MSE pregnancy club II

squishyclaire

Thank god I am not going mad. I also rely a lot on my memory- always very good but forgot last night my parents were coming for tea. When they arrived we had already eaten!

I am reluctant to tell work so early on but i'm not sure whether cos of this problem I should at least tell my line manager. I have told a very supportive colleague in confidence so she can help me out with some lifting tasks next week. When did you peeps tell work?

Lucifa73

squishyclaire wrote: »

Thank god I am not going mad. I also rely a lot on my memory- always very good but forgot last night my parents were coming for tea. When they arrived we had already eaten!

I am reluctant to tell work so early on but i'm not sure whether cos of this problem I should at least tell my line manager. I have told a very supportive colleague in confidence so she can help me out with some lifting tasks next week. When did you peeps tell work?

My memory is usually excellent too but not at the moment - and I've got exams in November:eek: . I'm also suffering from worse typing dyslexia than usual:o

I told my immediate boss and the partner who's portfolio I work on mostly at 6 weeks but onbly because I really wanted to see doc or MW before going on holiday to check out do's and don'ts and the only appointment I could get was in the middle of the day so I need to be off for the whole afternoon. Everyone else at work found out after my scan and even then I only actually told a couple of people and let the office grapevine do the rest

candygirl

3onitsway wrote: »

Hi Candygirl - love to your daughter, she's lucky she's got you!

As it stands at the moment, he doesn't need to be on the birth certificate for her to be able to claim child maintenance from him.

If he's not on the birth certificate, he doesn't automatically get equal parental rights to the baby - but he could apply through the courts for equal rights.

However, the law is changing (not sure when) and the government are going to insist both parents are registered on the birth certificates.
http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/uk/article4052091.ece
I think its part of this Autumns welfare reform bill - i've no idea how it would take for it to become law.

Thinking about it - its also going to be almost impossible to enforce! There are genuine cases (watch Jeremy Kyle), where the mother has no idea who the father is - what will they do then?

I feel like i'm living it at the moment:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

My_Fathers_Daughter

squishyclaire wrote: »

I am reluctant to tell work so early on but i'm not sure whether cos of this problem I should at least tell my line manager. I have told a very supportive colleague in confidence so she can help me out with some lifting tasks next week. When did you peeps tell work?

I told my immediate work/line manager practically straight away. The office I work in is pretty small and I was having some problems with my heart which meant I needed to have tests etc. I kind of figured that it was less stress to let them know and have their support than to try to cover things up...and if the worst had happened (god forbid) then I would rather they knew beforehand anyway IYSWIM.

I think it depends on where you work and what kind of relationship you have with your boss.

squishyclaire

I am also in a dilema about when to tell family and friends. OH would have told them the day we found out but I am more cautious. What is normal practice here?

bathbabe

We told our very closest family and very best friends very early on, then no-one else until after 12 weeks. Another friend had a 12 week scan recently and discovered baby had died a few weeks ago with no symptoms to indicate this - it made me realise (amongst so many other things) that I was glad we'd only told a handful of people. We wanted a few close people to know to share the excitement with, and if things had turned out differently to support us if we needed it, without telling everyone. I guess it's different for everyone though - that's just what we felt would work for us.

CAFCGirl

Hi All,

Just wanted to wish everyone best of luck in their pregnancies.

Had our scan and have been informed that the pregnancy has ended.
Had to come home straight after scan as the other department we were due to see had all gone home for the day.
Will get a phone call tomorrow and will see where we go from there.

Best wishes to everyone and I'd really appreciate it if someone could take me off the list, but too emotional to do it myself.
Thanks xx

jakesmummy_2

So sorry to hear that CAFCGirl, take care xx

lwcus78

EDD
Linzm - 28 August 2008
Scottish-Diva- ? August 2008
Mrs dj_jenns - 2nd September 2008
Trish 123-sept 6th 2008
Chutzpah - 8th September 2008
jennywren1976 - 8 September 2008
jessbrown100- 10th september 2008
gyinnit - 12 September 2008
Superjules- 15 September 2008- planned c section
LolaManCity - 16th September 2008
Orange29 - 18th September 2008
worriedyoungmummy - 18th September 2008
Keelykat - 19th September 2008
m_dorph - 20th September 2008
Emjem - 21st September 2008
JPWhittle - 24th September 2008
Sarahsaver 24th September 2008
Fritha - 26th September
foreversomeday - 29 September 2008
CJ2405 - 2 October 2008
Jmarko's wifey - 4 October 2008
Mell242 - 7 October 2007
heather38 - 11th october 2008 changed after scan!
BargainAholic - 14th October 2008
Danielle_Kenzies-Mum - 20th October 2008
Pisces - 20th October 2008
Doodledoodle24 - 22nd October 2008
pollyanna24 - 22nd October 2008 - changed my date
Daisykate124 - 28 October 2008 - C-section booked
sarahriley53-1st November 2008
sarahh112 - 6th November 2008
Sammie0782 - 6th November 2008
rachelleblondel - 7th November 2008
levers81 - 9th November 2008
emmaBZ - 10th November 2008
icklepiggle - 12th November 2008
kaza - 13th November 2008
MrsY - 18th November 2008
Lwcus78 - 19th November 2008
redballoon - 21st November 2008
rosies_mum - 21st November 2008
Ladyra - 21st November
Toto - 24th November 2008
Sammiebmouse - 28th November 2008
Poppyjoe - 3rd December 2008
LashyLashla - 4th December 2008
Avfcforever - 7th December 2008
Paddington- 9th December 2008 - a girl!
miss_corerupted - 10th December 2008
giger - 5th December 2008
Skylight - 14th December 2008 - Whey-hey its not Xmas Day!
SeptemberBaby - 17 December 2008 (boy!)
Bonniethemadcat - 22nd December 2008 (this may change at dating scan)
Rara32 - 22nd December 2008 (this may change at dating scan)
sooz - 5th Jan 2009 30th December 2008
Spendaholic13 - 31st December 2008
ladybirdintheuk - 5th January 2009
onlyroz - 7th Jan 2009
Flipper_72 - 8th January 2009
Madmoobag - 10th January 2009
Bekkki1 - 12th January 2009
boredjellybean - 13 January 2009
r.mac - 24th January 2009
3onitsway - 9 February 2009
sampainter - 11th february 2009
lucifa73 - 11th February 2009
cazscoob - 16 February 2009
durham05 - 17 February 2009
MrsHayes - 20 February 2009
voodoozoe - 23rd February 2009
Mikeboy-28th February 2009
My Fathers Daughter - 2nd March 2009
happytails - 3rd March 2009
carrieparkinson - 4th March 2009 (ish)
Millie's Mum - 7 March 2009
new mum again - 10 March 2009
Redmel1621 - 12th March 2009
angelfairy - 13 March 2009 - Fri 13th it is so NOT happening on that day :mad:
Snuffilin - 15 March 2009
olliesmummy06 - 16 march 2009
bathbabe - 17 March 2009
Cookiesncream/cookie304 - 19th March 2009 (could change though!!)
JanineGr - 19th March 2009 (by my reckoning)
taney-19th March 2009
candygirl's daughter - 26th March 2009
mrsctobe! - prob march 2009 but having a little confusion over due date!
angchris 1st april 2009...april fools day :rolleyes:
bloomin freezing - 2nd April 2009
jakesmummy - 4th April 2009
slscarborough - 13th April 2009
sismith42- 15 April 2009
Cat4772 - 22nd April 2009
xredwebx - 22nd April 2009
sparkle03 - 22nd April 2009
Claire Jones - 3rd May 2009
Kathy72- 5th May 2009

TTC LIST
witchyroo
sjm
Fishcake_random
Lesleydejager
jo_jo
picklesmum
durham_girl
likabu
Pooky
emptypocketz
Miss_pink & Mr Pink
Boobylou
lilmrsmullen
jiblets1
Lillian06
Uisge10
CHARLIE54
Andrea78
AnnieM
Wondermum07
Melvis
Janec08
Lday77
Helen79

BIRTH LIST
sunday_girl - Baby Girl - Seren Elizabeth - 10th July 2008 @ 11.33pm - 7lb 2.5oz
LilacPixie - Baby Girl - 11 July 2008 at 7.12pm - 8lb 4oz
bethom - Baby Girl - 15th July at 12.47am - 6lb6ozs
Mrs_Pepperpot - Baby Boy - James Dominic - 16 July 2008 - 6lb 4oz
carol9uk - baby boy 24th july (38 weeks plus 1) James alexander 6LB 11 0z
miss-piggin - Baby Boy - 27 July 2008 at 5:11am - Laurence James 7lb 9oz
skintnutta - baby boy - 28 July 2008 at 8.33pm - Alexander - 7lb 7oz
Gem_ - baby Boy 30th July - Alex arrived 6 weeks early at 34+2 weighing 4lb 3oz
Anm - Baby Girl - 6th August at 12pm - Madison arried 11 days early 6lb 4oz
Saver Raver - baby Girl 16th August -Katie May.
wotnext - Baby girl - 3rd September at 4.20pm - Rose - 8lb

PROBABLY GIVEN BIRTH BUT TOO WORN OUT TO LOG ON LIST
Usually allow 2 weeks after EDD before transferring to this list...
Blink_Blink - 3rd August 2008
Chelltune - planned c-sec 7th August, EDD 17th August
ParadiseKidd - 6th August 2008
HelenD - 7th August 2008
Janegresty - 8th August 2008
grad_gal25 - 11 August 2008
Sarahrey 1-20th August 2008
Handbagqueen-20th August 2008
LindseyandMatthew-23rd August 2008

lwcus78

CAFCGirl, I'm so sorry, my thoughts are with you. Take care of yourself xx