Bi-sexual teenager what's the rules?

System

gibson123 wrote: »

Judi what age was your daughter and friend, were they a good bit older? I don't find same sex couples strange, but I suppose if it is your own this may feel different, trying to think how I would feel about my daughter sharing with a boyfriend or a girlfriend. Anyone know where I can buy an ivory tower?

Yes they were older early 20s i suppose.

I must admit ive not had any of my childrens partners stay over before. Ive felt very uncomfortable with the idea so i'll borrow your ivory tower too when you get it.

The only reason my sons girlfriend is staying over is because she lives so far away and because she is underage there will be no sex under my roof!

I struggle to be broadminded i'll be honest, i think i am too old fashioned for that.:(

gibson123

Tenyearstogo, yes very helpful. When I think about it, she has her "brother from another mother" a little lad two years younger that she would never ever be attracted to, because she treats him exactly like a little brother, he lives next door so never needs to sleep over but if he did I would not have a problem with that.

thorsoak

gibson123 wrote: »

:eek:I am fairly sure that this rule is very firmly understood in my family.

In that case, if your daughter understands that sex - with either sex - is not for children of 14 (because that's really what she is, even thought she is sexually aware as are all 14 year olds) then I don't understand what your problem is. Do you not trust her and her friends to adhere to family rules?

Just because she has decided that she is LBGT does not mean that she will jump upon her female friends anymore than she would on her male friends!

It has been my experience that children and teenagers live up - or down - to your expectations 99% of the time.

gibson123

Judi wrote: »

Yes they were older early 20s i suppose.

I must admit ive not had any of my childrens partners stay over before. Ive felt very uncomfortable with the idea so i'll borrow your ivory tower too when you get it.

The only reason my sons girlfriend is staying over is because she lives so far away and because she is underage there will be no sex under my roof!

I struggle to be broadminded i'll be honest, i think i am too old fashioned for that.:(

I think I'd be absolutely fine about girls in their 20's staying over, but it's one of those things, it's easy when it's not your kids. I don't think any parent is ever totally comfortable about the thought of their kids having sex under the same roof. it must take some getting used to. I am not looking forward to that when it arrives. You appear pretty broadminded to me.:)

bitemebankers

thorsoak wrote: »

Just because she has decided that she is LBGT does not mean that she will jump upon her female friends anymore than she would on her male friends!

This, really. It comes down to how much you trust her.

And, if all else fails, at least she isn't going to end up pregnant

Treevo

Your daughter sounds fantastic. She's open-minded, kind and she got rid of a partner who was pressuring her into sex. You should be proud.

I think you should trust her with having her friends to stay. But keep the doors open just in case.

gibson123

Treevo wrote: »

Your daughter sounds fantastic. She's open-minded, kind and she got rid of a partner who was pressuring her into sex. You should be proud.

I think you should trust her with having her friends to stay. But keep the doors open just in case.

Treevo, sometimes some-one just hits the nail on the head, it is so obvious when you say it like that. I think I was getting all got up in the detail. Of course this is the solution :o

Person_one

thorsoak wrote: »

In that case, if your daughter understands that sex - with either sex - is not for children of 14 (because that's really what she is, even thought she is sexually aware as are all 14 year olds) then I don't understand what your problem is. Do you not trust her and her friends to adhere to family rules?

Just because she has decided that she is LBGT does not mean that she will jump upon her female friends anymore than she would on her male friends!

It has been my experience that children and teenagers live up - or down - to your expectations 99% of the time.

Small point, I'm pretty sure you don't 'decide' on your sexuality. I know I didn't or I'd have picked differently!

Person_one

gibson123 wrote: »

Treevo, sometimes some-one just hits the nail on the head, it is so obvious when you say it like that. I think I was getting all got up in the detail. Of course this is the solution :o

I don't think keeping the doors open all night is fair on the girl staying over. When I was 14 there was no way I'd be happy sleeping at a friend's house with their parents and siblings around with the door wide open all night! If there's a dad or any male siblings in the house its definitely not appropriate.

Claree__x

gibson123 wrote: »

Treevo, sometimes some-one just hits the nail on the head, it is so obvious when you say it like that. I think I was getting all got up in the detail. Of course this is the solution :o

You sound like you have a great relationship with your daughter so she'd likely tell you if she had a boy/girlfriend so you could just be wary about that person staying.