So say you were getting married..

Mojisola

StevenMarks wrote: »

There is no difference between a vegetarian refusing to eat meat and a meat eater refusing to eat vegetables they don't like. The omnivore argument works both ways as a vegetarian is an omnivore who has decided not to eat meat.

I don't think anyone would force you to eat vegetables!

My point was that anyone on a diet that's unusual would normally make sure that there would be food suitable for them. If you were unable to eat any of the veggie dishes available at a vegetarian wedding, you could decide whether to eat before, take a meaty snack with you or decline the invite.

quinechinoise

Gloomendoom wrote: »

I think what some people (including me) are saying is that a wedding isn't all about me, me, me, me or even us, us, us.

If you have a limited budget, perhaps it would be more appropriate to spend a bit more on your guests welfare rather than on the wedding dress, or outfits for bridesmaids, for example.

That's what we had to do. My wife's wedding dress was 'only' £200 and I wore a suit I already owned. The bulk of the budget went on the party.

What about the OP's welfare? It has been established that there are genuine, serious reasons for avoiding alcohol. A wedding IS all about the marriage of two people. Any party is incidental. No one gets married for the sake of hosting a party.

I hope the OP won't let opinions here, and an event from 3+ years ago, deter her from having a happy and healthy wedding.

Although I will mention that my own wedding dress was "only" £40. I would never spend £200 on a dress I'm only going to wear once!

jenhug

How about this as a solution.

Get married
Have afternoon tea with just tea coffee soft drinks maybe a bucks fizz or an asti for the toasts.

Have the evening reception as a "normal" wedding, but when you start to feel that the level of sobriety maybe diminishing, have your new hubby "whisk you away" for a surprise night in a different hotel?

It leaves the guests to party, and you have had as much of your reception as you feel comfortable with.

Idiophreak

jenhug wrote: »

Have the evening reception as a "normal" wedding, but when you start to feel that the level of sobriety maybe diminishing, have your new hubby "whisk you away" for a surprise night in a different hotel?

It leaves the guests to party, and you have had as much of your reception as you feel comfortable with.

Nice idea in theory...but weddings cost so much these days, we were staying for every minute of ours, even if it killed us

Gloomendoom

quinechinoise wrote: »

What about the OP's welfare?

Huh? Why not quote all I said? Or didn't you read that far?

I made it quite clear, or at least I thought I had, that my post had little to do with the OP's original question. The OP has a problem that isn't rooted in selfishness.

Although I will mention that my own wedding dress was "only" £40. I would never spend £200 on a dress I'm only going to wear once!

Believe me, if my wife could have got a dress for £40, or less, she would have done. She would agree that £200 is a ridiculous amount of money to spend on a dress that she was only going to wear once.

It worked out at about £100 an hour. :eek:
.
.
.