birth with DD and wore a nightie in the water. Nobody asked me I just got in wearing it and the MW went 'Oh, you're keeping it on then' After I got out of the water I was like a big child, lifted my arms in the air and someone took it off me... At this point I didn't really care, then I lay on the bed and they covered me and baby with a sheet and blanket to warm us up and my sister cut the cord...

I'll be doing antenatal classes again, it's all part of the baby growing experience... Plus OH has no experience of childbirth so it will be a little beneficial to him...