Need a little advice re gold digger

Person_one

Joons wrote: »

If you think so, go for it.

Go for it? Its not even up to me, is it? Maybe you should talk to your daughter if you're ever actually in that position, you might be surprised at how she feels about her inheritance.

Joons

Rottensocks wrote: »

Based on what you say here, it is possibly worth contacting Social services? This will do nothing to save any money of his, but if you feel he is being influenced and forced into things it may be worth getting tehir advice, as he is vulnerable given his illness.

In terms of future finances, and decision about his health, do any of you have power of attorney? Alternatively, you can check and find out if anyone else has power of attorney too!

I doubt they will tell you very much, but perhaps contacting family GP would be of use also? It would concern me not in terms of inheritance, but if your father needed proper residential care due to his illness, he could be left with only basic government care package if "wifey" clears off with the cash.

I would be beside myself with worry if this was my parent: whether they had money or not.

Great post.

Mojisola

Joons wrote: »

I'm talking about my house, not a house jointly owned, it all depends on your circs but no way is my money going anywhere but my daughter's bank account, whether I get married or not.

Best not to get married then because it won't matter whose name the house is in - a widower/widow would have the legal right to challenge a will that left the marital home to someone else.

Joons

Person_one wrote: »

Go for it? Its not even up to me, is it? Maybe you should talk to your daughter if you're ever actually in that position, you might be surprised at how she feels about her inheritance.

I answered the question in the dialogue it was set, stupid.

Thanks, myself and my daughter are dandy thanks.

getridgolddigger

Joons wrote: »

The head injury is worrying, you definitely need to try and talk to your dad to protect his assets etc, have you actually had any kind of conversation about it?

Yes we have many times. To start with he was going to write a will, then he said he was not marrying her so no need to write a will and now you can't talk to him without her butting in. She screams at him to give her the phone and then talks to you so you can't get a word in and then ends the call. I am seeing him soon, he's bringing her to see us, chance of talking to him alone is expected to be low.

Joons

Mojisola wrote: »

Best not to get married then because it won't matter whose name the house is in - a widower/widow would have the legal right to challenge a will that left the marital home to someone else.

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Thanks re the advice getting married, think I can manage that decision myself.

Under Scots Law, whether I get married or not, my daughter's inheritence is well protected.

Joons

getridgolddigger wrote: »

Yes we have many times. To start with he was going to write a will, then he said he was not marrying her so no need to write a will and now you can't talk to him without her butting in. She screams at him to give her the phone and then talks to you so you can't get a word in and then ends the call. I am seeing him soon, he's bringing her to see us, chance of talking to him alone is expected to be low.

NO wonder you are worried, she sounds really scary, you need to get time on your own with your dad and possibly a legal expert too, I think the sooner you see him the better, sounds like she is controlling his every move.

Person_one

Joons wrote: »

I answered the question in the dialogue it was set, stupid.

Well aren't you a delight.

Any

getridgolddigger wrote: »

My calls to him go unanswered. Sorry but he lives in another country so I can't pop down and see him as I please. I wish I could. I email regulary, send him DVD's of his grandchildren doing activities that he missed and email photo's, but she has control of his email account so I do not know if he gets them.

Sometimes life gets into a point where if you really care 2 mins phone call is not enough.
If you really want to know the situation, how bad he is and if there are concerns to be had you need to see him.
Either getting him here, or you there.

Also you need to consider the laws of both countries if he is resident there and also plans to get married there.

If you are calling her gold digger without ever actually having proper time spent with her and voicing your concerns in such a clumsy way as you are here (that everyone things you are only interested in money), no wonder he is not very sharing with you...

If you are so concerned she doesn't even let him read your emails, how the hell do you think he is going to pass you message that he even needs help if he does?????

elsien

Your drip feeding of info doesn't help with getting sensible answers either. Has he always lived where he does now? As if he was considered well enough after his head injury to choose to up sticks and move abroad, he's quite possibly well enough to choose who to marry.
Plus we can't advise on laws and sources of advice in other countries, if we don't know what the country is.