Nice people thread part 8 - worth the wait

Spirit_2

lostinrates wrote: »

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lostinrates

Nikkster wrote: »

If anyone begrudged my venting last year, then they did a very good job of hiding it. I can't answer for anyone else, but I can understand why you might not be feeling joyous at the moment. I very much doubt I would be! That is one of the great things about the thread - lots of very Nice People, and no obligation for a response.

Before I left London I had a few sessions with a counsellor (not a Councillor ). I was quite skeptical and only went a) as I was feeling pretty rubbish and b) I thought it couldn't do any harm in terms of keeping my student registration. I found it really helpful talking things through with someone who didn't know me, was talking to me about it because they wanted to (/ had to as it was their job) etc. rather than ending up leaning on my work colleagues (pretty much daily).

Thanks.

Personally, I am fairly convinced that unless I get worse and actually think I am cracked instead of in danger of cracking, I am not interested in talking therapies. Been there, done that. Not my bag.

Spirit_2

lostinrates wrote: »

The manufacturers said no, but I will call and check, thank you! That would be much easier. Spirit, PN, want to meet me to sit in a bath tub if they have it?:D

I can do Salisbury. You are in the bath on your own though.

lostinrates

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tomterm8

To be honest, I don't think there is that much point X marking the spot, since doctors are trained to do the groping in a particular order to make sure they check all the lymph nodes in the area, or are draining the area.

Just IMHO, of course, and YMMV.

LydiaJ

lir, by all means marker up if it helps you to walk into the surgery and begin the conversation. I suspect, though, that it won't make much difference to the quantity of rummaging that you have to endure. I suspect any doctor examining lumps would be negligent to examine just the lumps that the patient has already identified. Once some lumps are present, the doc probably has to rummage about to make sure s/he's found all of them.
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About the rest of it...
lir, you are such a generous and uncomplaining person. You remain brave and "keep calm and carry on" in the face of all sorts of stuff that would utterly defeat most of the rest of us. I want to say to you what my work's occupational nurse said to me: that for you to have got through the last few years without antidepressants is astonishing, but that now you have got to start looking after your mental health, in whatever way turns out to be most helpful.

I am so glad that venting at us has helped you feel a little stronger. But on it's own, that won't accomplish much. Please let people help you - I'm not trying to prescribe what kind of help you should accept from which people, but something.

A lot of what you have been through - the health stuff and special girl - was nobody's fault and just sheer bad luck. However, the story of your heating is beyond unacceptable. Is there any progress yet? You need heating, but even if you can't have heating, then you absolutely need reliable hot water, now (well, last autumn really). Is there no way fir can make a bold move somehow and put an end to this? It's damaging your health, both mental and physical. It is ludicrous that anybody should consider it remotely OK for somebody in your state of health should be without proper hot water for nearly a year since the idiots first turned up to start installing your system. Can't you charge them a daily fee for every day you're without functioning hot water until they sort it out? That might concentrate their little minds on the effect that their incompetence is having. :mad:

lostinrates

tomterm8 wrote: »

To be honest, I don't think there is that much point X marking the spot, since doctors are trained to do the groping in a particular order to make sure they check all the lymph nodes in the area, or are draining the area.

Just IMHO, of course, and YMMV.

It's not the place everyone has assumed. They get a good check every month and are causing no concern.

Nikkster

lostinrates wrote: »

Not my bag.

That's fair enough. Esp if you have been there before. I'm sure it can only be a good thing to realise one is in danger of cracking before it actually happens. Just need to try and use that insight to avoid it happening (easier said than done).

Nikkster

Ooh - Mary Portas has just arrived in Margate (just started on Ch4)

tomterm8

lostinrates wrote: »

It's not the place everyone has assumed. They get a good check every month and are causing no concern.

Er, I didn't assume anywhere. But to put this in perspective, when they were checking me for bowel cancer (didn't have it) they pretty much checked lots of places on my body - neck, back, stomach. All over the show.