So say you were getting married..

VestanPance

If you and your partner want an alcohol free reception then do that.

It may put off certain guests wanting to be there though, as most of the UK does seem to have an awful attitude towards alcohol consumption and can't imagine having "fun" without being stupidly drunk.

Saint_Chris

It may put off certain guests wanting to be there though, as most of the UK
does seem to have an awful attitude towards alcohol consumption and can't
imagine having "fun" without being stupidly drunk

Not everybody is like that, going out and getting stupidly drunk, to have fun.

some people, just when on a night out, and all dressed up, enjoy a glass of wine, or a pint.....................after a long week at work.

Person_one

mixenvixen wrote: »

I'd have no problems going to a dry wedding. I'd think someone was a little sad to be honest if they felt they couldn't go one night without a stimulant. Also I'd think someone was a little deranged if they couldn't go one night without meat... Or a cat.

I really resent that kind of argument when this subject comes up.

Trust me, I can manage a night without alcohol, I actually only drink every couple of months at special occasions, such as weddings!

Its not actually the lack of alcohol that bothers me, its the implication about my character that you make when you decide I can't be trusted like a grown up to make the decision of whether I have an alcoholic beverage or not!

Person_one

Girlzmum wrote: »

It is your wedding day and you must do whatever you and your future husband want!

Whatever they want?

This mantra is getting out of control, you only have to look at recent threads about weddings to see that people are taking it far too literally!

lostinrates

I love nice alcohol. I have been to many where it flows freely and is too much. It would not bother me at all to go to a 'dry' wedding. Not in the least. In fact, I have been to one as a child, reflected a religious no drinking imposed by the faith of one of the couple.

If your social circle is less flexible than mine then in might be worth considering a lunch and afternoon wedding, (I wish more people did this fwiw, shorter, daytime weddings).

Whatever you decide have a lovely day.

lostinrates

Person_one wrote: »

Whatever they want?

This mantra is getting out of control, you only have to look at recent threads about weddings to see that people are taking it far too literally!

While I agree with this, I think that it's bizarre to expect tee toilers to supply alcohol, I would also happily go to a vegetarian wedding, a wedding in a faith building not of my choice.

I don't expect everything I want or have whim for to be provided, that's as odd as being a bridezilla IMO. For example, my stamina suffers on long weddings, but I don't expect peon to hold it at a place I can take a nap for a couple of hours!

Spendless

burnoutbabe wrote: »

so nothing to drink during the meal, not even a soft drink (unless you bought it yourself). A drink (even if just water) is usually part of any meal surely.

There might have been water available I don't recall, but otherwise yes, that's right only drinks paid for was the welcoming one and the one to toast the bride and groom. I'm in my mid-40s though and this was far more commonplace in the 70s and 80s when I was younger and first family and then my own friends were getting married. Wine wasn't as 'mainstream' with a meal as it is nowadays.

Person_one

lostinrates wrote: »

While I agree with this, I think that it's bizarre to expect tee toilers to supply alcohol, I would also happily go to a vegetarian wedding, a wedding in a faith building not of my choice.

I don't expect everything I want or have whim for to be provided, that's as odd as being a bridezilla IMO. For example, my stamina suffers on long weddings, but I don't expect peon to hold it at a place I can take a nap for a couple of hours!

Its not even expecting them to supply alcohol, but actively ensuring it isn't present at all, for very uncharitable reasons, bothers me a bit.

The idea of a 'drinking room' in the way there used to be smoking rooms in office buildings isn't very hospitable, is it?

somethingcorporate

Neither my wife or I drink.

When we got married we had the usual drinks for arrival, toasting, wine on the table and even sponsored a free bar in the evening.

Everything was fine, no-one got drunk and I think the guests were more willing to respect the "we don't mind you drinking but do try and be sensible" approach, even with the temptation of the free bar.

I'd suggest do what makes you happy, it is your day.

What made us happy was our guests having a nice time so tried to make the day as fair and flexible as we could. It all worked out perfectly

Good luck.

lostinrates

Person_one wrote: »

Its not even expecting them to supply alcohol, but actively ensuring it isn't present at all, for very uncharitable reasons, bothers me a bit.

The idea of a 'drinking room' in the way there used to be smoking rooms in office buildings isn't very hospitable, is it?

I dunno, when I was a smoker I always found the smoking room quite fun. I would probably Enjoy a drinking room for a while, but I don't think it would make for a very homogenous gathering.