MSE pregnancy club II

Lucifa73

Feeling pretty bleugh today - really tired and sick and dizzy Aren't I supposed to be 'blooming' by 18+5?????

BF in public is a worry to me too but you can get things that cover you up while allowing you to see your baby so those around can't see anything but you don't have to go to another room if you need privacy. As for staying over - I'm kind of hoping I do get a night in so the MW has plenty of time to coach with BF, changing and possibly bathing Bean otherwise I'll be a nervous wreck doing it all for the first time at home.

The thing that is freaking me out the most is the pictures in the NHS book where all the women in final stages of labour aren't wearing a stitch of clothing. maybe a little daft to be modest when my privates are going to be subject to close scrutiny etc and by people who see several naked women's bits every day but its the part of labour that's stressing me most at the minute!!!

I'm also starting to get pre-scan paranoia and have managed to convince myself of various scenarios including the baby being dead. Will be glad to get to Friday afternoon and see what's happening in there! The nerves are translating into nightmares and Hubbles had to wake me on Saturday night because I was crying in my sleep.

I started showing a bump in certain clothes at about week 11! I'm bigger thn my friend who is 4 weeks further on than me so it is obviously different for everyone.

Apparently fresh oregano and basil can help bring on labour. My hairdresser was telling me one of his italian customers (also a close friend) made his wife a huge plate of pasta with oregano and basil in the sauce (fresh, not dried) and she had given birth by 10am the next day... Sounds tasty enough to be worth a try should the time come.... I've checked the internet and a few articles back this up (apparently basil and oregano aromatherapy oils should be avoided in pregnancy) and some of the articles also mention pineappleas a possible stimulant.

bargainbird

Hi I'm due 21st feb 2009

My_Fathers_Daughter

Oh Luc - I have had a few scary dreams too but hubby sleeps too soundly to notice!! He does a good line in sleep cuddling though when I wake myself up! I think it is natural to worry and we are at our most vulnerable when we are asleep and we don't have our sensible sides to keep a bit of control.


MrsT - I have been on the decaf coffee since I found out I was baking - I have always been a bit of a coffee addict (on my 5th cup today already!) so it was easier to switch than worry about the amount of caffeine I am drinking (still have regular first thing in the morning to get me going!)
I started to show at about 14 weeks - not a defined 'bump' as such but a definite baby shape going on there!


edited to add - welcome aboard bargainbird - there is a list of dates if you go back a page or so - copy and paste and add yourself in!

cat4772

I remember six years ago meeting my sister for lunch with baby neice in tow. Sis had been breastfeeding in one of the department store cafe's when the manager came and asked he to feed her child in the mother baby room. Sis left in tears.

Being the kind and considerate soul I am, I frog-marched her back to the store, ordered food & drink then when K needed feeding again told sis to feed her. Sure enough manager came over 'really sorry, customers complaining, could she move or feed in mother/baby unit?' I politely declined on behalf of sis and asked for his name, then on mobile to head office, complained that my sister was breastfeeding and just asked by manager to move and I thought it was a deplorable policy where breastfeeding mothers weren't welcomed and could I have their press office so that I could pass on the info to my local paper.

Head office told us to sit tight and ten minutes later VERY red faced manager came over, apologised, comp'd our meal and gave her £30 of vouchers to spend.

I don't think sis ever forgave me but then again she never put up with crap about breastfeeding again!

Cat.x

ps - yes, I'm a rottweiller on behalf of others but more of a welcome mat to be walked all over for myself...

Millie's_Mum

Lucifa73 wrote: »

As for staying over - I'm kind of hoping I do get a night in so the MW has plenty of time to coach with BF, changing and possibly bathing Bean otherwise I'll be a nervous wreck doing it all for the first time at home.
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I don't want to upset you further cos I know you are feeling rubbish today but I wouldn't get my hopes up too high about this, i was in hospital for a week after an emergency section last time and i was never shown how to change or bathe baby, I was just left to get on with it.

As for coaching BF, it was difficult for me whilst in hospital because there are different midwives on duty and with every change of shift you get a change of approach, I didn't know what I was supposed to be doing with all the conflicting advice.

r.mac_2

Hi there guys

Had a hideous night - awake tossing and turning until 5am. Have no idea why and so now feel awful today

BF - I plan on BF for as long as I can. I can't say I'm keen on feeding in public, but it looks easy enough to be discreet once I've got the hang of things.

Keely - that does sound like things are starting for you, from what my books have said. It's really exciting. I can't wait to hear all about it. If you are getting bored and need distracted PM me and we can chat

my bump is getting more defined now - i'm 21+1wks, but everyone keeps telling me 'You're very/terribly/awfully neat' as if I should have become an elephant all of a sudden. I'm not a large lady so why I should have a huge bump now I don't know I am happy as is MW so that's all that matters.

right have nattered on long enough!

r.mac_2

cat4772 wrote: »

I remember six years ago meeting my sister for lunch with baby neice in tow. Sis had been breastfeeding in one of the department store cafe's when the manager came and asked he to feed her child in the mother baby room. Sis left in tears.

Being the kind and considerate soul I am, I frog-marched her back to the store, ordered food & drink then when K needed feeding again told sis to feed her. Sure enough manager came over 'really sorry, customers complaining, could she move or feed in mother/baby unit?' I politely declined on behalf of sis and asked for his name, then on mobile to head office, complained that my sister was breastfeeding and just asked by manager to move and I thought it was a deplorable policy where breastfeeding mothers weren't welcomed and could I have their press office so that I could pass on the info to my local paper.

Head office told us to sit tight and ten minutes later VERY red faced manager came over, apologised, comp'd our meal and gave her £30 of vouchers to spend.

I don't think sis ever forgave me but then again she never put up with crap about breastfeeding again!

Cat.x

ps - yes, I'm a rottweiller on behalf of others but more of a welcome mat to be walked all over for myself...

It's great that in Scotland there's now legislation meaning no-one is allowed to act like this - I believe it's being introduced to England and wales at some point too (if it hasn't already). Good on you!

Lucifa73

Millie's_Mum wrote: »

I don't want to upset you further cos I know you are feeling rubbish today but I wouldn't get my hopes up too high about this, i was in hospital for a week after an emergency section last time and i was never shown how to change or bathe baby, I was just left to get on with it.

As for coaching BF, it was difficult for me whilst in hospital because there are different midwives on duty and with every change of shift you get a change of approach, I didn't know what I was supposed to be doing with all the conflicting advice.

You haven't upset me! I'd rather be forewarned than have high hopes dashed at the time:p , so thanks for the heads up!

Can you tell I'm a first timer - I was just going on what the NHS books said:o - I guess I'll take it as it comes and just be happy with a healthy baby come February 2009:rotfl:

keelykat

My sister's just rang-maybe i shouldnt have mentionned the pains etc ive been having-shes now all excited and telling me this is it! i reminded her it could go on days if i wasnt being induced though....lol

Hospital stay-i hate hopsitals, and untill i went on my hospital tour was quite worried by the thought of stopping over night in one. But since then have calmed down and dont feel so bad about it. Im looking on the positive side-the midwife who showed us around encouraged us to stop as long as is needed and they are keen on supporting mothers who are breastfeeding and so dont want anyone going home who's not ready etc.

Im also thinking ill be very tired after the birth, and it will give me a chance to recover slightly before going home and being left to it! I know ill still have to have my baby there all the time, and look after him/her but there will be support and help there.

Im dreading the food part the most-how sad am i lol?! The smell of hospital food makes me gag!

Lucifa-i know what you mean about nakedness/modesty etc during birth. Im quite a prude some could call me-i prefer to keep myself covered up etc so i also dread that part! Im keen on skin to skin, and to b-feed asap so obviously will be needing my chest bare to put baby on....and by then everyone will have seen the bottom half of me naked too...so ill probably not care by then (or so im told!).... hmmm....im still worried!

I switched to de-caf tea/coffee....but i went off it for months to start with anyway. Wasnt too long ago that i fancied it again!

B-feeding in public still makes me feel nervous-but we'll take it one day at a time and when im feeling more confident i may go out lol! Ive eyed up a lovely poncho in matalan that would be ideal for the winter and b-feeding when out.

Theres so much to think about with pregnancy and then the actual birth and then looking after baby.... phew!

MrsTinks

Obviously I might be different when bean arrives and probably quite hormonal... but if any manager tried to "dislodge" me whilst BFing (which obviously I'd do discreetly! I don't want weirdo's staring!) he'd suddenly think he'd dropped through the floors into the deepest depths of hell... I would pick him apart verbally before getting as far as getting his name and the head offices number... I can't abide "policies" like that!
Grrrr

*sipping hot apple juice to calm down*