MSE pregnancy club II

casperlarue

Hi emma_b just catching up on todays events....

I'm assuming you've been seen by a midwife who has told you you are 3cm dilated. Which way round is the baby? is it back to back because it sounds like the head isn't properly engaged which is what makes you dilate when you have a contraction. I'm surprised they havn't kept you in for monitoring to see how the baby is coping with this length of labour.

This is your first baby, right Don't just take what they say for granted, you are the only one who knows how you feel and you don't get a medal for just soldiering on in pain.

If you get to the stage that you really can't go on and the midwife is still telling you to wait, call an ambulance, they cannot turn you away.

Hugs for you x

Sheel

redflame705 wrote: »

What do you think of these fetal dopplers I've heard of?
Has any of you got one?
Would you recommend one?

Thanks

My younger daughter has borrowed one from her sis in law and used it last night , but could only hear her own heartbeat. She's not sure how many weeks pregnant she is though. She thought at first she was about 7-8 weeks , but is possibly about 11-12 :undecided The GP she saw yesterday examined her and said it felt right for about 12 weeks so I thought she'd be able to hear the heartbeat

I'll let you know if she has any success with it!

Felicity

Many, many congrats to Sarahmoons!!! Wooppidoo!!!!

Regarding the dopplers, some people advise you not to get them as some Mums panic when they dont pick up the heartbeat easily.

I took that on board and hired one anyway, being prepared that if I didn't hear the heartbeat it was very likely to be user error, not a problem with the baby. If you can accept that, I think they are a great idea.

I hired one for a month from ebay from approx 8 to 12 weeks and I heard the heartbeat everytime I tried - and I listened every night. It was a huge source of comfort to me and I would therefore recommend it to others, so long as you don't panic if you can't hear anything!!!!!!

ab7167

does anyone have any experience with SPD? My midwife has just diagnosed me with it (after several very painful days!), but as it was the drop in clinic, I didn't feel able to stick around and ask lots of questions.

Having got home, have googled it on the interweb, and managed to scare myself silly about possibilities.

I am a very active person normally, and very career focussed (this baby wasn't planned) and now suddenly I've been told that I will have to give up work weeks earlier than anticipiated, and will be practically housebound until the baby is born.

I have been sat here howling my eyes out, and don't really know where to turn. And I've been worrying about not really feeling maternal at all, which isn't helping. It's not that I don't want this baby, I really do, just that I have been working so hard that I don't seem to have had time to feel broody about it. And now everything has suddenly changed, and it's a bit hard to cope with all of a sudden.

I have another appointment with MW on Thursday, so hopefully more information will be forthcoming, and I'll probably get a physio referral.

Any advice? I'm not a bad person, just finding this a little hard to cope with at the moment.

Ali

Felicity

Oh ... and into my 37th week, I have got some stretchmarks appearing

I have been using biooil twice a day (and spending about 20 minutes rubbing it in and massaging / bonding with my baby) and drinking 3 litres of water every day so I don't believe there is anymore I could have done to prevent them.

I am obviously disappointed but my baby is safe and doing well and that is all that matters so I will just live with them and carry on with the biooil in the hope that it helps to reduce them.

Felicity

ab7167 wrote: »

does anyone have any experience with SPD? My midwife has just diagnosed me with it (after several very painful days!), but as it was the drop in clinic, I didn't feel able to stick around and ask lots of questions.

Having got home, have googled it on the interweb, and managed to scare myself silly about possibilities.

I am a very active person normally, and very career focussed (this baby wasn't planned) and now suddenly I've been told that I will have to give up work weeks earlier than anticipiated, and will be practically housebound until the baby is born.

I have been sat here howling my eyes out, and don't really know where to turn. And I've been worrying about not really feeling maternal at all, which isn't helping. It's not that I don't want this baby, I really do, just that I have been working so hard that I don't seem to have had time to feel broody about it. And now everything has suddenly changed, and it's a bit hard to cope with all of a sudden.

I have another appointment with MW on Thursday, so hopefully more information will be forthcoming, and I'll probably get a physio referral.

Any advice? I'm not a bad person, just finding this a little hard to cope with at the moment.

Ali

Hi.... I just replied on your other thread but in case you didn't see it ......

Hi, sorry to hear about your news.

I was diagnosed with SPD a few weeks ago and took some simple steps ie had basic physio, did excersies every night, made sure I wasn't parting my leg too often (ie getting in and out of bed), wore a maternity belt and now I am absolutely fine.

My SPD was so bad when it first kicked in that I was in hospital for 2 days as they thought the pain could be related to early labour (at 26 weeks).

I was really worried too but I am 36 weeks now and have no symptoms whatsoever.

So remember, there are varying degrees of symptoms and not everybody gets it too bad, there is also a lot you can do to help yourself.

I wish you all the best x

Felicity

Oh, and I also did all the research you have done at first and got myself in a real panic about it all. It CAN APPEAR to be bad and yes, some people will be housebound BUT NOT EVERYBODY and as I said, you can do a lot to help yourself.

Good look honey and please don't get too distressed about it. You will likely be fine. x

ab7167

My OH seems to think that it's my body telling me I have to slow down now. I live my life at a hundred miles an hour in all directions, we are massively under resourced at work, so I've been trying to do the job of 2 people - which is hard enough in 5 days, let alone 3 now I dropped to part time. And I only dropped to part time to use up some holiday, would have tried to go full time (or double time!) to 38 weeks if I'd had the chance!
I was cross country running until 26 weeks (am 30 weeks now), and swimming 60 lengths twice a week.

Maybe he is right. And the MW was horrified to learn that I was on a building site this morning checking the steelwork up a scaffold... as would OH if he found out about that, I'm not supposed to be using ladders.

Anyway, MW read me the riot act about taking things a bit easier, which is part of the shock I guess, she really laid it on thick (which I richly deserved, really)

I've worked so hard to get where I have in my career, and I know it will never be quite the same again, especially as construction is pretty male dominated. I do feel some resentment towards my baby, especially as he wasn't planned, and now to be told that I am probably going to have to take it a lot easier than I am used to just compounds the feeling of helplessness.

But thanks for the reassurance about the SPD, I was reading horror stories of ending up in a wheelchair, symptoms for 2 years after the birth, caesarian sections, you name it - I paniced! Here's hoping for a mild case, and let the physio and chiropractor sort it out....

Ali

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Hi guys,

Congrats to the Sarahmoon family woo hoo!!

I was just about to run a bath for first time in an age ( i normally shower!) as I have backache but all my radox and sanctuary stuff has essential oils in it. I am very sad as was looking forward to relaxing in a bublly bath - any idea if it will be OK??? I have this http://www.thesanctuary.co.uk/Foaming_Bath_Soak.htm and it says essential oil (patouli or summat I left it upstairs in a sulk).

Curious_George_2

congrats to sarahmoon and family! (family? .... isnt that us now? lol)
and Emma, dont know what to say except keep in contact with the maternity ward, tell them by the time you get into established labour your going to be too exhausted to push!

my sister in laws water broke this morning (her EDD is this friday) she is still at home, dont think she is contracting... but those waters have definitely gone which means it can only be another day or so til they get to meet the baby....

im not jealous..... (much)