The Sex was amazing??

jetplane

TMI alert :rotfl:
Depends on what you call amazing, not all encounters are great and differ even with the same person so although every encounter can not be amazing it just happens. For me it's when the sex was/is exhilarating and that can happen for various reasons. At different times it has been with someone I love deeply or someone I just met, it has been sex where I made far too much noise, sex where I've thought I can't believe I did that, quiet sex, sensual sex, unexpected sex, romantic sex. Whatever the mix is at that time it is all consuming and just wow

thorsoak

Cherry_Bomb wrote: »

Because not everyone needs to feel emotion to have sex.

Not all amazing sex has to be with someone you love. If a perfect stranger can make your toes curl then you've had a good night :cool:

Am I the only person to find this attitude sad ?

Or am I just too old? Quite possibly!

But to me, sex has always been absolutely mindblowingly wonderful when you love the very bones and mind of your partner - when you've given yourself, totally and absolutely - to your soulmate.

Tenyearstogo

thorsoak wrote: »

Am I the only person to find this attitude sad ?

Or am I just too old? Quite possibly!

But to me, sex has always been absolutely mindblowingly wonderful when you love the very bones and mind of your partner - when you've given yourself, totally and absolutely - to your soulmate.

This is true but you don't need to have that emotional part.

Sometimes I make love with my husband but sometimes we just have sex.

Ladyhawk

thorsoak wrote: »

Am I the only person to find this attitude sad ?

Or am I just too old? Quite possibly!

why sad? The fact that someone can enjoy sex in a different way to you doesn't make it sad or bad... just different. It would only be sad it it was only ever in the missionary postion, with the lights off, and lasting precisely 2 minutes.

Tenyearstogo

When I was younger I was having a conversation with a work colleague who kept going back to her ex for sex. She said to me that sometimes the sex was so good, it made her cry.

I thought she was mad, until I found out what she meant (with a different man, not her ex!). If you've not experienced it, it will never be explained.

Person_one

thorsoak wrote: »

Am I the only person to find this attitude sad ?

Or am I just too old? Quite possibly!

But to me, sex has always been absolutely mindblowingly wonderful when you love the very bones and mind of your partner - when you've given yourself, totally and absolutely - to your soulmate.

It makes you sad that other people can be happy in a way you don't approve of?

Now that's sad.

Cherry_Bomb

thorsoak wrote: »

Am I the only person to find this attitude sad ?

Or am I just too old? Quite possibly!

But to me, sex has always been absolutely mindblowingly wonderful when you love the very bones and mind of your partner - when you've given yourself, totally and absolutely - to your soulmate.

Old (joking!)

Like I said we don't all need that connection. I certainly never needed it in my single days and don't regret a second of it. I had some pretty amazing one night stands sharing nothing more than a mutual respect of good sex for that one night.

Doesn't make my way of looking at it sad though in comparison to yours.

thorsoak

Person_one wrote: »

It makes you sad that other people can be happy in a way you don't approve of?

Now that's sad.

No - not "a way I don't approve of" - just that, imo - which is as valid an opinion as the opinion of any other poster - a way which brings sex/making love - which I've always found fantastic/wonderful/ funny/demanding/giving/rude/raunchy depending upon the time - brings it down to the level of grabbing a big mac! Satiating an appetite at the time - is that really enough? Not for me:A:rotfl:

Cherry_Bomb

thorsoak wrote: »

No - not "a way I don't approve of" - just that, imo - which is as valid an opinion as the opinion of any other poster - a way which brings sex/making love - which I've always found fantastic/wonderful/ funny/demanding/giving/rude/raunchy depending upon the time - brings it down to the level of grabbing a big mac! Satiating an appetite at the time - is that really enough? Not for me:A:rotfl:

Sometimes all you need is a Big Mac to hit the spot then you're on your way again :cool:

miss_independent

Ok, I'm not promiscuous either but I understand it. I've never had a one night stand and I've never had sex with someone who I didn't love but I'd be lying if I said I'd never wanted to just have a fling with someone who I only lusted after but couldn't stand personality wise and saw no future with. Do you only have to be emotionally connected before you can even be sexually attracted to someone?

Even in a loving, committed relationship or marriage sex varies, I feel. Sometimes its "making love" other times its just...sex!

C'mon...have you never had AMAZING angry make-up sex with a partner after a blazing row?! I can't say I'd be that emotionally connected or feeling all that loving in that kind of moment but the sex could be pretty earth shattering lol.