Less than 12 weeks pregnant club! Part 3

BumblebeeUK

Hi all, and welcome Gelly - hope the next 8 months go smoothly for you.

For me everything seems to be fine, or as fine as it can be with a long-term condition. The rest of the post is long, I think I just want to get this off my chest, but the short version is that the news is as good as it reasonably could be.

I saw my urology consultant on Monday. I spent about £150 on train tickets and a budget hotel for the night to be sure I was there for my 9:30 appointment (consultant is based where I used to live, which is about 200 miles from where I live now). Consultant was away but I had a good appointment with a registrar and spoke to the consultant on Skype (!).

It seems that my condition is getting worse, and the worse it gets the more likely I am to miscarry so they need to get it under control. I knew something wasn't right because I've had REALLY cloudy wee (sorry if TMI) and quite severe pelvic/kidney pain for a few weeks. But my PG/midwife said all looked fine on the dipsticks. I've had 2 lots of antibiotics recently, and the consultant has now changed this to a third one, which we hope will improve matters. He'll review me again in January.

Slightly annoying to have gone so far at such expense to not even see the consultant himself. But that's the only slightly negative thing I've had to say about him for 5 years - he really is EXCELLENT, and has agreed to keep seeing me every 4 weeks or so even though I've moved away. Which I am hugely grateful for. It was good to go anyway because they have super-sensitive tests that they developed themselves, are published and peer reviewed, but aren't used elsewhere yet. So at least we have a very clear picture of what's going on.

So I've been pretty worried since then. I asked what the risks actually were, and was told that they don't know precisely because there aren't large numbers of patients to look at, but the risk of m/c is thought to be upwards of double the normal risk, and more so for pre-term labour. I've since looked up some papers (I'm a scientist, so fortunately can access them in the original rather than going by what other people have written about them on the internet) and it seems that the risks really are rather high. Miscarriage and pre-term birth are "extremely likely" as one paper put it.

I asked if there was anything I could do to help myself, but the answer is no -- just take the antibiotics and generally look after myself. Also, the consultant has an excellent track-record of getting his ladies through their pregnancies safely so even though I would obviously much prefer to not have this condition, given that I do have it, I'm really in the best possible hands. I keep trying to remind myself of that but it's very difficult in the wee small hours when I'm in a lot of pain...

Yesterday I had really awful pelvic pain, localised on one side. It felt like appendicitis all over again. And I admit it, I worked myself into a hysterical state. I called my EPU who said to come straight in. I did, they ran a few vital's-type tests and then sent me straight in for a internal scan. The scan its self was painful (but that'll probably be because my whole nether-regions are inflamed with the urinary issue), but all looks fine. There's one fetus, which looks normal, is in the right place, and has a beating heart. They dated me at 10+3. There's no sign of problems in the tubes/ovaries/uterus. I was SO relieved. I cried my eyes out.

Since then I'm still rather sore, but there's nothing more to do now and we're doing everything we can to hold on to the bean. Now when I feel horribly sick I remember the scan and picture the little bean waving at me -- and that being sick is just bean's way of reminding me he/she is still there and clinging on. That's helped me cope with vomiting, oddly!

Well, that's what's new with me. Sorry this is rather long - I just wanted to "voice" my worry somehow so thanks for reading this far. I hope all you ladies are doing well, and your little beans are sticky ones!

Bumblebee x

lushlifesaver

Oh Chickpea I am so sorry to hear of your news. do take special care of yourselves at this time.


Bumblebee - your post makes me realise how different things are for each of us. You are so strong and its lovely to hear everyone's different experiences with medical conditions and pregnancy etc. I'm very lucky not to have any myself (well other than eczema which is easily managed) but my partner has CP and we get greatly differing attitudes from medical professionals when they find out we're expecting!

Lara44

Aww God Chickpea, so heartbroken for you Sending hugest virtual hugs.

((((Hugs)))) Bumblebee, that sounds stressful, but glad the scan was positive.

RobotsinDisguse

sorry for going awol, i have been reading but not posting due to logging out and not being able to get back in again.

chickpea - I am so sorry for you.

bumble - gosh that's a whole lot of extra worry for you. I'm glad you've a consultant that you trust though. Do you mind me asking the name of your issue?

RobotsinDisguse

Congratulations to the new joiners with their BFP - Welsh, Gelly, Plantpot & BeckyJack and any others.

I'm a member of the 'kicker twitchers' club too. after my spotting i guess it's to be expected. A close friend had a 'gush' of blood early on but all was fine. My scan is on friday and i'm so scared.

As for me, it was husband's work xmas party on saturday and as we'd told them in advance all i got was love and hugs and a few 'cautionary' tales. so all very good. and i had a lovely time.

I also went swimming at the hotel for the first time since mid september, eg, before getting pregnant. It was also in a river, so quite different to a spa pool! (Before this i regularly swam in lakes, rivers & the sea, i enjoy cold water swimming)

Anyway, what I want to say is that I Felt Different. My center of gravity / boyancy was different!!! when floating a little below the surface on my back i could feel my belly wanting to float a little higher than the rest of me! and it was a bit domed shaped. WOW! This was the most incredible experience and i don't think I'll ever forget it In fact I had to return for a dawn swim before breakfast the next day, whilst hubby slept off his wine, in order to check it still felt like that!

Does anyone else have the foggiest what i am talking about!?

purcy81

Hello ladies

plant pot hugs to you I hope the bleeding eases off and you next scan shows a lovely wriggly bean x

Bumblebee I'm not surprised you needed to get that of your chest, hope everything carries on well for you x

Hi Gelly!

How strange about you feeling more buoyant robotsindisguise I suppose it makes sense though when you think about it!

Told my mum last night and she was really happy but when I said I was feeling nauseous and had been sick a few times she told me she had been sick for 7 months when she was pregnant with me eeeeeek!

I had my doctors appointment today, the only thing he did was take my bloodpressure ask about my history and arrange for my referral to the midwife, I didn't exactly expect a parade or a big fuss but it was totally underwhelming and seemed a bit pointless. I've been dated at 5weeks 5 days yay!

hugs to all x

Disney_Pluto

Hi everyone.

Congratulations on all the BFP.

Chickpea I'm really sorry for your loss I hope you take it nice and easy.

Well I went for my midwife appointment today. Hour and half and had lots of questions but she was lovely. So happy as I was a little scared. She puts me at 8 weeks 3 days but didn't ask my cycle length and I put me as 7 weeks 1 day. All ok and should get my scan mud January.

Excited now as it seems really. But defiantly feel more relaxed once I've had the scan.

Hope everyone's ok?

credit_crunch

hi everyone
5+3 for me
I told my boss yesterday - i thought it best to tell him considering a prev MC & just in case it happens again!
Work Xmas lunch 2moro - there are only 4 of us so I dont think I will be able to hide not drinking!
Will prob tell the girls in work but no one else knows other than my parents!
Part of me wants to shout it from the roof tops but deep down I so aware of how quickly it can change!

Being positive is hard work but I'm trying :rotfl:

AquamarineMonkey

Hi ladies,

Sorry to hear you're having problems bumblebee and plantpot. hope everything turns out OK for you!

Hope everybody else is feeling well. I've started to feel a bit more normal the last few days. I'm also sure I felt something move yesterday, and I don't think it was wind. I felt DS move quite early on but im not sure whether or not it's possible to feel internal movements at 11 weeks! I suppose it's possible the little bean displaced some liquid. It was having a wiggle at the scan at 8+5 so it's probably an active one like its big brother!

Congratulations and welcome Gelly!

I've received a letter advising me that my GTT appointment with the consultant will be on the 4th March and apparently there will be follow up appointments too. Counting down the days to my scan now - 12 - new years eve.

Aqua 11+1 xx

BumblebeeUK

Thanks all, for your kind words.

Robots - I hope you won't mind, but I'll keep quiet about exactly what the condition is for the moment. Purely because I wish to remain anonymous. You never know who posters (and lurkers!) are on public forums and we haven't told ANYONE I'm pg yet -- our parents don't even know. And this condition along with what I've already said would mean that someone who knows me would be able to identify me pretty easily. And I'd hate for people to find out I was expecting before we told them. I'll spill the beans later on!

I haven't been swimming since before my BFP, so couldn't say about the change in buoyancy. I might have to go swimming now to find out!

Pucey - that sounds like my GP appointment. They didn't even take my BP but did check the meds I was taking to make sure I should keep on taking them. In fact, some aren't great - but the benefits outweigh the risks so the advice is to carry on. Does add to my anxiety though! I just try to space the doses equally and have them with food -- both of which I'm pretty sure will do nothing to ease any teratogens but it gives me the illusion of control!

Today will probably (hopefully!) the last day or work for me until January. I've only had a week off since starting here last January - so I feel I've earned a rest!

Bumblebee x