So say you were getting married..

securityguy

Mojisola wrote: »

Other people have compared this with vegetarians not offering meat at the reception. If I was going to the wedding of a committed veggie couple, I wouldn't be worried if all the food was meat-free. No meat-eater is going to suffer from having one meat-free meal!

Weddings are a request for people to spend time and money to attend an event. And it's an increasing amount of time and money, too: the days of a wedding at 2, early supper and home are long gone. You won't see much of the happy couple, and vice versa, so a wedding needs to be plausible as an expensive night out, especially if it's going to involve hotels and/or baby sitters.

So if, for example, I was expected to go somewhere which would involve an overnight stay, but couldn't have so much as a glass of wine, I simply wouldn't go. I rarely go out for dinner at hotels, and one of the appeals (speaking as someone who drinks probably less than once a week) would be the ability to have a glass of wine and maybe a brandy afterwards. Remove that, and I might as well go out and spend the same time and money on a meal out somewhere else.

Spendless

Unless you are going to host the wedding somewhere that doesn't sell alcohol (eg a village hall) then I don't really see how you can monitor it? Even if you won't let anyone into the room where you are having your celebration if they have an alcoholic drink on them -and how are you going to know if that tall glass that looks like it's full of coke hasn't had a vodka added to it, unless you are going to have a sniff/taste? If you are in a place that is licensed to sell alcohol your adult guests are going to be able to buy booze and stay in the bar area to drink it.

StevenMarks

Mojisola wrote: »

No meat-eater is going to suffer from having one meat-free meal!

I don't eat vegetables (other than potatoes, garden peas and carrots in small quantities) or salad (can't abide mayonnaise or most other dressings) and am severely allergic to mushrooms and quorn.

Perhaps I should stop thinking about vegetarians whenever I'm planning food; after all they won't suffer from one meal involving meat.

Torry_Quine

Saint_Chris wrote: »

Not as rude, as the bride and groom, who sent out invitations, with no mention of the rules in................

And grown adults, some ladies who went our rarely, were told on arrival the rules...................and that they could not drink alchol, unless they went into the bar in the lounge.

Now i'm not a quick drinker, and a glass of wine, takes me ages to drink, i did not fancy, nipping out geting a glass of wine, and trying to drink it quick, to get back to the party, i would imagine more people would be drunk this way.

When we sent out our invitations there was no mention of the alcohol not being in the function room. In fact I can't remember anythong being announced at the wedding. I would presume that anyone who wnt to the drinks table and asked for an alcoholic drink were directed to the hotel bar. As I said few people went out for a drink at all and preferred to stay at the wedding.

mintymoneysaver

mintymoneysaver wrote: »

The friends of mine who had afternoon tea had their evening meal in the same place. As it was a Christian hotel there was no alcohol on sale at all, just non alcoholic wine for the meal. It was a wonderful, relaxed day, just what they, and most of their guests, wanted.

Sorry, you mistook me. I'm a Christian who very much enjoys a glass of wine! I was just meaning that there are places ( some Christian hotels being some of them) where you could have a function without the possibility of alcohol if you didn't want it. The couple who had the wedding are Christians, and wanted it there because it was a hotel they often frequent, not specifically because it didn't serve alcohol. It also suited them, and most of their guests to have an 'afternoon tea'

Ladyhawk

Surely this is the ultimate in moneysaving?

Torry_Quine

Ladyhawk wrote: »

Surely this is the ultimate in moneysaving?

How? It usually costs just as much to buy a soft drink as an alcoholic one especially at a hotel function.

Gloomendoom

Ladyhawk wrote: »

Surely this is the ultimate in moneysaving?

No, the ultimate in moneysaving would be get guests to pay for their own food and maybe even chip in for the venue too.

Ladyhawk

Not if you negotiate the rate properly - the alcohol aspect is expensive. And champagne costs a fortune... People would be able drive and won't need to stay over. It's moneysaving in so many ways.

Ladyhawk

Gloomendoom wrote: »

No, the ultimate in moneysaving would be get guests to pay for their own food and maybe even chip in for the venue too.

As per the other thread running about that... Most people consider that to be a step too far.