Need a little advice re gold digger

Any

Joons wrote: »

No it doesn't, it sounds like they are trying to protect their father and yes, their inheritence, what's wrong with that?

Their inheritance??? Really?? I think you will find that inheritance is not "yours" until a person dies and you are legally the one to get said person's money.. until then there is no inheritance!! And definitely not "your" inheritance.

Joons

Person_one wrote: »

You don't think its a little hypocritical to accuse somebody else of being a gold digger when your motivation is getting your hands on exactly the same 'gold' yourself?

I think the OP is being honest and if we all were in the same situation, we'd have exactly the same concerns, and why shouldn't we.

floss2

FWIW, my in-laws have already promised their sons an inheritance...of all their debts, as they intend spending their savings on themselves.

Joons

Any wrote: »

Their inheritance??? Really?? I think you will find that inheritance is not "yours" until a person dies and you are legally the one to get said person's money.. until then there is no inheritance!! And definitely not "your" inheritance.

Yes in this politically correct forum but we would all be thinking what the OP is, fact.

thehappybutterfly

Do you really want your dad to live the rest of his life on his own, all alone apart from, I'm assuming, adult children who are mentally spending his wordly possessions? Are you so driven by money? Let your Dad enjoy his twilight years with a new love and stop worrying about something that might never happen.

The more you harangue him, the more likely he is to change his will. I know I would if I thought the vultures were circling.

Joons

Person_one wrote: »

You don't think its a little hypocritical to accuse somebody else of being a gold digger when your motivation is getting your hands on exactly the same 'gold' yourself?

Nope, I doubt his children are gold diggers, she's never mentioned inheritence, if you read her post they are worried this woman is going to take advantage of their dad, she's moved in without his knowledge in less than a year of knowing him. Tbh, if dad is daft enough to leave everything to her and not his children then he's an idiot.

Any

Joons wrote: »

I think the OP is being honest and if we all were in the same situation, we'd have exactly the same concerns, and why shouldn't we.

Very often the children "expect" inheritance, and believe it is their right to their parents money even though often it is not them, but the first (mum/dad) partner and then later the second one that shared life with them.
They shared the love, the troubles, the money, the bills, the debts, the bed changing, the adult nappy changing, the nurse sorting, the machine off switching...
Money does not automatically belong to a child just because parent gave them life.
Parent deserves a life and love and care until the moment he dies, not only until the moment the partner dies and then from then on the surviving parent have to penny pinch and not set up new life only to protect children's "inheritance".

If he wants OP to have the money, he will arrange it.

NAR

Joons wrote: »

Yes in this politically correct forum but we would all be thinking what the OP is, fact.

Rubbish, my father left me nothing, my mother may or may not leave me something (her choice), but I am a self-made man relying on no one else other than my OH (as we should all strive to be and do IMHO).

thehappybutterfly

Excellent post Any!

Any

Joons wrote: »

Yes in this politically correct forum but we would all be thinking what the OP is, fact.

I do agree that sometimes this forum is too politically correct and everyone here is hollier then though (sp??), but in this situation I disagreee, I would not be thinking that. I have step mother from Ukraine and I never thought off my father's money. That might be because I never ever expected any, as he is not rich and his health is not greatest so I would have never expected to be any left over anyway if I thought about it. I was also brought up to be completely self sufficient and not wait for hand outs to sort my life out.
My father had given me everything he had the first 18 years of my life, to bring me up, and now it is his term to life a life of Riley.
If that means he spends every penny he has to get a kiss and cuddle from someone every night, so be it!