Need a little advice re gold digger

peachyprice

Joons wrote: »

No it doesn't, it sounds like they are trying to protect their father and yes, their inheritence, what's wrong with that?

What is wrong with that is that the man is still alive, his wealth does not become their interitance until he dies, it's not theirs to protect.

If he wants to spend every penny he has on a Ukranian floosie and die a happy man, that's his choice, it's his money, his life, not theirs to have an opinion on.

getridgolddigger

My father is 60+ with a degerative mental disease which affect his personality.
The money has never been considered mine, I was told as a young teenager that all the money would be going to my younger sibling and that I was on my own, so I'm not after the money.
She is 50/60 and in no way a looker but neither is my father.
She has done a few things that I can't explain without making it very clear who we are, but were very hurtful to other members of our family.
Please don't get me wrong I already have step relations who are lovely.
I just want to protect my dad as he says one thing when she is not there and another when she is. She's already made me unwelcome in his home and I feel I am loosing him as my dad.

peachyprice

Joons wrote: »

I think the OP is being honest and if we all were in the same situation, we'd have exactly the same concerns, and why shouldn't we.

Nope, you seem to be in a minority of one here.

Daisy70

peachyprice wrote: »

Nope, you seem to be in a minority of one here.

Make that two. The OP is simply looking out for their Dad. I would do the same.

Any

getridgolddigger wrote: »

My father is 60+ with a degerative mental disease which affect his personality.
The money has never been considered mine, I was told as a young teenager that all the money would be going to my younger sibling and that I was on my own, so I'm not after the money.
She is 50/60 and in no way a looker but neither is my father.
She has done a few things that I can't explain without making it very clear who we are, but were very hurtful to other members of our family.
Please don't get me wrong I already have step relations who are lovely.

In which case let your sibling deal with it and do not get involved!!
Be there for your father, NOT for your sibling who is worried about his/her inheritance.

balletshoes

How did she manage to move into your dads house when he wasnt there and allegedly didnt agree to it?

Joons

NAR wrote: »

Rubbish, my father left me nothing, my mother may or may not leave me something (her choice), but I am a self-made man relying on no one else other than my OH (as we should all strive to be and do IMHO).

In your opinion it's rubbish, in my opinion most of us would be thinking what the OP is, or at least I would so that's my opinion, whether you think it's rubbish is irrelevant to me.

Joons

peachyprice wrote: »

Nope, you seem to be in a minority of one here.

Doubt it, maybe I'm just being too honest. And if I am in the minority here, I think I can live with that.

Mojisola

getridgolddigger wrote: »

My father is 60+ with a degerative mental disease which affect his personality.

If this has been officially diagnosed and is serious enough, he may not be considered capable of agreeing to a marriage. How bad is he?

Person_one

Joons wrote: »

I think the OP is being honest and if we all were in the same situation, we'd have exactly the same concerns, and why shouldn't we.

Um, maybe you would...

My dad would be a lost soul if my mum went first. There's no way he'd ever be ok on his own. If somebody made him happy and treated him well in his final years, I wouldn't care where they were from or whether they were after his money.