MSE pregnancy club II

carol9uk

as above got to have a moan, as noone i can talk to, five months today and OH AND SON are being unsupportive leaving me to do all the washing etc, while they do nothing, my hormones all over the place, as we all are. feeling the baby move less and less and i darent say anything as OH just moans at me.
i know that there are worse people worse than me.

soory

rjh090384

awww big hugs carol. have a rest and if u worried about movements call ur midwife. if i am busy runnging about i find the baby moves less but i f i sitting down resting or lying down it goes beserk with movements. take a chill pill and sit down with a cuppa!!

Tracey04

could someone answer :
do you get SMP if you pay NI and tax on your wage, and maternity allowance if you earn under that level. ( do they both pay £112 per week)? and would I still get working and child tax credits whilst on maternity.

many thanks just trying to work out how to pay the mortgage and bills . Thanks

snugglepuss_2

I think I must be lucky with my employer then!! I get 100% for 13 weeks and was told by HR that it was 10% more than they have to pay.

I've checked the DWP website and information on SMP, whether you qualify for it or Statutory Maternity Allowance, and the information can be found here http://www.dwp.gov.uk/lifeevent/benefits/statutory_maternity_pay.asp .

EmiliaAndBentley_2

Just adding myself to the list


EDD
Heavenleigh - 24th march 08
Melg1973 - 24th march 08
Newleafer - 27th march 08
stepneythebluebellengine - 28th March 2008
tranquil - 2 April 2008
Girl And The City - 5 April 2008
redflame705 - 11th April 08 (was 8th April 2008)
gemsygem (Sheel's daughter) 19th April 08
MonkeyLady - 20th April 08
JojoB - 20th April 2008
PinkPrincess 21st April 2008
machairs - 24th April 2008 (may change after scan)
cluuuuur - 25th April 2008
debecca - 26th April 2008
Kelsi-Blu - 27th April 08
Katgoddess - 29th April 2008
mandycutiepie - 1st May 2008
lostbuckaroos - 2 May 2008 (although doc thinks that could be 2 weeks out!)
rjh090384 -3rd May 2008 (changed at 12 week scan)
Traveller -May 3rd 2008 (but probably 10th as always a week late!!!
laurasbump - 6th May 2008
Knotty29 - 16th May 2008
magan- 18th May 2008
snugglemunchkin - 21st May 2008 Its a boy!
destiny_star2006 - 22 May 2008 (or could be 2 June!)
siren13577 24 May 2008 Having a girl!
jb - 27th May 2008
clarkey1000 - May 31st 2008
Cookie08 - 7th June - Its a boy
Harding 1985 - 9 June
barriefilms - 9th June
jenza8 - 10th June
nik2108 - 11th June 2008
Nicifer_noonoo - 13th June 2008
Chicken1902 - 15th June 2008
Tinka21 - 24 June 2008
aggiev - 1st July 2008
honeybe21 - 2nd/3rd july 2008
sunday_girl - 6th July 2008
sugababesfan - 10th July 2008
skyeandeviesmummy - 13th July 2008
shazzany - 13th July 2008
LilacPixie - 14th July 2008
I love my Pomeranian - 15th July 2008
Jak - 18th July 2008
bethom - 20th July 2008
EmiliaAndBentley- 20th July 2008 BABY BOY!!! YAY!
skintnutta - 21st July 2008
Warburton100 - 25th July
HStef81 - 29th July 2008
Blink_Blink - 3rd August 2008
ParadiseKidd - 6th August 2008
Carol9uk - 6 August 2008
grad_gal25 - 11 August(My Birthday This was so not planned!)
miss-piggin- 11 August 2008
anm - 17th August 2008
Saver Raver - 16th August 2008
Sarahrey1 - 20th August 2008
handbagqueen - 20th August 2008
LindseyandMatthew 23rd August!
wotnext - 27 August 2008
Linzm - 28 August 2008
Scottish-Diva- ? August 2008
Trish 123-sept 6th
Chutzpah - 8th September 2008 (we haven't had a dating scan yet)
LolaManCity - 16th September 2008
Orange29 - 18th September
Keelykat - 19th September 2008
Emjem - 21st September 2008
JPWhittle - 24th September 2008
Fritha - 26th September
foreversomeday - 27 September 2008 (May change after scan)
CJ2405 - 2 October 2008
heather38 - 11th october 2008 changed after scan!
BargainAholic - 14th October 2008
Danielle_Kenzies-Mum - 20th October 2008
pollyanna24 - 22nd October 2008 - changed my date
Daisykate124 - 3 November 2008 :cheesy:
sarahh112 - 6th November 2008
rachelleblondel - 7th November 2008
kaza - 13th November 2008
MrsY - 18th November 2008
Lwcus78- 22nd November 2008
LashyLashla - 4th December 2008
Toto - 24th November 2008

TTC LIST
Cookiesncream
witchyroo
sjm
Fishcake_random
Lesleydejager
jo_jo
picklesmum
durham_girl
likabu
Pooky
emptypocketz
Miss_pink & Mr Pink
Boobylou
lilmrsmullen
jiblets1
Lillian06
ginvzt
Uisge10
CHARLIE54
bloomin freezing
Andrea78
AnnieM
Wondermum07
Melvis
SeptemberBaby
Poppyjoe

BIRTH LIST
Bun - Annabeth Charlotte arrived 2 1/2 weeks early at 3.44am on 7th February, weighing 5lb 9oz.
Cathie - Alice arrived 17 February at 1700 weighing 7lb 5oz
Melly74 - Daisy Hannah arrived 19 February at 1822 weighing 7lb 14oz
ukbandit - Sara arrived 28/02 @ 12.26 weighing 7lb 9oz
Bailey - Molly Louisa 26/02 @ 8.31 weighing 8lb 1 oz
miss_Be - Ember Thomasin Abbie arrived 00.18 2nd March 'Mummy's Day' 7lb 12oz, 10 days late but not overcooked
nicci985 - Ozzie Joe arrived 29th february at 15.56 weighing 8lb 4oz!
alison6692 - Daisy Pamela Smith - February 29th weighing 9lb 11oz!
Elliesmum - Samuel Michael Sid Beardsley - arrived 3rd March 9lb 3oz
3KIDSNOMONEY - Ben Daniel arrived 6th March, 7 days late 8lb 11oz.
mandy2383 - Troy Christian 7 March born at 7:39pm weighing 8lb
Purplegirluk1 - George born 5.47am 10th March 2008 weighing 8lb 2oz
Samantham06 - Charlie David arrived 7.25pm 12th March 2008 weighing 7lb 8 1/2oz
Dougggie- Edwyn Douglas, arrived 5.08pm 15 March 08, 8lb 14oz by emcs
Pink Princess1 - Ruby Elizabeth arrived 19.25 on 26th March 2008 8lb 1oz
snugglepuss - Peter David arrived 6 days early at 17:47 on 3rd April 2008 7lb by emergency forceps delivery

PROBABLY GIVEN BIRTH BUT TOO WORN OUT TO LOG ON LIST
Usually allow 2 weeks after EDD before transferring to this list...
Marvalous - 12th February 08
Loopy-loo73 - 21 Feb 08
PiscesPrincess - 24th February 2008
Ella29 - 27th February 08
doobees - 4 March 08
svmitche - 4th March 2008[/quote]

EmiliaAndBentley_2

Bethom Your Due the same day!!!

cluuuuur

Started on maternity leave today. It's all getting a bit "real"!

pollyanna24

Just though I would add my tuppence.

I am almost 12 weeks pregant and going for the Nuchal test tonight. I'm having to go private as my gp, midwife and hospital all seem to be a bit parp.

At first I thought it was good because I got sent for two early scans as I panicked a bit when I was spotting. These scans gave me my due date.

When I went to see the midwife at 11 weeks, I got told there was no scan at 12 weeks due to funding, so I am lucky that I actually have had any scans so far at all.

My next appointment with her is at 16 weeks and my friend has just asked me what choice of hospital was I given. I said none and that I wasn't even told where I would be having it (there is a assumption of Watford as it is a big hospital), and she said this was bad as after 16 weeks, I will have no choice but to go there and seeing as they are so bad with scans, maybe I should add to move somewhere else.

I told the midwife about my brother being born at 24 weeks and my mum having pre eclampsia, and the fact that I was born at 34 weeks, and she just didn't seem that bothered, but going by the comments above, maybe she should have taken more notice!

I was offered the "Triple Test" at 16 weeks, but really wanted to see my baby before that which is why I've opted for the Nuchal scan at a private clinic. Are they one and the same or is one better than the other?

Finally, sorry for the waffle, but this is my first pregnancy, my boss is avoiding the subject of maternity leave etc. How can I ask him about maybe giving me more money during maternity (I suppose this will mean I will have to come back to work after a year)? He is a one man band, so there is no option of going to a HR department or anything like that.

keelykat

The triple test is a blood test by the way pollyanna, its not a scan. i had mine taken friday just gone.

You sound like you live in a bad area for this kind of thing-i wouldnt be happy either! Im lucky ive been well looked after so far, and have had choice of hospitals etc too.

I think maybe because you had an early scan, they wont give you another one untill around 20 weeks for the anomoly scan. you dont get that many scans if all is going well anyway, ive got an extra 22 week scan for bp and other reasons.

I think youre best to keep asking/naggin until you get answers and are happy.

pollyanna24

keelykat wrote: »

The triple test is a blood test by the way pollyanna, its not a scan. i had mine taken friday just gone.

You sound like you live in a bad area for this kind of thing-i wouldnt be happy either! Im lucky ive been well looked after so far, and have had choice of hospitals etc too.

I think maybe because you had an early scan, they wont give you another one untill around 20 weeks for the anomoly scan. you dont get that many scans if all is going well anyway, ive got an extra 22 week scan for bp and other reasons.

I think youre best to keep asking/naggin until you get answers and are happy.

Thanks for that Keelykat. I'm not sure what I expected when I went to see the midwife, but I just thought there would be "something more." Maybe I forget that women have babies every day of the year and it's just another expense to the NHS, I don't know.

I don't want to continually ring up the midwife as I don't actually have any questions at the mo. I just thought they might check me out a bit more often due to my mums having such problems (I appreciate this was a long time ago, but still...)

If I hadn't had those early scans (which detected I was two weeks out with my dates), I wouldn't know when I was due. Regardless of whether I'd had early scans or not, 12 weeks scans just aren't done in my area. Couldn't really see anything babylike at 7 weeks, so just wanted a 12 week scan for reassurance that it's growing. Just a shame I have to £150 for the priviledge when I've spent roughly £12,000 on NI over the last 10 years (just worked that one out, bit of a shocker!)

One more questions for all you ladies out there, what can I do to prevent an episiotomy? I have no idea why, but the thought of this terrifies me more than anything else to do with giving birth.