MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 2

lao_cat

Evening all, hope everyone is having a nice weekend!

Had my first night out since c was born, it lasted all of an hour before DH called to say c wouldn't settl and would t take a bottle for him. I left around 30 mins later and arrived home to a v stressed husband and a screaming lo. Took ages to get him settled and I don't think DH has recovered, he practically threw c at up before I even had my coat of.

Am shattered today, feel like I am fighting a virus and pretty upset that my first night out was cut so short. There have been nights I have been on mu own when he just would t settle for me and somehow I coped with it. c keeps rolling in his cot wnd waking himself up so we are having more night wakings than before I would trade alot for a full night sleep or any kind of a break tbh. DH is normally really good with him but I find he keeps looking for me to take over all the time recently, because he is tired or wants to do xy or z.

Saffagal

Evening all

Welcome claretsgirl I remember you from the pregnancy thread, lovely that you've come over to join us! How are you and DD doing?

On Christmas shopping, I have done ALL mine online - but I hate shopping and can think of no punishment worse than traipsing around a shopping centre. Half the time I can't find what I'm after in store anyway.

continual as others have said, rant away! My OH was pretty good with helping out to start with, but it seems to have worn off as a novelty. He hasn't changed a nappy for almost 2 months or done anything except amuse her, at my request. He then had a go at me this week because I hadn't progressed with the decorating in the lounge (painting, not Christmas decs) whilst he'd been at work... I'm sure he thinks I sit on my backside all day but he's never had her on his own, ever. To be fair, as I bf it was more difficult for him to have had her but she is now capable of going a good few hours without a bf as she will take water from a cup and eat food.

lazywife hope that you're feeling better. Glad that T approves of his cot

minimuffin hope that the phase is short lived!

katie I agree that OH often doesn't notice things; whether or not it is just because he spends less time with LO than me or if it is selective, I'm not yet sure

MrsH hope that LO is difficult for OH tomorrow, and easy for you when next you have him x

Benice I like the idea of a "training weekend" for OH, but think I should start off with a training afternoon perhaps lol I can't remember how old you LO is, but they go through so many phases in the first few months - I could never have gotten A into a strict routine; even now we're very fluid except for bedtime.

fluff hope that you get better soon, I think there is little worse than a mouth ulcer. Glad that Freddie has been ok (if he's had it)

cake hope that you all get better soon. I bought some "calcough" a few months ago when A had a dreadful cough. I gave it to her a couple times at bedtime but not sure it made much difference

AFM, we went to her second ever birthday party today - my friend's little one's 3rd birthday. A was the youngest official guest but still had a ball on the bouncy castle and the slides (under supervision!). OH stayed home and got on with the decorating still loads to do though

Night all x

Saffagal

lao_cat my OH is just the same... it's exhausting isn't it! Sorry that your night was cut short, but well done on getting out for an hour all the same!

delain

Ewww Fluff, I hope you're feeling better now!

Hugs to those with struggling OH's. I am very thankful for my OH in that way as he is a baby sedative (plonk one on him and they both go to sleep :rotfl:) but he does my head in with the shouting sometimes

lobey

Hi ladies, sorry to hear some of you are back to sleepless nights after having some sleep I think our LO's like to keep us on our toes so we get used to the good stuff then they suddenly turn things upside down!

Continual I think most of us feel the same way. I have felt a little trapped bfing knowing that I can't really be more than 3 hours away from her but would appreciate more help around the house occasionally, not having to be told but using his initiative. I am lucky the I'll have dinner cooked for me while I feed her most evenings but cleaning, washing and shopping all seem to be my role! We are sharing a few of the pre bed feeds now though since I'm expressing but I also need to learn to relax and go to bed instead of starting other jobs with the extra time!

Muffin I can't remember if it was you who suggested the dream feed? LO has been sleeping around 7 hours each night for the past 2 weeks (she's 8 weeks now) and she'll also sleep 7-10pm ish (probably longer if we didn't wake her) but what is the best technique for this 'dream feed'? Do I properly wake her up and wait to feed her a bit until she's properly awake so she takes a proper feed (usually results in screaming and struggling to settle for another couple of hours), or just wake her to change her nappy then she usually falls asleep while feeding and won't sleep quite as long? Just wondering which methods are working for you guys?

Cake4brains

Sorry for all the ladies having issues with their OH and babies

I thought it was just me going through all this tbh . OH used to get away with saying he didn't know what the babies wanted and passing them over to me (as if I knew everytime!), but he definitely doesn't have that excuse now they're older. I have taught the girls some basic signs so they can tell me if they are hungry, thirsty or tired. So now he has no excuse, its as if he doesn't bother even trying at all. He just doesn't even seem to like being in the same room most of the time

His 'jobs' around the house are general tidying of the kitchen, washing pots and making bottles up. I don't think that's excessive but apparently he does everything and I don't contribute enough. Cos looking after 2 babies is oh so easy

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DayDreamBeliever_2

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Hi ladies, really sorry to just appear after such little contributions lately but I need someone else's opinion and didn't want to be ridiculously insensitive and ask on the TTC threads but there is a second line isn't there? My oh is adament he can't seen one and we haven't told anyone I stopped taking the pill so can't ask anyone in the real world if that makes sense?

Cake4brains

I would say yes there is a 2nd line :T

Run out and get a digital test!

DayDreamBeliever_2

Everywhere is shut now, I tried the only 2 petrol stations open and neither sell pregnancy tests will be queuing outside the co-op for its 9am opening later lol! I only tested tonight as I am meeting the girls for Xmas lunch tomorrow and was planning on a couple of wines with no real belief it'd be positive as only just came off the pill :eek:

Cake4brains

Aw, I will check back in the morning. Fingers crossed for you both x