Nice people thread part 8 - worth the wait

michaels

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

Making a scabbard is harder than you might think.

Isaac and I are making one. Leather's hard to sew, and my scabbard design skills aren't all they might be, either.

Isn't there a video on youtube? And sewing leather? Can't you just make it in cloth then glue the leather bits on?

vivatifosi

I need to sort out a will. I have written expressions of wish in place but need to decide what I would do with my company and probably need advice on that. I need a way that I can still get money owed, as there's quite a long lead time on the type of projects that I work on, but don't want to leave someone the stress of running the company. I don't really know how to arrange that, particularly as there may be nothing specific owing when I die. Any ideas? Everything else is straightforward as I don't have kids. I leave it to my husband and if he's not around then my mum/dad/brother.

neverdespairgirl

michaels wrote: »

Isn't there a video on youtube? And sewing leather? Can't you just make it in cloth then glue the leather bits on?

Didn't think of that. I doubt young Master Period Nazi would have agreed, either.

neverdespairgirl

Don't forget as well, nice peeps, that marrying invalidates a previous will, unless that previous will was expressly made in contemplation of the marriage.

PasturesNew

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

Making a scabbard is harder than you might think.

Isaac and I are making one. Leather's hard to sew, and my scabbard design skills aren't all they might be, either.

Google lineart images. Print.
Cardboard.... glue .... leather.

zagubov

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

Don't forget as well, nice peeps, that marrying invalidates a previous will, unless that previous will was expressly made in contemplation of the marriage.

We made ours after we married and had kids. Actually it was only then we saw the need. We'd been married, bought a house about a year later and had became parents within a couple of years after that then it became obvious that we need to sort stuff out.

We're both in jobs with huge life insurance (death in service benefits) which we've enhanced.

Both my parents are still roving the world enjoying life and long may they do so!

PasturesNew

vivatifosi wrote: »

I leave it to my husband and if he's not around then my mum/dad/brother.

Never leave it up the generations ...

SingleSue

LydiaJ wrote: »

Sue, you really need a will. It doesn't make any difference that you've nothing valuable to leave. LNE had more debts than assets, but his will was still crucial. When you die (and especially if you die while your boys are still living with you) then somebody will have to sort everything out. They'll need to make arrangements for the boys - both legal and practical, empty your house and decide what to do with the contents, talk to the council about ending your tenancy and arrange to give the keys back, decide what should be done with the possessions that you do have etc etc. Unless you want all this to be argued over by people with conflicting idea of "What Sue Would Have Wanted" then please please please write a will to appoint an executor or two.

Just because they would opt for something doesn't mean you don't need to put it in your will. Write one now appointing some of the relatives you've mentioned as guardians, and preferably referring to a less formal but more easily updated document detailing what provision you would like to be made for the boys if you are not able to look after them.

The boys know my funeral wishes inside out, they even know the selection of songs I want played...and that I most def want to be buried and not cremated otherwise I will come back to haunt them :rotfl:. Oh and a party, not a wake, a party (pref with a live rock band), to celebrate my life rather than mourn my passing. They also know that no black (apart from bikers leathers) is to be worn at my funeral, I want the most garish of colours, even though I myself would not be seen dead (haha) in bright colours.

For my personal possessions, apart from those items mentioned already, they can toss them in the skip for all I care as they are pretty much useless, both sentimentally or in value....and the boys know that too!

The provision for the boys is the harder one, the best for their mental wellbeing would be my parents as my mum is very in tune with their needs but their health and age is against them.

We do talk as a family about issues such as this, I am completely open about death (strangely, they find that topic easier to talk about than sex - I usually get 'eurgh mum' remarks when it comes to THAT discussion), so they pretty much know what should happen when I go. I suppose having children like I do, it is easier for them to be detached about stuff like death and possessions.

Generali

Ok nice peeps, I have a question for you (especially viva).

On Monday I noticed I had a small scab on my scalp which has now turned into a kinda crusty mole. Do I take some time off on Monday to get it checked or is it ok to leave until Saturday?

Thankfully, work updated our sick cover effective 1/4/13 so I get 80% of my income, index linked, until age 65 if I'm sick and unable to work. Hopefully I won't have to use it.

bugslet

LydiaJ wrote: »

Bugs, I'm so very sorry to hear that. We've had some of that sort of thing in my family, so I know a bit about how draining it is for the family. If we NP can be there for you in any sort of way, we're here any time.

Very kind LJ, he has settled in nicely, still knows who I am:-). He has secondary liver cancer as well, which is there but not doing anything at the moment. He only went in, in February, which, I think PN will understand, was a relief.

As withPN's aunty, it is making rather a dent in his meagre savings. I suspect no inheritence, but it's worth it for peace of mind.