MSE pregnancy club II

jtotheb

Hey! we're not all bad, ladies....

Justie

jtotheb wrote: »

Hey! we're not all bad, ladies....

you're the exception that proves the rule :rotfl:


hugs agutka it'll all work out in the end... and I've only just persuaded my OH that picking up the cot mattress etc at 37 1/2 weeks is a good idea... he still thinks there's no rush.



quick SPD query - baby is now at least 3/5 engaged and I'm getting more general pelvic aches but also the odd sharp pain in the crotch. The worst thing though is my bum - I'm sure it's not piles but the pain is more in the bum than at the front and is worst when sitting and standing (the inch or so before and after sitting on the chair) and also sometimes when walking - I presume this is pelvic related?? I had pain in that sort of region earlier on in pregnancy when my pelvis was bad but not as often or as much. I've resisted the urge to walk around clutching my !!!!.... just :rotfl:

Agutka

Hello everyone... Feeling much better. Have a kitchen designed, bought a fridge freezer and the bathroom is nearly ready to be ordered. And NOW he has opinions :rotfl:. Ho hum. Sorry about before, but it feels soooo good to get it off one's chest.
My parents are just extremely worried that my baby will be in danger if the carpets aren't replaced, but this won't last long as they are currently buying a house of their own, so maybe the meddling will ease.
OH said 'I love you' three times at lunchtime which I ignored, as was still in 'not talking to you' mood. Sensed it did he? :rolleyes:

Welshlassie - How you suffer, I must go back to the relevant posts and find out who it was who told you 'any day now' all those weeks ago. That should not be allowed. I hope you get some good sleep soon.
Justie - all the pregnancy ailments were getting to me, new one every week, but I have recently realised that I've still got 8 weeks, give or take, to go and all sorts await. Just as you're pointing out, they never stop coming at yah. I say, just hold your !!! and be done with it :rotfl:
Pink Princess 1 - I had my scan on time, but didn't get to see the midwife until I was nearly 15 weeks. With hindsight there was no point to it anyway, so don't worry. As long as someone takes your blood...
Fac, you're so sweet, thank you!

And congrats to all the new pregnancies and mothers. Such a whirlwind of activity. What a great club.:T

Dormouse

I've seen the MW today - one of my usual 3-minute appointments. :rolleyes: She's lovely and all that, but I do wish the appointments would last a bit longer.

My next appointment is in two weeks - I thought they see you every week in late pregnancy, but obviously not. Not that I'm missing out on much. :rolleyes:

With DS, this was the last time I saw the MW, so I'm determined not to make it to the next appointment :rotfl:

Dormouse

Agutka wrote: »

Welshlassie - I must go back to the relevant posts and find out who it was who told you 'any day now' all those weeks ago. That should not be allowed.

I might have been one of those people :whistle: *hangs head in shame*

Well, I was only pointing out that I had DS within 48 hours of having a show... Just goes to show how unpredictable pregnancies are. :rolleyes:

*goes into hiding*

Agutka

Dormouse wrote: »

I might have been one of those people :whistle: *hangs head in shame*

I thought more along the lines of a midwife... But if it was you then go stand in a corner

Goodness, I hope I don't give birth early! I'd hate for the builder decorator and his army to witness that!

123money

im 40 weeks and 5 days today cant wait to have baby now

jbbonce

newleafer wrote: »

We dont know if we want to know the sex or not!

Theres the well I really want a girl so if I find out its a boy I can adjust to it, but then I think will I just be disappointed ( I know people say if its healthy your happy, I know thats true but I've wanted a girl all my life) so if I wait til the birth I'll have the baby in my arms and it wont matter.

Then If we know will we be able to keep it to ourselves? (especilly if its a boy as FIL will gloat like mad)

And then there's the whole it would ge nice to have the surprise.

I can see from some posts that some know and some dont, why are you chossing to know or not know?

I found out the sex of my baby at the 20 wk scan on Friday. I had convinced myself we were having a boy, and tbh, i wanted a boy at the time. When i found out at the scan that the baby is a girl, I was a bit shocked. after a couple of seconds i decided that it was great news and am now over the moon that it's a girl, but there were a couple of ominously silent seconds.

I think if you have strong feelings as to the sex you want, it is a good idea to find out, because if you find out the baby is not the gender you hoped for at 20 weeks, you can laugh at how wrong you were, and get yourself excited about the baby you are going to have.

I think if i had the same shocked reaction at the birth, with all the stress of that and the possiblity of the baby blues, i might have considered myself a bad mum and possibly had bonding issues.

Also, knowing in advance gives the relatives a chance to get the old 'oh, another girl in the family' disappointed sighs out of the way before the birth.

The other good thing about knowing the sex is that you can buy baby clothes in the sales for a year ahead, and you can call the baby by its name if you have chosen one already. We have!

But on the other hand, it must be amazing to hear "it's a girl" or "it's a boy" on the day.

Curious_George_2

jbbonce wrote: »

But on the other hand, it must be amazing to hear "it's a girl" or "it's a boy" on the day.

the midwife who delivered my DD wouldnt tell me,
she was determined i had to find out for myself and refused to say anything but "see for yourself" when i asked (because i obviously couldnt see, or i wouldnt have been asking) it REALLY annoyed me!
ive seen midwives on the tv do it aswell, some poor woman on a baby prog i was watching had to ask 5 times what sex her baby was and the midwife was so determined that she should look for herself i bet it ruined the first few seconds of being a mum,
im pretty sure they do it to help with 'bonding' but to be honest, if i could have got up i would have wee-ed in her shoe and rubbed her nose in it.

we found out because firstly my DD is/was convinced that its a boy and on the off chance it had of been a girl i wanted time to get her used to the idea,
she will have been an only child for 7 1/2 years when the baby arrrives and i didnt want the first impression she got of her potential sister to be dissapointment,
and secondly... well, they dont tell you the sex at the hospital scans where i live,
it bugged me that the midwives at the 21 week scan knew what we were having and we didnt, such an important bit of info... they knew and we didnt, and it didnt seem right!
plus... im difficult like that, you tell me i cant... i bloody well will if i want! lol

Agutka

We wanted a boy, we felt we were having a boy, we named a boy. Yet when the sonographer said 'probably a boy' at the scan I was really disappointed . No idea why. Funny how you react.
But anyway, getting semi ready for a boy (as she wasn't sure) and am getting scared it will be a girl. Scared because the clothes are blue, but at the end of the day I wouldn't mind either way. So it will be a nice surprise either way. Funny, after the whole hoohah of shall we find out shan't we... we still don't really know. So I get best of both worlds - found out at the scan and will get a surprise on the day :rolleyes: