MSE pregnancy club II

Snaggles

Dormouse, pregnancy can be hard work even without any extra complications, you're not ungrateful at all, just normal! Fingers crossed for an early (but not too early) appearance from your little one.

Eels100

Agutka wrote: »

This whole it being harder to breathe when you're heavily pregnant - is this survivable? I keep imagining I'll have to go into hospital for oxygen!
I have spent so many years getting to grips with anxiety... my coping mechanisms involve a lot of deep breathing. I'd miss being able to do it! I'm already starting to feel a little too much pressure if I don't....erm...y'know...regularly . Only three months to go...

I have found I get breathless very easily, and I noticed this even before I was very big. But now baby's getting bigger and is upside down, it's discovered that it's easier to shove its head under my ribcage rather than out in front. So I look less like I'm hiding a watermelon up my jumper but I'm wheezing and grunting instead. Attractive!

It's nothing I can't live with (not when you consider I've managed OK with the wind/hormonal outbursts/heartburn/pelvis with a mind of its own etc) and if you rely on deep breathing I would imagine you would still find it OK. It would probably help you relax better actually because I'm sure getting tense makes gasping worse.

SeptemberBaby_2

Congratulations, Beakerange!!!


Can I ask how involved your partners are in everyone's pregnancy? My SIL has said that her DH has decided not to attend any antenatal appointments or even any scans! :eek:

I have the opposite problem with DH! He wants to be involved in everything!!! When I had my 20w scan we nearly fell out in the car as it took over 25mins to park and I was going to be late (as if scan departments run on time :rotfl:) so I had to leave him to it. He was distraught that he might miss something and said he wouldn't be happy if I went in without him! In the end they were running 40mins late anyway...:rolleyes:

x

Justie

my OH wants to go to every appointment (made me reschedule today's GP appointment so he could make it) but then won't read any of the books or start thinking about pushchairs etc despite me being 30 weeks. He doesn't want to buy anything for baby as 'there's ages yet'. This makes everything twice as much work for me as I have to research everything and then make a very detailed list so that if I suddenly go into labour he's got an idea of what has to be got from where so we don't end up with him just going to Mothercare and buying everything :rolleyes:

However he's been away for 10 days and I've been on my own and been shopping He'll have to lump it :rotfl:

helend

Thought I'd let you know in case there are any other obsessive baby bit hunters, last night I found that mamas and papas are having a sale starting on the 25th and there is a voucher which you can print off giving you extra 10% on the first day of sale. They've already reduced skoot travel system to £250 (drool)

Curious_George_2

My OH is really involved with this pregnancy, which is lovely because my Ex wasnt interested at all when i was having our daughter, he never touched my stomach unless i put his hand there, i always felt like a baby bore talking to him and he wasnt really into any of it until a while after the birth and she got a bit more.... well, "interesting" i suppose,
he is a great dad now, but he sucked during pregnancy (plus i was horny as hell for the 2nd and 3rd trimester and he wouldnt come any where near me :rolleyes: )

but... my OH now is an absolute angel, he has read all the books, LOVES the baby shopping, cant get enough of touching my tummy (or me ) an talks to the baby every day, makes us dinner when i cant be bothered to move etc....
he is going to be a fantastic dad :T

Welshlassie

I'm feeling really crap at the moment.

Someone went into the back of my car yesterday at a junction cause she wasn't paying attention. There doesn't appear to be any damage, but this is the second time in 2 months I've had a bump (in the car), the first one was my fault. I was feeling teary anyway, but this has just tipped me over the edge.

I spent most of yesterday evening crying and now feel like s**t today, have a headache and really tired. I'm really resenting what this baby has done to me and my body (am covered in stretch marks, even though I've been moisturising with Palmers like crazy) and its causing so many rows between me and DH, (baby things generally not stretch marks). We never used to argue like this, we'd go weeks sometimes months without having a row and at the moment it feels like we are every few days.

I know the hormones don't help and I'm suffering as I'm in pain with my pelvis and can't take any painkillers (although they have suggested tramodol, they turn me into a zombie), but surely I should be looking forward to the baby arriving to meet him/her not because I want him out of my body?

I so wanted to enjoy this pregnancy and was really looking forward to getting pregnant and experiencing the whole thing, but I've felt really crap for most of it as a result of sereve morning sickness until 26/28 weeks and now my pelvis won't behave. In addition to being so hormonal, like I didn't think was possible. I just want it all over with and I've at least 6 weeks to go, don't know how I'm going to cope.

Sorry moan over.

jenpoptab

welsh lassie, you poor thing, I hope that you are ok. We all have rubbish days, some are worse than usual and me and OH are similar we can go ages without rowing but often it feels like it is constant and often over nothing!

There is an end in sight and before you know it you will have your beautiful baby in your arms and stretch marks will be the last thing on your mind. I know exactly where you are coming from though. I'm so worried about my weight afterwards as I have put on 2 stone and with last two kids I put on just over 1 stone, however i did weigh a lot more in those pregnancies. I got to my goal weight at WW the wk I found out that I was pregnant, so I just aspire to be there again!

I feel quite upbeat today. Not sure if it's because I have finished work or whether I'm relaxing a bit more about the iminent birth of baby no3. Just wish I could know exactly when he/she is going to come. It's like waiting for a parcel that you know could arrive at anytime and it's a case of should I wait in just in case or not.

Anyway all of you have a good day. Take care.

Justie

oh welsh lassie sounds like you're having a horrid time. Are you able to rest as much as possible? I know my pelvis is much worse if I'm on my feet a lot and that kind of pain really wears you down. I would highly recommend seeing a chiropractor (Mctimoney Corley or one specialising in pregnancy if you can but any chiro will be able to help) as without seeing mine I'd be a wreck with my pelvis. It's not very MSE as it's not cheap but the pay off for me is being human. This is a time to be looking after yourself as much as you can :grouphug:

Dormouse

Welshlassie wrote: »

I'm feeling really crap at the moment.

I know the hormones don't help and I'm suffering as I'm in pain with my pelvis and can't take any painkillers (although they have suggested tramodol, they turn me into a zombie), but surely I should be looking forward to the baby arriving to meet him/her not because I want him out of my body?

Aww, don't apologise for moaning (I've done my fair share on this thread ).

I bumped my car a few months ago - luckily it was just a fence that was the recipient of my crappy reversing skills :rolleyes: , so I know something like that can make you feel really bad, even when it's not your fault!

I've recently discovered what it's like to be a toddler! I seem to get the same tantrums due to tiredness and frustration as my 3-year-old DS :eek: :rotfl:

I also feel like I just want the baby out - yes I want to meet him too, but I also want my body back. I don't think I felt like this in my first pregnancy.

And yes, I've been mega hormonal, so I know what a pain that is. I've been snapping at DH and DS for no reason (and with good reason as well )

And you've got all the pain and discomfort to deal with - I can't even imagine what that would be like! :grouphug:

Bottom line, it's blooming hard being pregnant sometimes. *hugs*