Nice people thread part 8 - worth the wait

bugslet

If I lived closer than the 45 minute drive there and back, I think I would. Somehow being on a beach in a howling gale feels good, where as a soggy muddy field just doesn't!

neverdespairgirl

PasturesNew wrote: »

Nobody lies in a warm snuggly bed, alone, and thinks "I know, I need to get out in the freezing cold for no reason whatsoever, freeze my muts off, get soaked through to the skin and haave excruciating ear-ache within 5 minutes"

My OH does. He thinks it's fun. He has a waterproof jacket / boots / trousers, though, not soaked to the skin all over.

PasturesNew

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

My OH does. He thinks it's fun. He has a waterproof jacket / boots / trousers, though, not soaked to the skin all over.

I've got a cheap thin kagoul, £1 hat, no boots, jeans.

It's not the same

zagubov

Wills sorted ages ago!;)

silvercar

GDB2222 wrote: »

I could do with some advice please, NP. About Spain. I'm a bit lost, because this is not the sort of holiday we usually take. Anybody with local knowledge, please?

The plan is to fly into Malaga, pick up a hire car, then stay in a hotel for 2/3 nights before going to stay with my cousins in Marbella for a couple of nights. Then fly home. So far, we have booked the flights.

First problemo - car hire. DoyouSpain are *unbelievably* cheap. £30 for 5 days, CDW included, but they have very mixed reviews. Easyjet are offering us a hire car for over 6 times as much. How do we find a hire car at a reasonable price from a decent firm?

Tips for Malaga airport.

You will find that everyone will have booked with the cheapest car hire people, so there will be a long queue to get the car keys. Tactics are you wait to get the suitcases. Mrs GDB runs downstairs to the car hire desks to get the car. By the time she gets to the front of the queue, you will have th suitcases and have joined her.

lostinrates wrote: »

Ok, that's helpful. Funnily enough I thought 'silvercar will know something about this'.

My concern was whether there is somewhere to rest arms while reading, or slurping a lazy glass of wine (or water). Because the ends don't 'curve round you' . How long is yours? Width....we like to bath both at one end sometimes, as well as at opposite ends, so wider is better.

DOn't know why I should know, all the bathrooms were here when we moved in.

80 x 180 cm, make is kaldewei. Too short for 2 at opposite ends and too uncomfortable alone.

A friend has a bath with two padded (waterproof I assume) cushions built into one end and a TV that pops up from the other, it also has built in mood lighting. It takes ages to fill.

lostinrates

silvercar wrote: »

DOn't know why I should know, all the bathrooms were here when we moved in.

80 x 180 cm, make is kaldewei. Too short for 2 at opposite ends and too uncomfortable alone.

A friend has a bath with two padded (waterproof I assume) cushions built into one end and a TV that pops up from the other, it also has built in mood lighting. It takes ages to fill.

You always seem innately sensible. That's why I guess.

We squeeze into quite short baths one at each end, but there is always both at one end option

silvercar

Wills sorted and resorted when we moved 7 years ago.

We first wrote wills when we became parents. Leaving kids care to grandparents. Then we re-wrote leaving kids care to siblings. Now is the most dangerous state because legally they can take care of themselves!

Parent won't discuss will, except to make cryptic comments that make no sense. She has re-written 3 times in the last 6 months, each time she tells me to make sure it is the most recent to use. Don't know where they are kept. It should be straight forward, I have one sibling and we each have 2 children, I bet it won't be.

lostinrates

silvercar wrote: »

Wills sorted and resorted when we moved 7 years ago.

We first wrote wills when we became parents. Leaving kids care to grandparents. Then we re-wrote leaving kids care to siblings. Now is the most dangerous state because legally they can take care of themselves!

Parent won't discuss will, except to make cryptic comments that make no sense. She has re-written 3 times in the last 6 months, each time she tells me to make sure it is the most recent to use. Don't know where they are kept. It should be straight forward, I have one sibling and we each have 2 children, I bet it won't be.

The relative who died over Christmas had married very late to a widowed grandparent, two children, three grandchildren from each child. Straightforward huh? The spouse left ( the one who died ) had NO known family and no money of their own prior to the marriage and it was 'agreed' it was to go to the two children equally. But in the intervening time she found a long lost relative, who was (fairly) reflected in the will. She then decided to leave a large five figure number to a previous carer...which I think was nice. On paper it sounds really nice, in practice watching it has been horrid.

I was to
D when I was to.d the news there was nothing for me.....:eek: its a relative by marriage, why would I expect anything??? And that the 'hair looms' (canteens, a few sets of china etc) were to go to dh's cousins. That's all fine too.

Dh and his siblings were left some very specific things, one being a very ancient document that the new wife gave to the Jewish community (who were FaBULoUS to her) but who proceeded to destroy this document, literally taking bits out of it for their collection and handing back the shell as 'rubbish'. After a lot of talking dh has decided its a battle not worth taking on, what's cut cannot really be fixed and returned to originality . Some 'weapons' left specifically to the boys (both sets of cousins) old guns and swords) wife handed in to an amnesty drive. It was all done with a smile but its hard not to see it as somehow 'mean'.


I really hate all the 'hmm, I'll change my will tomorrow stuff'. Mine is simple financially but dh and I have agreed to update reflecting the new niece. Potentially things could get complicated ion the future (my nieces might feasibly have babies before dh's starts school :eek:) and we haven't talked about that.

The main thing is that we feel with the joint finances its important to not do anything the other party would hate if one of us survives the other. The second thing I argue for strongly is thatcher things we managed to get of dh's mother should go to his siblings. It doesn't matter if it skews the 'finances' a tiny bit, its the emotion.

Spirit_2

lostinrates wrote: »

Ah. Some thing we do have from dh's mother is an inordinate number of sherry glasses. This is the most fabulous idea, and next time I have little girls here I shall offer them drinks in these glasses. We have so many we could stand to lose a few.

We did a brave thing a few years ago..gave away to the fete best china and glass things we had inherited or been given ..all bar a tea set of my grandmothers. It included a cream and crean art deco dinner service which I liked but had not used in 20 years and some odd bits of Clarice Cliff...boring but art deco plates..and a rosebuds tea cup and saucer. The satff holder checked back as they thought we ere making a mistake..we had to insist we did want to give them away.

lostinrates

Spirit wrote: »

We did a brave thing a few years ago..gave away to the fete best china and glass things we had inherited or been given ..all bar a tea set of my grandmothers. It included a cream and crean art deco dinner service which I liked but had not used in 20 years and some odd bits of Clarice Cliff...boring but art deco plates..and a rosebuds tea cup and saucer. The satff holder checked back as they thought we ere making a mistake..we had to insist we did want to give them away.

I wish dh's mother had had some clarice cliff!

I have a collection of cups and saucers and I am thinking of getting rid of them.