MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 2

continualdiamond

Nice to read that Im not alone re family in the beginning being too much.

My inlaws are local, 30mins away at the most. I don't have a close relationship with them in the sense of popping round on my own to see them etc. Never been shopping with my MIL or anything like that.

Though I do appreciate that they're the only people we can babysit for us, in fact they're just before xmas as its my hubby's work do.

Anyway moving on. Re the sleepings bags, I've just started using them (Scarlett is 6 wks old on Sunday) and I use 2.5 tog ones. It doesn't have sleeves and then she wears a sleep suit underneath, no vest.

If you look on the gro bag website a 2.5 tog is recommended for every season except summer. You just adjust what clothing they wear underneath. They have a table as well that tells you the tog and nursery temperature and then tells you what your baby should be wearing.

lobey

Sorry your dr is being rubbish mrsH, it must be very worrying for you. Hopefully they will sort out that referral soon and you can have some piece of mind that they're looking into it. Fingers crossed you don't have to wait too long.

Had a strange night, A drifted off to sleep at 11.45 after screaming on and off the breast for almost an hour. Then I woke up with the let down at 2.50 (she us usually feeds somewhere between 2-3.30 in the night), she was asleep so I fell back to sleep until 5 and she was still fast asleep! I decided to wake her for a feed at 5.15 as is been told not to leave her more than 4 hours between them until she is 8 weeks old. However I'm wondering if she is just getting into the swing of things and would have slept longer? I'm cursing myself for worrying about this as I loved the extra sleep then I was too nervous to go back to sleep wondering if she was ok!

fluffnutter

Re. sleeping, I think these are awesome. Bags with legs basically. Detachable sleeves and matching booties. You can't really use them straight away but we started at around four or five months and he's still in them now. I'll never use anything else.

http://www.jojomamanbebe.co.uk/sp+sleep-snugglers-25-tog+B7186?tyah=y

katiechoc_2

Morning ladies

Sorry some are struggling with parents and inlaws. As others have said it does get easier, but there are always going to be differences of opinion with how you choose to parent your child. And I'm sure it'll be the same when our LOs have their own kiddies. I just smiled, nodded vaguely and carried right on with how I was doing it.

G's snazzy new bedding didn't make a blind bit of difference to his sleep last night, as expected lol. But it looks cute as hell. Wish it was my bed

Hope everyone has good days

Claree__x

Getting a wee bit concerned about Eilis' sleep. She sleeps through the night which is great but at about 4am she gets really restless and almost like she's distressed - but she doesn't wake up. She thrashes about and grunts and "ach"'s which wakes me up - this goes on 'till I either bring her into bed with me to get some peace (even then I have to soothe her) or she wakes up.

I tried putting her down without her swaddle last night but she woke up crying instead of whimpering so it seems to have made her worse. I'm not sure what to try 'cause it's waking OH up at 4am when he's got work. I'm worried that if I lift her she'll wake and cry 'cause she's not done sleeping. It's honestly like she's having a bad dream every night!

lazywife

Re sleeping bags. We use 2.5 tog now it's colder at night. T has a vest and sleepsuit (had longsleeved vest last night, but usually only short sleeved vest underneath) & although he gets cold hands his body is always roasty toasty. What we have done is set the thermostat on heating, so the lowest it goes is 16 degrees at night (used to have heating off until early morning). Early on we used M&S sleepsuits which have the little fold over hand bits, so that kept them a little warmer, but then T started to suck on them so had cold, wet hands instead!
Lobey, at 8 weeks if she wants to sleep through, I'd let her. If she was feeding all evening, then sounds like she was stocking up... this may be the beginning of sleeping through for you. If you're nervous to let her go too long in the mornings, I'd bang around a bit to see if she'd wake naturally with your morning mooching about. If not try again after 30mins or so. I don't like to wake them if in a deep sleep, as I'm sure they don't feed properly if their too sleepy anyway.
Nessie, your Mum sounds like she just wanted a bit more attention than she was getting. Maybe "book" a time that you can do something, eg day shopping with your LO and her for bits for her house, she might feel a bit more involved, but it's on your terms?
MrsH hope things get sorted soon. Can't be nice, I'd have the same concerns & get well soon for your Grandad. Hugs from T & me.
L.xxx

Gillyx

Morning everyone, I had a faulty phone line so no internet :eek: only on my phone and I can't cope typing on the forum on that, this forum is so not mobile internet friendly.

Hope everyone is well, and welcome and hugs to the newbies.

Just a few quick ones, I too felt trapped when I first had A, but I know now that being baby led is so much better than trying to put a routine in motion that baby knows nothing about. It's less stressful, it's like trying to put a square peg into a round hole. Even now at almost 2 years my life is so very different and as much as he fits in as much as he can there are certain things that need to be done in a certain way, a leisurely stroll around the shops was possible when he was a small baby, now no way in hell, it's get in, get out. He's out of his pram now though which just adds to the chaos. I do think you come to accept it and adjust to the new way of life, it took me a while though

If you can use an app or just a good old fashioned note book and jot down the times for everything, feeding, sleeping etc and you may see in a few days a loose pattern may start to appear and you can work with that.

Also families are a nightmare once you've had a child :eek: we're still going through it 22 months later

P.s sleeping bags, I used to use a long sleeved vest and a sleepsuit. There hands aren't really an indication of there core temperature, to get a better indication of that feel there neck

Claree__x

Thanks for all the sleeping bag advice. I know the hands aren't a true indication but it still can't be nice for her to have cold hands!

lobey

lazywife wrote: »

Re sleeping bags.

Lobey, at 8 weeks if she wants to sleep through, I'd let her. If she was feeding all evening, then sounds like she was stocking up... this may be the beginning of sleeping through for you. If you're nervous to let her go too long in the mornings, I'd bang around a bit to see if she'd wake naturally with your morning mooching about. If not try again after 30mins or so. I don't like to wake them if in a deep sleep, as I'm sure they don't feed properly if their too sleepy anyway.

Sorry I meant I was told not to let her sleep longer than 4 hours until she was 8 weeks old and she will be 4 weeks tomorrow!

Can't wait to get some of those gorgeous sleeping bags when she is a bit older!

amus

lobey wrote: »

Sorry I meant I was told not to let her sleep longer than 4 hours until she was 8 weeks old and she will be 4 weeks tomorrow!

Can't wait to get some of those gorgeous sleeping bags when she is a bit older!

I would let her sleep for as long as she wants to. DS2 was breastfed and was sleeping from 11-4 pretty much from birth and his weight was always perfect! Perhaps not feeding as much at night will also help with your oversupply issues as apparently this is when most of the hormones are released to encourage milk production.