Frugal Frump to Fab-u-lous Spring Equinox to Summer Solstice

lizzie157

Glad the funeral was ok PP. Sorry you didn't get the job but you will soon, DD1 went for many many interviews and as you know really struggled but in the end she seems to have fallen on her feet for once with a good job- her life seems to be getting back on track so I can relax a bit on that score. Unfortunately can't think of any posh charity shops or areas where there might be any round me - I'll have to have a think- thanks for the tip.:)
:T on finding a house LL, sorry to hear about your mum I think you do a great job with everything you have on your plate. Hope you find a good place for her.

Had a really good time last night - it's been a long time since I had a night out without it being a family meal. Have a bit of a headache this morning. :rotfl:Didn't spend too much and there was talk of there being more to come. The only dampener was knowing I had to go home to H! Apparently he hopes no one saw me as there were some men in the group and people will talk- anyone would think I was at it in the corner -what a n*b.:rotfl:

Lovely day again here so will enjoy some sun - have a good day all.:)

Bitsy_Beans

Lizzie sorry but your H has made me :rotfl: people will talk! I would smile sweetly and thank him for the compliment, you're obviously worth talking about

LL sorry to hear about your mum, glad your dad has finally accepted she needs some proper care xx

Pod sorry you've not got the jobs you've had interviews for but am sure something will crop up xxx

I confess not much fabbing. Fasting today after eating like a pig on holiday.
I am also going to give OCM another go. Saw an article written by a blogger who does OCM, I didn't realise and she has gorgeous skin. If hers can look that good it's inspired me to give it another go.

Suns been out, good job as we have a horrific amount of washing to get through :eek: bit of garden fabbing today and a bit of pottering about is in order
Have a lovely Sunday x

fedupandskint

LL - sorry to hear about your mum and I hope she recovers soon

As for me, long dog walk done and a 7 mile run this morning which was great - I enjoyed it a lot, lovely morning to go out and the longest I've run for ages so that was really great!

Having a little rest with a coffee before fabbing myself up for a walk up town for a few bits

Under 3 weeks to go now until Fab Solstice time - crack on with it ladies!

WelshWoofer

Lizzie - perhaps you should be at it in the corner! Will certainly give him something to really whinge about! :rotfl: Worked wonders for me!

LL - hope your mum settles in ok and at least its one less thing to constantly worry about for the time being. Good luck with the house - it sounds lovely.

Bitsy - hope your Sunday is going well - the aftermath of holidays almost makes it not worth going away :eek:

Sparkles - 7 miles :T:T!!

Just got back from Wales - I love my family but could never live with them, good job they live about 10 mins drive from the beach so the dog and I escaped a few times. I got really fed up with my mum moaning to me about my dad and vice versa. They've been married for 47 years and I think they're having one of their patches - its not fair to dump it on me though, they're both my parents at the end of the day. :mad: Anyway, have left them to it....

The Fling has been texting and keeping in touch - think we may meet up after work tomorrow - something to look forward to ... will have to do a bit of preening and pruning later on Needless to say getting your kit off keeps you off the choccy and on the straight and narrow! Went swimming yesterday and have done loads of walking so hopefully the weekend away hasn't done too much damage.

Loads of boring domestic things to do this afternoon - food shopping, cleaning, laundry, mowing lawns etc - back to work tomorrow so need to get organised and back in the swing of thinking about professional stuff rather than the load of naughty guff that has been on my mind for the past week or so :rotfl::rotfl:

Saw this on a doormat of all things yesterday (took a photo to remind me) and it sums up my state of mind at the moment.....

Laugh your heart out,
Dance in the rain,
Cherish the moment,
Ignore the pain.
Live, Laugh, Love, Forgive and Forget,
Life's too short
To be living with regrets

lessonlearned

WW - what a lovely little poem. I think will keep that and maybe find a way of framing and displaying it in a study or as a desk reminder or something.

WW - my parent's relationship was like that and I agree being piggy in the middle is not fair on you. You did the right thing by refusing to get involved.

My poor tummy is in knots - all that stress - so I'm doing zilch today. My fabbing is lazing on a sun lounger in the garden:rotfl: I can't even summon up the energy to drive over to see my poor OH today - I'm just done for.

Sparkles - you make feel exhausted just reading what you have done 7 miles - I think I would be in A&E before I got half that distance.

I really must work on my appalling lack of fitness, I manage a day or two and then there's another crisis that demands my attention.
I'm getting about 4 hours sleep at night and no daytime naps to compensate - will definitely try and sneak one in today.

Step 1 is to get more sleep and rest this week - even if it means a few less nursing home visits. They all have to learn I can't be in two places at once.

If I'm not careful I'm going to be the next one to be admitted to a nursing home......Not bloody yet!!!!

Sorry a bit of a rant coming on there:o

I'm off to get on that sun lounger......




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fedupandskint

I'm bouncing full of energy! Hoping to sleep better than last night as took ages to fall asleep for a change

Today was:
2 x 1hour 10min walks
7 mile run in 1 hour 9 mins
1 hour walk to town and back fabbed up in a nice summery outfit and my favourite bright red bag and a bit of bright pink lippy for me - hey check me out with braveness and confidence!

A brill exercise fun weekend for me!

Just about to finish reading a long chapter from my study book with an exfoliator and face mask on to make sure I do both and then repaint my toenails after that

podperson

Hi all,

LL - sorry to hear about your mum but sounds like it might be the best thing for her and hopefully she will be getting the care she needs now. That is disgraceful about the bed - please don't blame yourself in any way, you can't check every little thing and it's ridiculous that they sent one without the supports she needed. Hope you manage to take it easy and fingers crossed for good news on the house x

Lizzie - glad to hear about dd, I'm sure something will turn up just gets a little disheratening to have about 5 interviews in less than 2 weeks and not much to show for it Glad you managed to have a fun night out - and hope you ignored a certain someone's silly comments. Do you think he actually realises how ridiculous he must sound?

Sparkles - I feel exhausted just listening to your lists, I could really do with some of your energy! Sounds like you're looking fab while doing it as well

Fairly quiet day here. Went to meet a couple I'm doing a wedding for next month so picked up the rest of the money and just went over the day. Some lovely sunshine for a change so had a bit of a walk and got some shopping in, stuck to mainly healthy stuff so doing ok. Later than I thought when I got back though and OH wanted to spend some time together tonight so haven't managed to fit my shred in - hoping the walking will do for today and back to it tomorrow!
Back to work in the morning. Must admit not looking forward to this week, need to get started with the quarter end and go through it all with the new lass, which is going to be extremely hard work as she doesn't even seem to have grasped the accounting basics yet. Ah well, shall muddle through somehow!

evilsquid1603

i hope you all had a good day!

hugs to those that need them xx

just been to my body balance class, i've kept a lot more of my yoga "skills" than i thought i would have but some things i used to find easy are now just so hard! will have to make more of an effort with it now. just glad i didnt spend the whole thing falling over!

lessonlearned

Having a terrible time.

My poor poor mum, the nursing home is reasonable enough but OMG the residents. Many of them have dementia and there is no separate dementia wing.

Although my mum also has early dementia she is still very lucid and compus mentis and it is just so cruel to put her with people whose condition is so much more advanced. She is distraught and I can't get my dad to see it......

My sister and I spent the morning with her psychiatric assessor - just a form filling exercise - purely a formality and my father then accused my sister and I of "taking over", making decisions for him, treating him like a child, not listening to him.

My sister and I then went to the nursing home to see mum and find out if we could get her a room of her own, they are currently making her share a room with someone who shouts and cries out all night. Unbelievable.....

We then went to see a sister nursing home within the same group because they had a room. Yes they had - in the "Advanced Care Wing". God it was truly awful. It was like Bedlam. The noise was deafening. I couldn't possibly subject her to that.

I have spoken to the nursing home where my OH is and they can help us out. She can stay there as long as she needs, in a room near to my OH, whilst we find her something nearer to where they live. My dad refuses point blank.

I am practically going demented myself trying to sort things out. My sister is almost constantly in tears.

All my Dad does is scream at me. He did in front of a couple of carers last week. The look of shock on their faces. They asked me how often he did that to me. I just smiled.......

My stomach is in absolute knots again. I just want to crawl under a rock and hide..... I just wish stress helped me lose weight .....All it does is make me ill.;)

I've told my sons - when my time comes - if things in this country don't change I'm buying a one way ticket to Switzerland. In the meantime I've just got to try and find a way out of this maze and help my mum. Dad too of course, but there are times when I just feel like washing my hands of him.

I have to say the options for geriatric and dementia care are practically mediaeval. I have never been more shocked in my life in what I have seen this last couple of days.

On a more positive note, I have set the ball rolling on our house purchase . We are all so excited. A new beginning for us all.

Finally DS1 can put down roots. After 10 years of student accommodation and house shares he is desperate for a place of his own.

Bitsy_Beans

I agree LL the care for our elderly and vulnerable is truly shocking and I've not had misfortune to see it first hand

With regards to your dad, there really isn't anything you can do, he's in denial. If he continues to shout at you can you calmly tell him you won't be spoken to in such a manner and walk away from him? What is most important now is your mum xxx glad home where OH is can help you out xxx
Can you find a quiet 5 mins to sit and meditate to see if that can help ease your stress a bit? Hugs from me at any rate. Good news about your house purchase