The Sex was amazing??

System

I've had amazing ONS sex (sadly he was a !!!!!! otherwise..but the sex was good )

But i've also had amazing relationship sex. I didn't quite realise how good relationship sex could be till i met my current bf (with my ex it dwindled and there was no effort or spark-and my sex drive died) and my sex drive is now through the roof

Kirri

thorsoak wrote: »

No - not "a way I don't approve of" - just that, imo - which is as valid an opinion as the opinion of any other poster - a way which brings sex/making love - which I've always found fantastic/wonderful/ funny/demanding/giving/rude/raunchy depending upon the time - brings it down to the level of grabbing a big mac! Satiating an appetite at the time - is that really enough? Not for me:A:rotfl:

It's about that lust and connection with someone that imo doesn't come along that often, is not necessarily someone you are in a long term relationship with.. is impossible to fight.. not just the need for sex.. it's almost impossible to explain but once someone like that has come along nothing else is good enough.

thorsoak

Kirri wrote: »

It's about that lust and connection with someone that imo doesn't come along that often, is not necessarily someone you are in a long term relationship with.. is impossible to fight.. not just the need for sex.. it's almost impossible to explain but once someone like that has come along nothing else is good enough.

...and when it's that good, it carries on, right through to late 60s...right to the very end (and very little missionary position )

lori64

thorsoak wrote: »

Am I the only person to find this attitude sad ?

Or am I just too old? Quite possibly!

But to me, sex has always been absolutely mindblowingly wonderful when you love the very bones and mind of your partner - when you've given yourself, totally and absolutely - to your soulmate.

You are a very fortunate person to experience that feeling! I would rather not have sex, unless I experience the same feeling! Ok, I suppose, just isnt going to cut it for me!
Thats why I dont understand people who say...the sex was amazing...but..it was JUST sex? Nobody has yet explained WHAT about the sex made it amazing?? The point of this thread, in the first place? If no emotion need be involved, then WHAT exactly DID it for you sexually? Orgasm? Is that peoples definition of great sex?

System

lori64 wrote: »

You are a very fortunate person to experience that feeling! I would rather not have sex, unless I experience the same feeling! Ok, I suppose, just isnt going to cut it for me!
Thats why I dont understand people who say...the sex was amazing...but..it was JUST sex? Nobody has yet explained WHAT about the sex made it amazing?? The point of this thread, in the first place? If no emotion need be involved, then WHAT exactly DID it for you sexually? Orgasm? Is that peoples definition of great sex?

in my case he was very well endowed and knew what he was doing... :eek:

Person_one

lori64 wrote: »

You are a very fortunate person to experience that feeling! I would rather not have sex, unless I experience the same feeling! Ok, I suppose, just isnt going to cut it for me!
Thats why I dont understand people who say...the sex was amazing...but..it was JUST sex? Nobody has yet explained WHAT about the sex made it amazing?? The point of this thread, in the first place? If no emotion need be involved, then WHAT exactly DID it for you sexually? Orgasm? Is that peoples definition of great sex?

Erm, I'm not really sure how to start!

There are certain parts of our bodies, and when they are touched in certain ways it feels very nice. Some people are better at this nice touching than others, and some couplings are more compatible than others.

Sex is a physical act, it can be more meaningful, but it doesn't have to be, and there isn't always a correlation between emotional connection and physical pleasure.

Cherry_Bomb

lori64 wrote: »

You are a very fortunate person to experience that feeling! I would rather not have sex, unless I experience the same feeling! Ok, I suppose, just isnt going to cut it for me!
Thats why I dont understand people who say...the sex was amazing...but..it was JUST sex? Nobody has yet explained WHAT about the sex made it amazing?? The point of this thread, in the first place? If no emotion need be involved, then WHAT exactly DID it for you sexually? Orgasm? Is that peoples definition of great sex?

Assuming this isn't a thinly veiled attempt to knock one out whilst strangers explain to you what constitutes a great sex session (in their opinion)

There are chat lines for this kind of thing you know....:cool:

I would rate an orgasm pretty highly. If you're having sex for the simple reason of pleasure then of course you want to get something out of it otherwise what's the point?

OP I don't know if maybe your sexual experiences have been limited but when it comes to emotionless sex it's just about that moment. The excitement of knowing you're going to have sex and hoping this person lives up the expectation you've built up in your head from the obvious flirting that's been going on since you met.

Have you never experienced that wanting?

Dunroamin

thorsoak wrote: »

No - not "a way I don't approve of" - just that, imo - which is as valid an opinion as the opinion of any other poster - a way which brings sex/making love - which I've always found fantastic/wonderful/ funny/demanding/giving/rude/raunchy depending upon the time - brings it down to the level of grabbing a big mac! Satiating an appetite at the time - is that really enough? Not for me:A:rotfl:

But the one doesn't preclude the other.

lori64

Person_one wrote: »

Erm, I'm not really sure how to start!

There are certain parts of our bodies, and when they are touched in certain ways it feels very nice. Some people are better at this nice touching than others, and some couplings are more compatible than others.

Sex is a physical act, it can be more meaningful, but it doesn't have to be, and there isn't always a correlation between emotional connection and physical pleasure.

Im 48yrs old, Im very much aware that certain parts of our bodies feel nice to the touch!!
For me, the emotional and physical is the only thing that WORKS for me!
My question was....people who say, she/he was ok, but IT WAS ONLY SEX? What about it was ONLY SEX??
What do people get out of having sex with people they dont give a monkeys about? If I was to have sex with a man I didnt care about, my skin would crawl!
:rotfl:

Kirri

lori64 wrote: »

Im 48yrs old, Im very much aware that certain parts of our bodies feel nice to the touch!!
For me, the emotional and physical is the only thing that WORKS for me!
My question was....people who say, she/he was ok, but IT WAS ONLY SEX? What about it was ONLY SEX??
What do people get out of having sex with people they dont give a monkeys about? If I was to have sex with a man I didnt care about, my skin would crawl!
:rotfl:

You can have an amazing sexual connection with someone you are not emotionally attached to..

never slept with someone you shouldn't have because you just can't resist it?