MSE pregnancy club II

jenpoptab

Welsh lassie- thinking of you- hope all is well and you have got some sleep, take care.

Agutka

Right that's it, I want a divorce.
OH is really getting me down. My mother, of all people, has organised a builder to come and re-decorate our entire house. I have to decide on and order the bathroom and kitchen. All by myself and in the next few days!! And I hate making decisions as it is. OH just says 'whatever' to everything, showing no interest in anything at all. The house is a tip, I can't do anything for long and I'm all cried out.
He has set himself up with a piggy bank and is collecting pound coins for a mystery spend 'to treat himself', which is also where a recent large bonus he received from work is going. I thought he's spend it on something we wanted, which was a camcorder to record baby, but alas that's not going to happen. I'm having to pick stuff up for baby from freecycle and carboots. And even then I get told off 'do we really need all this?'.
I have my good days, but then I have days where I am sooo upset, which of course goes unnoticed or commented on like I'm grumpy. And God forbid I should ask him to do anything, like take a heavy rubbish bag out. That would be nagging.
And this is my birthing partner??
I swear he's going through a midlife crisis. All we need now is an affair. And to think at our last NCT meeting he thought marriages are stronger after baby!

Who can tell I'm having a bad day?

daphne_descends

Agutka :grouphug:, sent you a PM. Men :mad: :mad: :mad: mothers :mad: :mad: :mad:

caleo

newleafer wrote: »

We dont know if we want to know the sex or not!

I can see from some posts that some know and some dont, why are you chossing to know or not know?

Hi Newleafer!!! I think it is a very individual thing. Really difficult to make the decision one way or another. I have never found out with any of mine. I love all the anticipation and excitement of waiting to find out! When friends of mine have had babies, I was more excited when the sex wasn't known, than when we knew what was arriving.
Not an easy decision though!!

Welshlassie:grouphug: for you!!! Get on going with that Wii!!!! Try and get some rest too, just in case!! Hope you managed to get back to sleep! Are you seeing your MW again soon?

Caleox

alison6692

Pink_Princess_1 wrote: »

Hi, This is my 1st post tho I have been reading the threads with interest... Im 7 weeks gone with my 2nd (But as my daughter is nearly 14 I feel like a first timer lol) anyway my appointment with my midwife is not till sept 11??? I will be about 12 weeks then and as the receptionist seemed to think this was ok I didnt like to question it... isnt this a bit far on to be having first appointment? any advise would be great:p

Hiya

Yep its the same in Southampton - I have not seen a midwife yet. Its does seem like a long time I know but I suppose if you had problems in the mean time you could ask your GP.

Congratulations xxx:j

Alison x

caleo

Agutka - :grouphug: I am too shocked to say anything else - the first thing that springs to mind would not be allowed on the board, I am sure!!!!!!!

CaleoX

Pink_Princess_1

Thanks, everything is sooo different this time round by 10 weeks last time I had already had a scan. This sight is great there is so much info and advise and it will be great to follow every1's progress:p are you about the same as me Alison- think my due date is about 25th march x

caleo

Pink_Princess_1 wrote: »

Hi, This is my 1st post tho I have been reading the threads with interest... Im 7 weeks gone with my 2nd (But as my daughter is nearly 14 I feel like a first timer lol) anyway my appointment with my midwife is not till sept 11??? I will be about 12 weeks then and as the receptionist seemed to think this was ok I didnt like to question it... isnt this a bit far on to be having first appointment? any advise would be great:p

:T Congratulations!!!! I had a 9 year gap between my first and second......and because it was my 2nd baby, they seemed to think I was okay to manage!!! This time only 20 months gap, so I don't mind lol!

They tend not to be too concerned about seeing you quickly, like they used to. My appt was made for 7 weeks by my GP, then the MW changed it to when I was 11 weeks, as she was busy and had to fit other later pregnancies in. I was upset, as I had had a previous miscarriage, so they kindly offered to give me an early scan for reassurance.

I think that as long as you can still have your 12 week scan at the right time, seeing the MW doesn't really make much difference. They only relly take details etc.

I felt quite isolated with my 2nd pregnancy, because like you, it was a long time since the last one, and the MW seems to be so much less nowadays!!!

Your older child must be sooooooo excited!!!!

CaleoX

scruffy96uk

CG congrats on the scan and think 2 for the price of 1 can't get more moneysaving than that!!

Welshlassie I hope you have managed to get some kip and to get to your hydro session!! Hope kitty is on the mend.

Agutka (((((((hugs))))))

Pinkprincess 1 congrats to you, 12 weeks does seema bit long to wait but i think it really depends on the area you live in!!

Hope we are all well today
P x

Dormouse

:grouphug: Agutka... Is there any chance the 'mystery spend' is going to be something to do with the baby or you after all? Maybe this is his stupid male way of keeping a secret? :rolleyes:

As for being useless and saying 'whatever' to everything, I would imagine we've all been there - men! :rolleyes: :mad:

And I so know what you mean by hating to make decisions - I'm rubbish at making decisions at the best of times, let alone when I'm heavily pregnant, emotional and tired.

Just give him a slap. He'll behave when it really matters - like during the birth!