Internet dating issue

FBaby

Loulou, I do agree with you, I too was put off by men who came on too strong. It wasn't like that with my partner, we didn't declare our love for each other on the first date (nor the many following!), we did talk about being an item then, I didn't even get more than a peck on the cheek after our first date that lasted no longer than 2 hours in the afternoon! I didn't expect him to come off the dating site, but I was hoping he would!

I think it also very much depends on our age. We were in our late 30s early 40s, very different attitude to dating than when you're in your early 20s!

smudger1964

Joons wrote: »

I do get all that, I do possess some common sense thanks. The point I was making was he'd messaged this lady again not even realising he'd already spoken with her on another site, that's normal behaviour is it?

I have had many dates and some relationships from dating sites..yes it does happen had a couple of ladies contact me even though we had been out on a first date saying hi I like your profile..All I had done was change my photo..I just reminded them not only had they liked my pictures and profile before but we had been out for a drink ..Think they were both kind of embarrassed..So its not only the fellas that dont remember who they have contacted or even been out on a date with ..

Treevo

FBaby wrote: »

Thankfully you are wrong My man had no interest at all in playing the field. He resorted to dating site to meet someone because his line of work and activities meant he had very opportunities to meet women. I was the first and only woman he contacted, first date and he cancelled his membership! I am though indeed very special....but so is he

How perfectly lovely.

carolpinkdreamer

I suspect that the OP will not listen to this advice and will contact him again anyway. Hope she lets us know how it goes x

bitemebankers

Person_one wrote: »

Of course people (of both genders) decide to focus on just one person sometimes. That's how the relationships progress, otherwise everyone would just stay on the sites forever.

All I'm saying is, that process takes time. More than one date, for most people anyway. In the meantime, chances are you'll be in touch with other people too. And, heaven forbid, if you find each other mutually attractive, you might sleep together. I don't see why being single means you shouldn't get laid - that goes equally for both sexes. It may take a whole to find 'the one' but we all have needs...

sisbod

BMB you said it so well! And before anyone thinks I am completely rampant Im 53 and bored of not having someone to share even simple things

Dating is an unknown quantity especially on line!
I know that for me it is a case of difficulty meeting and then chatting up a man. I find online dating a little easier however there are some weird ones out there! It all seemed a little simpler when we were younger - nowadays I am petrified to make a move on someone in case it is seen as sexual harassment at least online everyone is upfront to be approached!! :j
In the mean time mutually attracted dates that fulfill our individual needs are only the same as the age-old dreaded one night stands only this time you have a little prior knowledge!!! :cool: Oh those happy halcyon days - not!!!