Need a little advice re gold digger

getridgolddigger

Long time lurker, occassional poster under another ID, created this ID for this situation.
Having to be a little vague here as I do not want to upset my parent more than I have already have.
My dad meet a woman who is an EU citizen but not from the same country as him. They meet less than a year ago and within three weeks she told him that she was moving in and did so while he was not in that country against his wishes, she talked him round when he returned to the house. He has now announced that he is going to marry her. Myself and siblings are worried that she is just after his money. We have told our father this and he denies it but they then moved the wedding from next year to this. My sibling wants to get something done so that if our father does pass away we have paperwork ready to stop her taking his money.

geri1965_2

It will be up to him if he leaves his money to her or not. How old is he?

elsien

This is coming across that you're not bothered about helping your dad now, just worried about getting your hands on his money after he's gone. Nice.

NAR

You could advise him to make a will as soon as he is married. However what he puts in the will is for him to decide alone!

tizerbelle

getridgolddigger wrote: »

Long time lurker, occassional poster under another ID, created this ID for this situation.
Having to be a little vague here as I do not want to upset my parent more than I have already have.
My dad meet a woman who is an EU citizen but not from the same country as him. They meet less than a year ago and within three weeks she told him that she was moving in and did so while he was not in that country against his wishes, she talked him round when he returned to the house. He has now announced that he is going to marry her. Myself and siblings are worried that she is just after his money. We have told our father this and he denies it but they then moved the wedding from next year to this. My sibling wants to get something done so that if our father does pass away we have paperwork ready to stop her taking his money.

Sorry but it is none of your business.

He's an adult.
It's his money.
He can spend it or be fleeced of it anyway he chooses.

It sounds like you and your sibling(s) are only worried about your inheritance.

All you can do it talk calmly and rationally to your father and without insulting his chosen partner give him information about protecting his assets / pre-nuptial agreements etc etc. If he chooses not to listen then you have to respect that decision and let him be.

Person_one

Are you worried that she's after his money, or what you already consider to be your money.

Your dad could leave it all to the donkey sanctuary if he wants, none of your business.

Bazey

How old is she and is she hot? I'll be prepared to set up a honey trap if she is under 40, size 8 and preferably hungarian/ukrainien.

Any

Sorry love, the "inheritance" is completely and absolutely not inheritance until he is dead, and until that happens it is just MONEY, something he head earned and he has every right to do with as he wishes.
It is not something for you to do something with "to protect it".
I suggest you back off, both of you, and give her a chance to prove herself either way. She might turn out to be loving wife and step mother that looks after you all!!
And from personal experience I can tell you that if she is such a lovely person, you and your sibling immediately doubting her from the start and being nasty about her will never ever bring this out in her and make your father hate you too. For doubting his without argument greater life experience and knowledge!

Your post suggest only 1 golddigger.... and it is not your step mum to be!!

Joons

elsien wrote: »

This is coming across that you're not bothered about helping your dad now, just worried about getting your hands on his money after he's gone. Nice.

No it doesn't, it sounds like they are trying to protect their father and yes, their inheritence, what's wrong with that?

Person_one

Joons wrote: »

No it doesn't, it sounds like they are trying to protect their father and yes, their inheritence, what's wrong with that?

You don't think its a little hypocritical to accuse somebody else of being a gold digger when your motivation is getting your hands on exactly the same 'gold' yourself?

floss2

Joons wrote: »

No it doesn't, it sounds like they are trying to protect their father and yes, their inheritence, what's wrong with that?

But it is not their money - it is their father's money, for him to fritter, give or save away as HE wishes.