So say you were getting married..

michelle2008

megan01 wrote: »

Hi everyone thanks for all the replies! I won't be getting married for a while but, just thinking about it at the moment, and I do have a lot of irish relatives who would be coming over and you can imagine how much they would drink I really like the idea of afternoon tea, would you have a meal afterwards though,and would you have alcohol with that? Would it not be reasonable to not have it then?

The reason I don't want alcohol there is because the last time I had alcohol something bad happened to me, which I don't want to be reminded of and hence why I don't like going out to bars or clubs or anything also...

And the English guests will all be loud and the welsh will be cheap!! My goodness what an enlightened lady you are!!

If you truly have a phobia have your wedding at a venue with no bar and don't feel pressured into serving alcohol if it will upset you. If you honestly believe all Irish people are constantly drunk work this into your therapy sessions.

Mojisola

mintymoneysaver wrote: »

The friends of mine who had afternoon tea had their evening meal in the same place. As it was a Christian hotel there was no alcohol on sale at all, just non alcoholic wine for the meal. It was a wonderful, relaxed day, just what they, and most of their guests, wanted.

Jesus was quite happy to make sure the wedding he was at was supplied with alcohol!

Whatever the couple's reason for wanting an alcohol-free do, it is their wedding. It would probably make life easier if they arrange the wedding so that alcohol wouldn't be expected or warn people on the invites so that those who can't enjoy themselves without alcohol don't come.

Other people have compared this with vegetarians not offering meat at the reception. If I was going to the wedding of a committed veggie couple, I wouldn't be worried if all the food was meat-free. No meat-eater is going to suffer from having one meat-free meal!

Gloomendoom

mintymoneysaver wrote: »

The friends of mine who had afternoon tea had their evening meal in the same place. As it was a Christian hotel there was no alcohol on sale at all, just non alcoholic wine for the meal. It was a wonderful, relaxed day, just what they, and most of their guests, wanted.

Our village church serves alcohol. Twice a week.

Gloomendoom

Mojisola wrote: »

Jesus was quite happy to make sure the wedding he was at was supplied with alcohol! !

Yes. Somebody should have reminded the hosts and the hotel of Jesus's first miracle.

onlyroz

Well at my own wedding we put a tab behind the bar to cover soft drinks but said that the guests had to buy their own alcohol. I have no idea if anybody was upset by this, but people seemed to have a good time.

Mojisola

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Yes. Somebody should have reminded the hosts and the hotel of Jesus's first miracle.

I can understand people not wanting alcohol at their wedding, especially if they know some people get out of hand when drunk, but I don't understand them using Christianity as a reason.

Gloomendoom

Mojisola wrote: »

I can understand people not wanting alcohol at their wedding, especially if they know some people get out of hand when drunk, but I don't understand them using Christianity as a reason.

Nor me. There are a lot of ambiguities in the Bible but the importance of making sure that guests at a wedding are amply provided with food and wine is not one of them.

Almo

OP have you considered that you might be subjected to awkward questioning about your decision? Sure that people wouldn't intend to be awkward but if they don't know what happened to you then they might comment/ask which might in turn bring up more bad memories than allowing people a drink in the first place.

I echo others in saying that you need to address your stereotyping of Irish people. It's not nice.

Sommer43

My mother's as Irish as they come and she swears blind she's a member of the Temperance society.

Saint_Chris

thorsoak wrote: »

So if they were offended - why did they accept the invitations? How rude!

Not as rude, as the bride and groom, who sent out invitations, with no mention of the rules in................

And grown adults, some ladies who went our rarely, were told on arrival the rules...................and that they could not drink alchol, unless they went into the bar in the lounge.

Now i'm not a quick drinker, and a glass of wine, takes me ages to drink, i did not fancy, nipping out geting a glass of wine, and trying to drink it quick, to get back to the party, i would imagine more people would be drunk this way.