Son not inviting all cousin to his wedding?

Torry_Quine

Dunroamin wrote: »

But cousins aren't very close relatives.

Depends on your definition. I would say that cousins are close relatives.;)

Person_one

Dunroamin wrote: »

But cousins aren't very close relatives.

Well, that depends. For some people they are almost as close as siblings, for some they're acquaintances or practically strangers.

Ms_Chocaholic

If I were organising my own wedding I would not be inviting many of my relations, I can't stand the majority of them and never see them; I applaud your son for only inviting who he and his fiancee wants to the wedding.

ValHaller

moromir wrote: »

I'm afraid I'm going against the grain and agreeing with dad.

Weddings are a joyous occasion and if your son isn't close to part of his family thats a real shame and his wedding is an amazing opportunity to reconnect and share this with his family.

It is a total non opportunity if son is not bought into the idea but goes along with it under duress.

Bella73

I agree that it should be up to the Bride and Groom end of.

We didn't invite cousins and I got the "you were invited to xyz's wedding" and to be honest yes I was as a singular person, things have moved on a few years and my cousins who I'd not seen in approx 8 years and never received even Xmas cards, birthday cards (despite sending cards to them and their children) it would have meant inviting 14 people to keep the peace, we didn't and now now even my Aunt and Uncle no longer speak, or send cards or letters anymore but hey ho that's their choice.

I'm still happy we had the friends who see us all the time and have actually been there for us in both good and bad times (unlike my cousins).

We paid for our wedding and had what WE wanted which is how it should be.

My parents have drink issues and I wish to God I'd not invited them either but everyone said I would regret not having them as part of my day, oh how wrong other people can be, not spoken to them since!

marisco_2

Weddings! *shudder*

They are a minefield. My mother managed to cause several family rifts by not wanting to invite a number of my dads side of the family to my wedding.

Leave them all to sort it out between themselves and stay way out of it is my advice. I can understand your ex being upset that some of his relatives are not invited. I think he would regret it very much though if he refuses to go if they dont.

sharnad

its up to your son to invite who he wants he should tell his dad to stop acting like a child. cousins arent always close why should he have them there is he doesnt want them

Robin_TBW

I agree with the first two replies.

If I was getting married there'd be loads of my family not getting invites.

gocurlygirl

My dad told my cousin that I would not be able to come to their wedding(without asking or telling me)and I was a bit surprised not to be invited lol-my aunt told me after the wedding that they were disappointed that I could not go!I had not thought anything bad about them(for not inviting me)as I feel it is such a personal issue and had my share of "why havent you invited x yand z".I enjoyed my wedding seeing many people but some I have not seen since!
When dd gets married it will be a minefield and I feel like telling her to go abroad ,enjoy a small wedding with very select friends/family present and having a party when they return-just to escape dilemmas such as these.I have known people have dreadfully expensive weddings and then have real problems later because of the debt incurred.

CupOfChai

Anyone else think it's a bit rude for non-close family to be asking why they've not been invited? Why did you expect you would be when we hardly know each other's names?

I'm certain that if I ever get married I'll have mum/gran/whoever saying "Aren't you inviting X? You have to invite X!" and I'll be like "Who?"