The Sex was amazing??

System

Amazing sex to me is more than just physical, its a mental connection that makes it so wonderful.

A desperation to please ones lover and to have that desperation to please returned.

Words turn me on too. 'I love you' means i am being appreciated for the woman i am.

One night stands are too risky in this day and age IMHO.

chatterup

lori64 wrote: »

What exactly do people mean by this??
You hear in life, films, mags etc...that the sex was amazing...but it didnt mean anything,,,it was only sex?? In what way, was it amazing? How can it be amazing with someone you may have just picked up after a night out and dont give a monkeys about??
Am i being a tad stupid here ? :rotfl:
Just been chatting on the phone to my best mate (male) about this, and he has never really got it either!

Whats everyone elses take on this?

Yes, I never understood how people say they have amazing sex with a stranger. But, a lot of people do it. And I guess you know, it's just the sexual pleasure they get out of it...but I need to at least have a emotional connection with them before I had sex with anyone.

notanewuser

Judi wrote: »

One night stands are too risky in this day and age IMHO.

Which day and age? I had plenty in the late 90s and early 00s, always with a condom, and have never had a single STI (unless you count cystitis from friction ).

I know a few HIV positive people who caught it from unprotected sex witg long term partners who had cheated.

Marshflower

I don’t really understand what the OP is asking. The only thing that has been buzzing round my head while reading this thread is if you have to ask, you’ve never had it.
Amazing sex with stranger can be a transcendental physical and spiritual experience, causing you to take leave of your mind and senses. Not in the same way as with someone you love so much you share a soul but still an incredible experience. Comparing the two is a bit like comparing apples and oranges though. The physical act is the same but the associated emotions very different. Personally I’d take the latter experience any day of the week, being blissfully married now but I am certainly glad I have experienced the former!
What is amazing about it? Well, I’m not going to answer that! It’s different for everyone. I think you just need to accept that like many things in life, it can and does happen, it’s just something that you don’t understand.

amus

Personally I had better sex with OH when I first met him than I do now, he probably put more effort in then. Sure now we know how to push each others buttons but doing it for the 400th time just isnt the same as when its new IMO.

For me, sex is great when it stems from pure lust and just wanting to rip each others clothes off rather than showing love.

Love for me is the living together every day and being in tune with each others thoughts and feelings, laughing with each other, talking about the future.

VestanPance

miss_independent wrote: »

C'mon...have you never had AMAZING angry make-up sex with a partner after a blazing row?! I can't say I'd be that emotionally connected or feeling all that loving in that kind of moment but the sex could be pretty earth shattering lol.

Honestly, no. My ex and I never argued, so never had angry make-up sex.

I must admit to being a bit of a freak show though, as I have no interest in having one night stands or sex outside a committed relationship. Sex just for sex sake just doesn't hold any appeal for me. There needs to be an emotional bond.

lostinrates

What we find 'good' is so personal, and dependant partly on situation. What I found 'great' when I was twenty one now would be a real turnoff.

It's also worth remembering some peon don't identify with a desire for "normal" two person monogamous relationships.

I have had 'great' sex and pretty empty sex in relationships and outside of them. What makes sex great for me has been quite selfish, and is ultimately part of the sickening semantic divide between sex and 'making love'.

*max*

It's like a fragrance, or a gourmet meal; you can try to describe it all you want, but it has to be experienced to be fully understood! I think this thread has made that quite clear.

bitemebankers

lori64 wrote: »

No, Im middle aged, Im talking from experience!
The point of my post was to ask what peoples idea off amazing sex was. Still havent had an answer though:rotfl:

For me, it's all about the chemistry. The two big factors in this are mutual physical attraction and being properly in touch with, and not afraid of your own sexuality. So many people have hang-ups about their sexuality - even in middle age - and that just kills it for me.

Ladyhawk

I think that one of the positives about stranger/ random sex is that you ca n be utterly free to express yourself, do whatever you want to do and not be inhibited by what your partner thinks. You can be selfish and not worry about anything except the pleasure.

The emotional connection makes things special, but it's not what makes you scream!