So say you were getting married..

NAR

bagpussbear wrote: »

I agree, personally I think you should cater for all tastes, or at least have 1 glass of champers/asti/cava etc so people can toast the bride and groom.

Why? Whose wedding is it? Toasts can be done non alcoholic if required.

vegasvisitor

poet123 wrote: »

I think that unless you know that there are those who will drink to excess then you should cater for all tastes. If there was a vegetarian or a vegan amongst your guests would you insist they eat what was being served to you if it included meat?

Or similarly if you were a vegetarian would you feel it necessary to make your guests be vegetarian for the day?

I'd say if you have people who drink to an extent that it makes you uncomfortable you should either speak to them about it (ie ask them not to at your wedding) or just don't invite them. I'm not a big drinker, but personally I'd find it a bit odd if I wasn't allowed a glass of wine with my meal or had to sneak off to a separate hotel bar and have a sneaky drink if I wanted one.

I agree also that a tactful way to avoid alcohol would be to have afternoon tea or similar, that way it's not 'expected'.

Northern_Princess

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I didn't do it for religious reasons (although we are Christians). As you say that makes little sense, we just don't like that for many the automatic thought at a celebration is lots of alcohol!

Not everyone thinks a celebration is about alcohol.

If you would prefer an alcohol free wedding by all means have it.

I have been to many weddings that alcohol is freely available but people chose to have the tea/coffee/soft drinks served at the bar.

We are not huge drinkers but at our wedding I would never have expected our guests not to have alcohol simply because we didn't drink. I can't actually remember seeing anyone drunk at our wedding reception.

Torry_Quine

Northern_Princess wrote: »

Not everyone thinks a celebration is about alcohol.

If you would prefer an alcohol free wedding by all means have it.

I have been to many weddings that alcohol is freely available but people chose to have the tea/coffee/soft drinks served at the bar.

We are not huge drinkers but at our wedding I would never have expected our guests not to have alcohol simply because we didn't drink. I can't actually remember seeing anyone drunk at our wedding reception.

That's fine and I totally think it's up to the couple themselves. We just wanted a different atmosphere, not people sitting with a drink.

We had many compliments and it was the hotel who said that drinks couldn't be brought back from the bar.

I've never been to a wedding with a free bar and have always had to buy any drinks although ironically I can't drink now for health reasons and as my husband is the driver obviously he doesn't drink either.

megan01

Hi everyone thanks for all the replies! I wouldn't be getting married for a while but, just thinking about it at the moment, and I do have a lot of irish relatives who would be coming over and you can imagine how much they would drink I really like the idea of afternoon tea, would you have a meal afterwards though,and would you have alcohol with that? Would it not be reasonable to not have it then?

The reason I don't want alcohol there is because the last time I had alcohol something bad happened to me, which I don't want to be reminded of and hence why I don't like going out to bars or clubs or anything also...

sharnad

not if it really bothered me - i would still have it if I didnt care who had it but not if it really annoyed me

sharnad

megan01 wrote: »

Hi everyone thanks for all the replies! I won't be getting married for a while but, just thinking about it at the moment, and I do have a lot of irish relatives who would be coming over and you can imagine how much they would drink I really like the idea of afternoon tea, would you have a meal afterwards though,and would you have alcohol with that? Would it not be reasonable to not have it then?

The reason I don't want alcohol there is because the last time I had alcohol something bad happened to me, which I don't want to be reminded of and hence why I don't like going out to bars or clubs or anything also...

most people wont care - if you think they will you could have a champagne toast for everyone then just provide wine and soft drinks so you know everyone wont get drunk. Have you talked to someone about your problem

suki1964

megan01 wrote: »

Hi everyone thanks for all the replies! I won't be getting married for a while but, just thinking about it at the moment, and I do have a lot of irish relatives who would be coming over and you can imagine how much they would drink I really like the idea of afternoon tea, would you have a meal afterwards though,and would you have alcohol with that? Would it not be reasonable to not have it then?

The reason I don't want alcohol there is because the last time I had alcohol something bad happened to me, which I don't want to be reminded of and hence why I don't like going out to bars or clubs or anything also...

As an alkie I also worried about others drinking at my wedding, I think I had only been dry a year at the time

I compromised. I had an early wedding, with a lunch served along with wine and lager. No hard spirits.

I thought that most peeps would come along , stuff their faces, have a few glasses of wine, then !!!!!! off down the pub giving me an early night


Oh if only


Still I get guests telling me they had one of the best days at my wedding because it wasn't all about necking as much as they could free of charge. I think the last non staying guests left at 3am, and I was thinking everyone would have been bored and away by 3pm:rotfl:

I had 20 invited guest, and about 60 showed up during the day and it was a day filled with laughter and great memories and a lot of friends making new friends

Oh , my husband is Irish as is my family

Thing is its perfectly acceptable to most to ask other people not to smoke, you have the same right to ask people not to drink ESP if its you hosting and footing the bill

pigpen

My friend had a picnic for her wedding reception and another small do in a cafe so there was coffee and squash and food..

Might it be worth having one glass of fizz for a toast?

Bella73

You could always do a punch which can be as alcoholic or not as you wish.