Frugal Frump to Fab-u-lous Spring Equinox to Summer Solstice

podperson

Morning all,

LL - so sorry to hear about your mum, we had a similar issue with my grandma, because she was having some mental issues and getting quite confused they kept trying to put her in full blown dementia wards - she was still lucid a lot of the time and liked being able to have a chat with the people in the common rooms etc. There just seems to be no middle ground - either you're in the full blown dementia ward or you need to be able to be completely 'with it' and a lot of the elderly are just somewhere inbetween. Good to hear that your OH's place is willing to help - I really hope that your dad manages to calm down a bit and see that you are actually trying to help. I guess he must be worried and upset but very unfair of him to take it out on you. As Bitsy says try and find a little time for yourself, even if it's just 10 mins or half an hour, to try and relax and re-centre.
Good news on the house though

Anyway, not been feeling too fab this week - seem to be really tired all the time and struggling a bit for motivation. Not the best thing when I have piles of stuff to do!
Was saying to work today that needed to go through the quarter end with the new girl next week and he just said not to bother as it's just going to go over her head and they'll probably have to pass it back to the accountants! *sighs* so really they've given up on her being able to do my job and are just giving her the basic tasks so no reason why I couldn't have stayed on part time and they could have got someone in to do that the rest of the time :mad: I'm probably better off out of it. Nothing new on the job front, the odd Chinese people I talked about have offered for me to start - they wanted me to come in this week but have put them off for a fortnight so I do have that if it comes down to it. At least they seem really laid back, I'm just hoping that doesn't mean they're too laid back when it comes to regular hours, paying on time etc. Still, it's better than nothing at the moment.
Hope everyone is having a good day x

lessonlearned

Thanks for all your kind thoughts.

Yes I have told Dad not to talk to me like that, he's then apologetic and contrite but then he forgets and he does it all over again.

I shouldn't really expect anything else because I've had it from him all of my life. Most of the time I didn't need to take it and I could just walk away - and did.......However, I can't do that just now because I have to help both of them and just get things sorted. Thank goodness I have my fab sister - we support and encourage each other - an pick up the phone and let off steam now and then.

Anyway he has calmed down for now;) and has agreed to visit OH's home. My sister has found what she thinks is a nice place nearer to where both she and dad live. So I shall take him to see both on Friday. He can make the final choice. Ideally the one that is nearer so it makes visiting much easier.

Hopefully the worst is nearly over and I can get my life back again. In the meantime I am pacing myself and deliberately taking time out to rest.

Both my sons are being incredibly helpful and supportive.I was only saying to a friend last night how good they are to me. My sons are my pride and joy - I guess you already sussed that. :rotfl:

Getting married and having those boys was the best decision I ever made in my life. To think after my divorce from husband no 1 I vowed never to marry again......:rotfl:

Pod - what a plonker your boss must be.:rotfl: He's letting you slip through his fingers whilst admitting the new girl can't cut the mustard. Idiot!!! I agree in the long term you probably are better off out of it. I can understand that you feel anxious about your future though. I hope you find some work soon - anything just to tide you over till you get your own projects into profitability.

Needless to say my own money making is right on the back burner.
Never mind I'm ok for now.

Technically the new house will be DS1's but it's a large rambling 4 bed property so we are all going to live together for a while. DS1 will benefit because we can help him out with living expenses and DS2 and I will benefit because it will slash our outgoings too.

A classic win-win scenario.

From there DS2 and I will continue to house hunt but the pressure will be off because we won't be forking out on rent. This house is fairly priced at a rent of £650 pcm but saving that each month will make a huge difference. I will be able to replenish the coffers quite quickly at that rate.:D

Anyway time to get fabbed up and see my darling OH.

Quite cold and cloudy here - was that the summer:rotfl:

podperson

lessonlearned wrote: »

Pod - what a plonker your boss must be.:rotfl: He's letting you slip through his fingers whilst admitting the new girl can't cut the mustard. Idiot!!! I agree in the long term you probably are better off out of it. I can understand that you feel anxious about your future though. I hope you find some work soon - anything just to tide you over till you get your own projects into profitability.

He's come up to me today and asked if I had anything sorted out for when I leave yet. Said I had been offered some part time bits so was then saying we could maybe have a talk when the other boss is back next week. :rotfl: We shall see. If they want to offer me a few days a month or something then am not going to turn it down for the sake of it.

verynewmoneysaver

Sorry to read of everyone's problems especially Podperson and Lessonlearned. It's hard to find a good nursing home. The one Dad was in was supposed to be one of the best but it wasn't brilliant! I haven't been able to do much exercise lately on the fabbing front because I fell and hurt my back. It's a lot better but I don't feel I can go back to Zumba or pilates just yet!

WelshWoofer

LL - what a time you're having. Big hugs. xx
Pod - do you think your bosses have seen the light? It could all turn out well for you in the end after all? Fingers crossed.

Had a bonkers day of two halves today - all morning doing last minute revision and then supervising GCSE exams and then the afternoon with a group of adults with learning disabilities doing a bit of science which promptly turned in to a full blown disco! They had a whale of a time and I'm shattered! My school is great with community projects and the group visit every month for the afternoon to do different activities and meet up socially. Its hard work but very rewarding.

Fling news - he's still very keen and I must admit that I am too We've seen each other quite a bit now and it seems to be hotting up a bit, will just see how it goes but I'm very happy at the moment.:)

I'm going to do a bit of routine fabbing tonight to get me in as a good a state as possible ready for tomorrow's soiree!;)

evilsquid1603

LL - im so sorry to hear what you are going through. a lady at work is having a nightmare with the system at the moment too as her dad has been in hospital and they are at their wits end trying to find him somewhere as they've all finally agreed that him coming home isn't for the best anymore.

Pod - it sounds like your work are being very silly! no doubt they will know it once you leave them!

WW - good news on the fling!

im getting my name off the house tenancy with ExOH, think hes finally twigged that i still have a key to his house if he doesnt! got to nip over to the lettings agents on saturday to finalise it and hand my key back. just need to get the divorce sent off now!

people still cant believe how calm and together i am, every time something like this happens they seem to think ill just end up loosing it despite my keep telling them that id really known deep down for a while that this was on the cards and it was more a "when" not "if" and i'd already done most of the dealing with it by the time i actually went.

fedupandskint

Fab news for me today was a run after work and despite thinking it was quite ploddy - it wasn't as I ran it a minute quicker - yeah!

Good luck house hunting and let's try and destress a little too with all that's going on right now - for me, work is quite a stressful place to be at present.

maman

Just a quick post as it's late but big hugs especially to you LL. I love this thread and what's happened today just shows that fabbing, although hugely important for self esteem, isn't just how we are on the outside but how we're coping with other issues too.

So glad to hear that OH's nursing home might be able to help out if only for the time being. I know you've not been 100% satisfied with it but at least you know the score there and you won't be stretched across the county visiting. I'm fortunate as I never had that situation with my parents but I feel for you.

Pod, it sounds as if your employers might be realising just what they're giving up. Maybe now they're ready to negotiate part time hours for you?

ww, delighted to hear you're so happy and the 'fling' is working out for you. Enjoy!!

:Tsparkles, you're doing brilliantly with your fitness and it seems a great antidote to rubbish at work.

evilsquid, friends may be surprised with your strength of mind. I'm not. You can do this and you're proving it.

Bitsy_Beans

podperson wrote: »

He's come up to me today and asked if I had anything sorted out for when I leave yet. Said I had been offered some part time bits so was then saying we could maybe have a talk when the other boss is back next week. :rotfl: We shall see. If they want to offer me a few days a month or something then am not going to turn it down for the sake of it.

It happened to my H last month, it could happen to you or maybe they will offer you a job share. Positive vibes its a step in the right direction for you xx

Meh, store mirrors. Are they designed deliberately to make you look your worst bought some clothes yesterday and in typical fashion the clothes from one store that fit ranged from a size 14 to a 16. In one store. Can they not size everything the same or something?! Very annoying. I also realised how awful my varicose veins look :( I have bought a denim pencil skirt but its time to do something about my legs. Thankfully no discomfort from veins but they look piggin ugly I can't afford to have any treatments so it will have to be supplements and creams for time being to see if they help.

I swear because I bought some summery clothes the sun has done a runner :mad: Thick cloud and cold breeze. Not feeling a happy bunny today

Anyway enough of my ramble off to get some jobs done.
Have a great day all

Sparkles sorry work is stressful for you xxx

WW enjoy the fling :D

Maman I second your comments :T

podperson

Morning all,

LL - new house sounds like it will be great for you all and save you some money to boot, hope it all goes through ok.

very - sorry to hear about your back, hope it's better soon x

WW - does sound like a hectic day, hope you've recovered in time for your fun plans today Glad to hear things are going well though.

evilsquid - glad to hear things are moving along for you and finally getting sorted x

maman - so true, and we do seem to be a group of 'copers' on here :rotfl:

bitsy - I know what you mean, I hate clothes shopping and the sizes are so frustrating. I've had that as well, the same size in the same store but one will fit and one won't! I appreciate there's going to be some difference in different stores but in the same one? Urgh! I was on a fairly summery short sleeved tunic-style top yesterday and today so maybe I'm jinxing the weather too - back to dull and cloudy here as well

Am not going to get my hope up too much for work 'coming around' as I can't see them giving me proper part time hours a week unless they lose the new girl. But even if I get a few days a month to sort out the banks and things then it would be something.
Went out to my Wednesday night meetup last night. Just the 'core' group of us there so a bit quiet but we all seemed to be tired so it was nice just to have a relaxed night and a bit of a catch up. Also one of them brought her puppy (she'd come straight from puppy training class) and omg it is the most gorgeous thing ever! I so nearly kidnapped it when she went out for a smoke :rotfl:Cocker spaniel and she's about 12 weeks old, so so cute! She was so well behaved as well and all the staff were fussing over her so think she may be a new regular lol.