MSE pregnancy club II

SeptemberBaby_2

My SIL announced her own pregnancy over the weekend and to my complete surprise I felt quite resentful!!! Ours is the first grandchild on both sides so I think I kind of liked all the special attention and I really felt as though she had stole our thunder!

I felt so guilty about feeling that way but after it sunk in I realised we will be auntie and uncle for the first time and our baby will have a cousin. I really hope its my hormones as I'm not such a jealous person (not even when friends announced their pregnancies after I M/C'd last year). Please someone tell me I'm 'normal' and not a horrible person!!!

x

daphne_descends

You sound normal to me... at 8 weeks pregnant I was quite angry when a colleague told me she was 14 weeks! I thought it was downright rude of her to be honest and I sulked for a few days. Then I realised that she'd been wanting this for so long and she told me how worried she'd been, about her age and so on, I felt so bad, had a good cry, and I couldn't be happier for her now. I love having someone to talk with who understands, with the same fears as me, and someone who 'gets' why the tiny things are so exciting - non pregnant people seem to glaze over after a bit...

I'm not a jealous person either so I really hope that was down to hormones

Justie

it's the hormones it'll all be fine September


anyone got any advice on how to deal with sore ribs? Baby is big enough now that I'm getting kicked under the ribs which while uncomfortable is only occasional but the extra pressure of the bump and all the organs under my ribs is making them quite sore - not helped by my bad posture which means that the distance from my boobs to my bump is almost non-existent :rolleyes:

Valentine_x

SeptemberBaby wrote: »

My SIL announced her own pregnancy over the weekend and to my complete surprise I felt quite resentful!!! Ours is the first grandchild on both sides so I think I kind of liked all the special attention and I really felt as though she had stole our thunder!

I felt so guilty about feeling that way but after it sunk in I realised we will be auntie and uncle for the first time and our baby will have a cousin. I really hope its my hormones as I'm not such a jealous person (not even when friends announced their pregnancies after I M/C'd last year). Please someone tell me I'm 'normal' and not a horrible person!!!

x

fac73 wrote: »

You sound normal to me... at 8 weeks pregnant I was quite angry when a colleague told me she was 14 weeks! I thought it was downright rude of her to be honest and I sulked for a few days. Then I realised that she'd been wanting this for so long and she told me how worried she'd been, about her age and so on, I felt so bad, had a good cry, and I couldn't be happier for her now. I love having someone to talk with who understands, with the same fears as me, and someone who 'gets' why the tiny things are so exciting - non pregnant people seem to glaze over after a bit...

I'm not a jealous person either so I really hope that was down to hormones

This happened to me too ladies - my sis in law announced she was 5 weeks pregnant the night we did the test - we didn't tell anyone until 12/13 weeks - then we were at pains to stress that we were already pregnant when we found out about them and hadn't done it to 'keep up with the Joneses", if you see what I mean!

Also, when I was about 20+ weeks, a colleague who sits very near me announced she was 17 weeks pregnant. I felt all the same things - jealousy, rage that I wasn't 'special anymore and stupidly annoyed that she'd kept it to herself for so long! What I was feeling was unreasonable so I took myself in check and now I'm loving having a pregnant friend to talk to every day at work - helps pass the time.

Love

Valentine xxx

Welshlassie

My sister did this to me, but she got pregnant deliberately so I wasn't the centre of attention. I was gutted, especially as 3 weeks before she annonced she was pregnant I told her I didn't want anything further to do with her. She is 10 weeks behind me and I haven't seen or heard from her since. She isn't in a relationship, has no job and no house so not the ideal situation to be bringing a child into this world.

My SIL on the other hand is 12 weeks pregnant and I have known she was pg since she was 5 weeks and I am thrilled. She was worried about telling me because of what had happened with my sister, but we had discussed it before hand and I'd told her I would love to have her pregnant with me at the same time. She is married to a wonderful man, is just about to graduate and has a job secured and has her own house, so a totally different situation. Although I did think I would feel a bit of jealously it's been so lovely having someone I can share symptoms with and have someone who asks be if things are normal as she experiences them, I've not felt an jealously at all (expect for the fact she is getting minimal morning sickness and I had it until 24 weeks).

I'm sure the hormones had a huge effect on my reaction to hearing about my sister, but I'm so over it now, especially as my parents are struggling to accept the prospect of her becoming a mother and I'm getting as much if not more attention than I was before she annonced her news. She has just shot herself in the foot.

Dormouse

Aww SeptemberBaby, it is normal and no you're not a horrible person *hugs*. I think we've all been in that situation...

My worst one was when I wasn't even pregnant and couldn't blame it on the hormones *hangs head in shame*! My SIL, who's a single mum, announced she was pregnant by a new boyfriend (not first child's dad), when our DS was about 2.5 and we were vaguely planning on getting pregnant again, so it really annoyed me that she got there before me, and we had to give her all the baby stuff that I'd kept for our future baby (we'd get it back, of course). More than anything, it annoyed me that we are the stable married couple who plan things, and here was her, getting pregnant by accident, again, and getting all the attention. :rolleyes:

It's fine now - as you say, it's nice for the baby to have a little cousin to play with. (My SIL still drives me up the wall with her antics - neither of her kids' dads are around now, and her life is just a complete mess, but that's another story :rolleyes:)

Curious_George_2

im sort of on the other side of this...
my OH and i stopped taking precautions in october of last year and didnt tell anyone, well some time in january we found out that my brother and his finace were pregnant (thier first)
they live 300 miles away and the rest of the family is near where we live,
well we all travelled down there for the wedding in feb and officially i got pregnant the week after!
so im about 6 weeks behind her and i worried that they would think im a thunder stealer even though we had no idea they were trying and they had no idea we were!
although she did sound very happy when she found out and we do have some good baby related email chats... i do think that the jealousy will hit her when she realises they are so far away and we wont see their baby often and we wont get to know it as well as the family will know mine... as we are right here.

emma_b_4

hi all, i am going to portugal tomoro for my honeymoon and im now 25 weeks pregnant
just wandered if anyone had any holiday advice or tips for me being preg and travelling?
can i take snacks through check in? we havent flown since last year and security has tightened i think?
also, daft question maybe but i have read several times that the sea and pools in portugal are freeeeeeeeeeezing... am i okay going in, slowly, or will it shock baby?! i know i cant go in hot pools or jacuzzis etc and thought does same apply for cool water? hope not!
i have got factor 15 suncream and will take care in sun and drink plenty

any thing else i should know????

thankyou in advance!

Curious_George_2

dont forget, if your not allowed to drink the water over there that includes ice cubes in your drinks!
people always forget that!

have fun!

emma_b_4

should i also avoid salads then too as they will have washed in their own water?