So say you were getting married..

megan01

... and you don't drink alcohol, and neither does your partner. Would you still have alcohol at your wedding, even though the wedding is supposed to reflect you and your personalitys etc, and you don't like being around people when they are drunk?

victory

Have what you want, maybe let the guests know, other than that your wedding, whatever you want goes

Torry_Quine

megan01 wrote: »

... and you don't drink alcohol, and neither does your fianc!. Would you still have alcohol at your wedding, even though the wedding is supposed to reflect you and your personalitys etc, and you don't like being around people when they are drunk?

No I wouldn't and other than the toast I didn't have alcohol at my wedding as I've explained on another thread. If someone 'needed' to get a drink then they had to leave the wedding and go to the bar and not take it back with them. We served only soft drinks.

It's your wedding so do what suits you.

Mojisola

You could have an "afternoon tea" as the reception. No alcohol necessary and everyone gets to go home early and save on hotel bills.

balletshoes

that seems pretty straightforward - No, in those circumstances I wouldn't serve alcohol at the wedding .

thorsoak

Friends of ours are members of the Salvation Army. They don't drink. When they married a few years ago, they had their reception at a local hotel and although they had non-alcoholic wine at their table, they had the genuine article for those who did drink - and it was just a case of chosing which one you had - red, white or non-alcoholic! And the bar was a pay bar - so you just made your usual choice.

I must say that the tee-total guests had as good a time as those who did drink!

I would imagine that their friends didn't include a lot of people who do get drunk!

mintymoneysaver

My friends had a lovely afternoon tea straight after their wedding for lots of guests, and then in the evening they had a dinner just for their close friends and family. No alcohol in the afternoon, and just wine with the meal in the evening.

poet123

I think that unless you know that there are those who will drink to excess then you should cater for all tastes. If there was a vegetarian or a vegan amongst your guests would you insist they eat what was being served to you if it included meat?

balletshoes

poet123 wrote: »

I think that unless you know that there are those who will drink to excess then you should cater for all tastes. If there was a vegetarian or a vegan amongst your guests would you insist they eat what was being served to you if it included meat?

I don't think thats the same thing - the OP says she doesn't like being around drunk people. So offering soft drinks instead of alcohol sounds reasonable to me.

Torry_Quine

poet123 wrote: »

I think that unless you know that there are those who will drink to excess then you should cater for all tastes. If there was a vegetarian or a vegan amongst your guests would you insist they eat what was being served to you if it included meat?

I wouldn't insist that they eat meat but that's not the same as not having something. A better analogy would be if you were vegetarian would you serve meat for your guests who eat it?

Person_one

Why wouldn't you let people make up their own minds, unless you had some moral opposition to alcohol?

I don't like onions or high heels but I wouldn't ban them from an event I was hosting!