The Sex was amazing??

VestanPance

*max* wrote: »

Of course. But not everyone has a long term partner.

I never suggested they did. I was alarmed at the thought someone would only feel open to express themselves sexually with a stranger and hide aspects of that from a partner, as was suggested.

anniemf2508

VestanPance wrote: »

If you can't do that with your long term partner something is severely wrong.

sometimes it is easier to be open with a stranger tho....if they think you're a freak for wanting to do a certain thing then you can just walk away and not see them again.
Its a little bit harder to do that if you live with someone.

VestanPance

anniemf2508 wrote: »

sometimes it is easier to be open with a stranger tho....if they think you're a freak for wanting to do a certain thing then you can just walk away and not see them again.
Its a little bit harder to do that if you live with someone.

If you hide who and what you are from the person that is closest to you you are failing to have a proper relationship in my opinion.

candygirl

Valli wrote: »

Could've been worse. Could've been 23 hours and 59 minutes :rotfl:

That's what I was thinking:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

notanewuser

Ladyhawk wrote: »

I think that one of the positives about stranger/ random sex is that you ca n be utterly free to express yourself, do whatever you want to do and not be inhibited by what your partner thinks. You can be selfish and not worry about anything except the pleasure.

The emotional connection makes things special, but it's not what makes you scream!

Completely agree. Had I not experimented with casual partners before meeting my now husband, I'd have never have even tried anal sex.

bitemebankers

Ladyhawk wrote: »

With a LT partner you may not want to let them know that you like to be called a very bad boy by matron. Some people would be accepting of this and some won't.

Why ever not? If you can't share you deepest, darkest fantasies with your SO, who can you share them with? For me, having a LT relationships is about being able to share all this stuff. If you find your partner isn't accepting of what you are, it's time to find a new partner IMHO.

notanewuser

bitemebankers wrote: »

Why ever not? If you can't share you deepest, darkest fantasies with your SO, who can you share them with? For me, having a LT relationships is about being able to share all this stuff. If you find your partner isn't accepting of what you are, it's time to find a new partner IMHO.

Mine are best kept in my head. I've no interest in sharing them with my husband (nor hearing his, to be honest!)

bitemebankers

notanewuser wrote: »

Mine are best kept in my head. I've no interest in sharing them with my husband (nor hearing his, to be honest!)

This saddens me. Don't you miss being able to be truly open with someone, in the safety of a serious relationship?

notanewuser

bitemebankers wrote: »

This saddens me. Don't you miss being able to be truly open with someone, in the safety of a serious relationship?

I don't know why it should sadden you. We share our lives, our work, our daughter. We don't share bank accounts or surnames. I don't want to know everything in his head and I don't want or need to tell him everything in mine. It works perfectly well for us. I don't feel I'm missing anything, and nor does he.

*max*

VestanPance wrote: »

I never suggested they did. I was alarmed at the thought someone would only feel open to express themselves sexually with a stranger and hide aspects of that from a partner, as was suggested.

Ah right. The way I understand the discussion is that some people think you can't have great sex if it isn't with a long term partner. I disagree. I think it can be equally as good, even if the absence of emotional involvement makes it different.