Frugal Frump to Fab-u-lous Spring Equinox to Summer Solstice

WelshWoofer

Hewie - why don't you use the "sitting time" to research some lower cal healthier food and recipes on the internet? You can at least plan a diet/healthy eating plan if not get on with it yet.
If you started off now eating more F&V, cutting down on treats and finding healthier snacks the weight may start to slowly slip off without a real "diet" if you know what I mean.
Might give you something else to think about too to relieve the boredom a bit?

Talking about weight - I'm really bloated and feel horrible today. I'm hormonal, have hayfever and a cold/sore throat. I tempted fate saying that when I could slow down the lurgy would strike.:( The extra podge is all my own doing though through poor eating and not a lot of exercise recently and I know I can lose it again if I try but its p*ssed me off today.:mad:

I just dragged myself round the shopping centre to try to find something to wear to this do on Friday and I am fed up. I'm definitely that funny age now - too old for loads of the clothes around and too young for the rest.:mad: I don't have a problem with smart casual or work wear but "dressed up" is beyond me! Its all too short, too see through, too sequiny, too tarty or too frumpy. I'm 41 and not happy!
I ended up buying a pair of bargain jeans and some make up just to come back with something! Neither of which I'm really desperate for.

God I'm a right moaner today! Going to curl up on the sofa for a bit and take cold and flu tablets and hope this headache and throat get better miraculously by themselves.

lessonlearned

Hi Everyone

Bit of a miserable day here, cold and grey.

Went out to lunch with family today to celebrate mum's 88th birthday. Bless her she seemed really lost and confused and just not "with it". We had to cut her food for her because her stroke has left her left hand more or less useless.

I took her some beautiful blood red long stemmed roses (£2 each :eek: a bit extravagant but her face lit up when she saw them so worth every penny).

It is so sad to see her these days. The carers had made a right mess of her hair so I did what I could to make her look nice. She seemed to like that.

Anyway......

Bitsy - great news about the house. Fingers crossed all goes well for you. It will be so good when it all comes right and you can have your family all back together again.

ALJA - welcome back. Enjoy your pamper day.

WW - cheer up petal, the sun will shine soon. Try shopping another day when you feel less podgy and more your usual svelte self. You have done really well with your weight loss. You probably feel more podgy and bloated than you actually look.

Sometimes when we are hormonal and feeling a bit run we feel worse than we really are.

Luckily I've not had too many problems with hay fever this last couple of years or so but my attacks used to wipe me out at times. Hope you feel better soon.

Hewie - don't feel too downhearted about your weight. You must let your body recover from the surgery. Don't worry about dieting just yet, just concentrate on healthy eating for now.

I admit enforced rest can get a bit boring though - how about some hand-sewing or crafty stuff to alleviate the boredom.

I once had emergency surgery following a miscarriage and was sofa bound for a while. A friend bought me a colouring book and some crayons - saved my sanity:rotfl: It was very relaxing and was perfect for when I got bored with the TV or couldn't face reading.

Another of my emergency activities when I'm incapacitated is cross stitch or tapestry. When OH was in hospital for 4 months I used to take some cross stitch with me for when he needed to have a little sleep.

Sparkles - your dedication to your running and exercise is awe-inspiring.....

Part 2 of OH's assessment tomorrow. I'm feeling quite tired tonight and tomorrow will be very tiring so going to have a lazy evening and an earlyish night.

Just edited to say....

Lizzie - well done on your handling of your H. Very impressive. Passive resistance at it's best.....It worked for Ghandi and it worked for me when I needed to rebel against my domineering ex husband.

As I mentioned before my ex husband's behaviour was very challenging at times. At first it used to upset me a great deal and I would do anything not to upset him. He could sulk for England that one......I would tiptoe around on eggshells.

After I while I learned to ignore his sulks. Even though I was still very upset I wouldn't give him the satisfaction of letting him see how much he hurt me.

I would try just once and smooth things over by asking him what was wrong. If he carried on sulking I would just say "OK I can see you need a little time to yourself so I'm just going to go shopping/have a bath/weed the garden or whatever and leave him to it.

When he behaved badly in public I learned how to pretend not to notice.

Eventually I got to the stage when I simply no longer cared about his tantrums and sulks. I gave up trying to constantly please him and I simply went my own sweet way - passive resistance.

He finally realised he couldn't boss me around any more and agreed to a divorce.

Even then he was awkward and determined to have the last word.

I had to agree to be the "guilty" party so that he could be the innocent injured party - it was before the law changed to allow No Fault Divorces.

By that time I couldn't have cared less whose "fault" it was - I just wanted out.

Lizzie - there will come a time when it won't hurt anymore and you will be able to take a long hard objective look at your situation. When that happens you will feel strong and capable. The balance of power will have shifted and you will be free.

DomRavioli

Hi all

Started with a bit of healthy eating and my GP put me on venlafaxine...one of the side effects is weight loss (bonus! )

I'm painting my nails tonight - first time in over ten years, and first since my accident. I've had other people do it but its kind of liberating to be able to do it myself.

Hope you are all being fab-u-lous tonight, sending hugs for those who need them, and a kick up the bum for those who need those too (Think I need one of those!)

Dom x

lizzie157

Hi all,
Hewie- don't be too hard on yourself. I agree with the others who've said try to eat as healthy as possible but don't give up everything you enjoy or you may end up thinking about food all the time. Get well first and then tackle your weight . Best wishes x

WW- I.ve eaten too much over the weekend too, I've been given lots of chocolate too so lots of temptation. I'm having a fast day today to balance it out. I'm sure you'll be back on track soon.

LL- Hope OH assessment goes well.


Lizzie - there will come a time when it won't hurt anymore and you will be able to take a long hard objective look at your situation. When that happens you will feel strong and capable. The balance of power will have shifted and you will be free.

Actually I think that time came a while ago actually. I don't really care anymore what he thinks -it's just the effect all the negativity has when it begins the moment he gets up and doesn't stop until I go to bed. He has actually commented on how he's fed up of me being short with him. I just can't be bothered so any conversations have become short and to the point over the last week. I have DS3 at home now as his apprenticeship probationary period has come to an end and he has decided to go back to college in Sept so at least I have someone else to talk to atm. I am v pleased with the way he has saved his wages so he can still pay his way over the summer months until I can claim for him again.


1 finish off the assignment- done
2 try and get away for long enought to get some advice from WA
3 get back on the business card/leaflet website and finish off the template
[STRIKE]4 send off references etc to RSPCA[/STRIKE]done

Have also applied to another rescue centre near me who requested my cv- I only want to volunteer I still can't get over how hard it has become to offer your services free.:eek:

Have a good day everyone. Enjoy the sun while it lasts.:)

maman

lizzie157 wrote: »

Lizzie - there will come a time when it won't hurt anymore and you will be able to take a long hard objective look at your situation. When that happens you will feel strong and capable. The balance of power will have shifted and you will be free.

Actually I think that time came a while ago actually. I don't really care anymore what he thinks -it's just the effect all the negativity has when it begins the moment he gets up and doesn't stop until I go to bed. He has actually commented on how he's fed up of me being short with him. I just can't be bothered so any conversations have become short and to the point over the last week. I have DS3 at home now as his apprenticeship probationary period has come to an end and he has decided to go back to college in Sept so at least I have someone else to talk to atm. I am v pleased with the way he has saved his wages so he can still pay his way over the summer months until I can claim for him again.


1 finish off the assignment- done
2 try and get away for long enought to get some advice from WA
3 get back on the business card/leaflet website and finish off the template
[STRIKE]4 send off references etc to RSPCA[/STRIKE]done

Have also applied to another rescue centre near me who requested my cv- I only want to volunteer I still can't get over how hard it has become to offer your services free.:eek:

Have a good day everyone. Enjoy the sun while it lasts.:)

I'm really pleased to read all that lizzie. When I read your post yesterday I was appalled. What sort of person goes out with his partner to celebrate her birthday and calls her disgusting names in front of family, including children. And then he has the audacity to suggest he's fed up of you being short with him!!! What a pr*ck!;) Try to get out as much as possible then you won't have to be with him from morn 'til night plus going to bed early will help. And meantime work on the long term plan!!

:Tto your DS on being sensible with his money.

I had my hair cut, highlights and blow dried on Friday. If I had loads of money I'd have my hair professionally blow dried every day! I'm not too bad at doing it myself but it seems to lack body. Hairdresser also threw in a free manicure too. I think he felt a bit guilty as I had to wait around a bit and beautician got a cancellation.

Back soon.

lessonlearned

Good morning all

Well done Lizzie and great news about your kids finally getting a few breaks...

Ladies - I need your help!!!!

Yesterday my niece took my photo :eek::eek:

This morning I've finally plucked up courage, put myself on the scales and got the tape measure out.

I am horrified, appalled and disgusted with myself.

So - once more - I need to get a grip. I cannot believe I've allowed myself to get in this state. I am the heaviest I have ever been, I am disgustingly unfit, a mass of aches and pains.

And it is all my own stupid fault.

Please kick me up the derriere and keep kicking until I can report better news.....

On a more positive note - I've spent a couple of evenings watching make up tutorials on "t'interweb".

So as part of the new improved me I have been working on my make up techniques.

I decided my skin was looking a bit "dingy" and it felt very dry and flaky. I thought I would indulge in a salon facial and a mircro-dermabrasion treatment - where they blast crystals onto the face to give it a thorough exfoliation to remove dead skin cells and smooth fine surface lines.

Until I checked the price.....I thought £98 was a bit extravagant so I've just given myself a diy job.

Basically I just cleansed my face first with my usual "Simple" cream cleanser which you apply with water. Leaving the cleanser on my face I then sprinkled a small amount of bicarb on to a damp flannel and in gentle circular motions massaged the bicarb into my skin - avoiding the eye area and being extra gentle over my scar. Then just rinsed off and then applied my Aldi serum. After allowing the serum to sink in for approx 15 mins I then just applied some moisturiser.

Ladies it has worked a treat - all the flaky patches have gone and my skin is glowing and super soft.

And a lot cheaper than £98:rotfl:

If anyone wants to try it I would suggest just once a week only, and avoid any areas of skin that are sensitive or delicate.

Time for a quick snack and then put on some slap and visit OH for his assessment.

A daily blow dry would be one of my luxuries too. I do my best but my baby fine hair looks much thicker and more "lustrous" when it gets done by a professional.

his_missus

Hello all,

Been awol for a while.

New and very short haircut this weekend -I still surprise when I look in the mirror. Makes me feel a bit more glam than my can't-be-Rsed-just-run-a-brush-thru-it bob-style. As you can now see more of my face, I have to make an effort with make-up and lippy to add to the glam look.

Started painting my nails too

Also started the couch to 5K running program, only on week 2 but getting there. I have a pair of size 16 jeans which fit everywhere apart from on my fat legs, they look more like jeggings on me so am working to slim down. Also lost 3lbs in the past 2 weeks

Getting there slowly!

Hewie29

Thanks for your advice, you all echoed what hubby had said, so I will start eating healthier and get better first then concentrate on losing weight.

Bitsy Great news about the house, keeping fingers crossed.
Hismissus well done on the weightloss
LL derriere kicked, but I bet you don't look half as bad as you say your are.
Lizzie Keep strong
WW hope you're feeling better today.

Well exam season has started and I had a very stressed son this morning, although he's come home from school and is dancing around the sitting room. So I think he's happy with the way his exams went today, only another 14 or so to go. His last one will be on the 14th June, so then its time for him to look for some part time work.

We had some more bad news yesterday, my uncle (who is my mums brother) has been told his cancer is back and that he doesn't think that they can cure it this time, keeping our fingers crossed that he's wrong. Don't know how much more our family can take right now, my poor 88 year old nan is not coping with it at all well.

Anyway on a more positive not I have started 'operation get my life back on track' going to eat better, take some exercise slowly at first, just dog walks and take generally take care of myself.

Take care xx

fedupandskint

LL - kick! Keep at it girl - day by day by day!

As for me, not too much fabness to report apart from going on my weekend long dog walk after work tonight to take advantage of the bright sun and blue sky so double the distance dog walk tonight - yeah!

WelshWoofer

Right LL - you and I need to get a grip together! No more feeling fed up, no more putting it off and no more excuses. I too weighed this morning - I am now a good 5lbs (6 if you stand a different way on the scales) heavier than I was at my lowest last year. I know it doesn't sound too much but its made me feel really fat in comparison.
So, as of tomorrow, its NO EXCUSE TUESDAY!! I was better food wise today but just succumbed to a small Thorntons bar (only the size of a Milky Way but probably waaay worse!). Its gone now so I can start afresh. I did give the dog a good walk but tomorrow there will be proper exercise.

I feel better physically today - the old period has started at last so that's like a cloud lifted and my throat is a bit better. I'm weeing non stop too so that's a good sign for water retention.

LL - its not like us to feel down and sorry for ourselves so onwards and upwards for the pair of us!:)

Hewie - hope your son's exams continue to go well - I taught loads of very stressed kids today. Sorry to hear about your uncle.xx

Lizzie - hope the rescue centre thing pans out for you. If I won the lottery that's what I'd do - have a dogs home.

His missus and Maman - get you and your new hair do's!


Right, Criminal Minds is on and I'm supposed to be relaxing and spending less time on line (too easy to lapse into more schoolwork on the laptop).

Roll on "NO EXCUSES TUESDAY"!!