help with 14 yr old daughter

Cherry_Bomb

AAAAA wrote: »

Great parenting.:T:T:T:T

Ah pipe down. Forgetting the underage sex issue teenagers DO push boundaries at times. That includes coming home later than expected. Its not always the fault of the parent. its the teenager who thinks their untouchable and can swan in whenever they please.

If you're one of the lucky ones whose teen was a saint then good for you!

If you have anything constructive to add aside from petty sniping and hand clapping then feel free to share.

FBaby

bonjovibel_729 wrote: »

She has before

Punish her then but tell her in advance what the consequences are if she comes home late. Accepting that she is now sexually active doesn't mean that she can do all she wants. She still needs rules and she still needs to accept that she has to adhere to them.

AAAAA

Cherry_Bomb wrote: »

If you're one of the lucky ones whose teen was a saint then good for you!

What teenager would that be then?:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

The whole family would be brilliant on the Jeramy Kyle show.

pigpen

AAAAA wrote: »

What teenager would that be then?:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

The whole family would be brilliant on the Jeramy Kyle show.

Actually all but 1 of mine have been a breeze so far (I've managed 5 teens so far).. maybe my first was so bad I know all the tricks ... My 12 y/o is going to be a little $h!t when she starts though.. I forsee all manner of shenanigans with her.

AAAAA

Treevo wrote: »

I would encourage others to read the OP's previous threads to gain a more rounded view of what this young girl has been put through by her mother.

It's not the situation claimed in the OP - this is not a 14 year old who decided to have sex because she wanted to annoy her angelic step-father. The poor girl's been dragged through different homes and suffered/witnessed abuse by her step father after her mother's infidelity, and then been forced to witness her mother having a relationship with a man who openly took drugs in front of children. She's been groomed online, and then in person by a 17 year old. Even now her mother treats her as a manipulator rather than accept that she has been affected by her step father's behaviour, despite the OP herself describing his abusive behaviour previously.

Maybe she pushes the boundaries because of all the S*it she has been through.

AAAAA

pigpen wrote: »

Actually all but 1 of mine have been a breeze so far (I've managed 5 teens so far).. maybe my first was so bad I know all the tricks ... My 12 y/o is going to be a little $h!t when she starts though.. I forsee all manner of shenanigans with her.

What I meant is that I DON'T have children they just ASSUMED I did.I know what bad patenting is though.

Cherry_Bomb

AAAAA wrote: »

What teenager would that be then?:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Even better!

You don't even have a teen, yet still feel able to pretty much point and laugh?

That is funny.

AAAAA

Cherry_Bomb wrote: »

Even better!

You don't even have a teen, yet still feel able to pretty much point and laugh?

That is funny.

I find it funny that you just ASSUME I had children.

Cherry_Bomb

AAAAA wrote: »

I find it funny that you just ASSUME I had children.

Ah apologies! Your holier than thou comment of "great parenting clap clap clap" really threw me into thinking you'd had extensive experiencing of a teen staying out later than agreed!

winnerx

Hi, I feel really sorry for you as you are obviously feeling bad enough and blaming yourself as to what your daughter has done. I think you are more upset that she is only 14 and now you feel responsible because she is blaming her situation on being unhappy.
I agree with one of the othe comments that she slept with the guy cos she wanted to and she is at the age where she will push the boundaries.
You dont want her pregnant I suggest you make her an appointment with the family planning and let her talk to them. I have a son at 15 I dont know if he has had sex but it concerns me. I leave durex in his drawer just incase even though the thought worries me to death. I never had a password for his facebook but when he leaves it on i do snoop as I want to know who, what and where so dont feel bad in a couple of days she will be your little girl again but shes growing up and while they are young they also think they are very old so you have to let them but u are the mum so dont give up keep advising and hope she makes good choices. good luck:A