MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 2

katiechoc_2

You ladies with a goodly supply might want to be prepared when you and OH are feeling a bit...you know *whistles*. Let's just say things got soggy

Finally got his quilt and pillow! Had to trawl round two Argoses as one had the pillow and quilt but no cover and then vice versa. Worth it though, I got thishttp://www.argos.co.uk/static/Product/partNumber/9133435.htm. Seeing as he went completely batty and refused even a bite of his tea and wouldn't calm down for his supper I'm not holding my breath for a big sleep through tonight. Still, means he's in bed half an hour early so making the most of the peace. Dread to think what time he'll be up in the morning...

continualdiamond

Coming on for a bit of a rant, sorry all but need too....

Anyone else had family annoy the hell out of you when you had your 1st child? Im from Australia so of course family have only seen my daughter via skype.

My husband is an only child and i am tired of how many times my mother in law rings. The 1st two weeks it was everyday....

Then on Sunday she came round to help get our floor up ready for the new one and noticed Scarlett had a cold (we'd not said anything on purpose) so when hubby dropped her home she wanted the heating in the car turning up. Scarlett had a vest, sleep suit and a blanket round her, i hardly think she needed heat on full blast in the car.

Then Monday, Tuesday and today she rings to see how she is, arghhhh. Thankfully hubby got annoyed as i thought maybe i was over reacting.

Then getting annoyed at sudden invites for Sunday dinner. Ive lived in the uk for just over 10 years now and never ever have we been invited for tea. Only ever time we eat with them is xmas day. Now we've been for Sunday dinner twice and suddenly got invited for fish/chips when it was my father in laws bday and then again tonight get invited for sunday dinner.

Now i know they wanna see Scarlett but that is kinda the annoying thing, we know its because we have her now. They weren't bothered about just having us round/wanting to see us when we had no children.

Thankfully we actually have something on on sunday so can't go as would of felt bad coming up with an excuse.

I know i sound harsh and i know they wanna see their grand daughter but at the moment its all just a bit too much....

Sorry, rant over now.....and i can breathe

sunshine_1988

katiechoc wrote: »

You ladies with a goodly supply might want to be prepared when you and OH are feeling a bit...you know *whistles*. Let's just say things got soggy

Finally got his quilt and pillow! Had to trawl round two Argoses as one had the pillow and quilt but no cover and then vice versa. Worth it though, I got thishttp://www.argos.co.uk/static/Product/partNumber/9133435.htm. Seeing as he went completely batty and refused even a bite of his tea and wouldn't calm down for his supper I'm not holding my breath for a big sleep through tonight. Still, means he's in bed half an hour early so making the most of the peace. Dread to think what time he'll be up in the morning...

Oh cute we have the mothercare happy town quilt cover.

Hope it helps you, it really has with us - not sure if he thinks he is in our bed or something but its improved massively since we introduced pillow and quilt.

Hopefully your house attracts some interest soon and you get it over with quickly. Ours has now had a board outside for a year! I cant wait to go!! We are moving ourselves as removal companies want £500!! So I need to start packing asap really!

Hope G sleeps okay for you. x

lazywife

continualdiamond wrote: »

Anyone else had family annoy the hell out of you when you had your 1st child?

Yup. Same here the inlaws showed very little interest in us as a couple previously, now they're inviting themselves over every other weekend. I've put my foot down and they ideally only come every 4 weeks (they live 150 miles away, so when they come they stay for 2-3nights). MIL knows best, so can be a little fractous at times. The thing I find the hardest is that she doesn't like me bf T, as she then can't take him out for the day. She's wanted me to ff from the start, and as difficult bf can be to start with it was very off-putting. I've stuck with it and proud to say I've ebf for 6 months despite family recommendations.
The thing that keeps me sane is that I don't know how I'll be when T is a bit older, I might be very grateful for them to take him off my hands for a day/weekend, so I'm trying to keep things happy between us all incase I do need them more later on.
Good luck!
L.xxx

Claree__x

No huge problem with inlaws for me. Eilis is staying with them for the first time this weekend and I must admit to being a little nervous. Think OH knows this is how I feel but I'm trying to be reasonable since she's stayed at my mums a few times.

Put her to bed without being swaddled tonight and I'm a little worried that her arms / hands will get cold. Do those who use sleeping bags have anything other than a vest / sleep suit underneath?

nessie216

Warning rant ahead!

Just had a massive argument with my mum on phone
Apparantly I have been making it hard for my family to see Rebecca - it all started when mum said she wanted to visit on Friday & said she would be there at 7pm - I asked if she could make it earlier as we wouldn't have time to eat etc before they arrived & wouldn't eat until they left (9ish!) - she said why couldn't I eat earlier as they wouldn't get back from renovating their house until 5 & want to eat before they come round! Considering Rebecca feeds at about 5/5.30ish it's not possible

They 'can't' visit during the day as they at their house 7 days a week so they ca n only visit during evenings - but that is time for my hubby to spend time with his daughter! So the times are for their convenience & she moaned that its always on my terms for them to see Rebecca

So then got told I'm making it difficult for them to see her - arrrrgggghhhh

I think she is jealous that I have been to PIL more than hers - but PIL offer to cook so I don't have to worry bout cooking & washing up as well as sorting out Rebecca before getting out of he house!

Also I was invited to a wedding reception last sat of my friend & my mums friends girl was getting married same day & mum said I could come - I made no promises but said I would try pop into the reception
They day came & we were running late for my friends reception so didn't go to the other one - mum said the next day that she was disappointed that I didn't go

Bearing in mind Rebecca has only turned 6 weeks - I think I have done really well to get out at all (especially after emergency c section) & several people have told me that - so to be told by my own mum that she was disappointed that I couldn't visit 2 receptions was pretty upsetting

Sorry for the rant but I need to vent somewhere!

On a positive Rebecca now weighs 11lb 13oz (birth weight 8lb 5oz) but now I'm slightly worried that she might have reflux & that I might have thrush on my nipples (she has thrush nappy rash but nothing in her mouth)

nessie216

Claree__x wrote: »

No huge problem with inlaws for me. Eilis is staying with them for the first time this weekend and I must admit to being a little nervous. Think OH knows this is how I feel but I'm trying to be reasonable since she's stayed at my mums a few times.

Put her to bed without being swaddled tonight and I'm a little worried that her arms / hands will get cold. Do those who use sleeping bags have anything other than a vest / sleep suit underneath?

I have Rebecca in a vest & sleep suit & then the sleeping bag - her hands are a little cold (great when bfing in middle of night :eek:) but her body is warm which is the main thing!

What does everyone dress their babies in durin the day? I'm still in hospital habit of sleepsuit & vest - is it normal?

*Nutella*

nessie216 wrote: »

What does everyone dress their babies in durin the day? I'm still in hospital habit of sleepsuit & vest - is it normal?

My LO was in vest & sleepsuit for at least 3-4 months...

Mrshaworth2b

Hi Nessie,

Gosh your mum seems inconsiderate, I would just ignore her. If she wants to come and see her grandchild she needs to do it when convenient for you. Especially as Rebecca is so young. I know how hard it is to arrange life around feeding times. My oh had to get used to tea not being ready for him because my lo feed landed right at the time of him getting home. Don't worry over it, she's being the silly one.

Had such a horrid day yesterday, I've been having problems with bleeding after sex and went to my dr 4 weeks ago, he said (without checking) he thought my cervix need cauterisation and would refer my to a gynae. I rang drs yesterday after not hearing anything and was told he hadn't referred me (I've held off having sex since the appointment and worried myself it was something more sinister) so I kicked off because I've been so worried, I managed to see someone else yesterday and had a smear done, the nurse said my cervix looks fine so now I'm really worried that it's something more sinister and I'm also ringing back on Monday to have a go at the original dr!

Then I find out my grandad (89) has had a fall and is quite battered with broken ribs etc, his pacemaker is also slowing down. So I'm feeling quite rubbish at the minute, worrying over myself and for him.

Sorry to be all "woe is me" lo is teething again, rash on face and bright red bum! Never ends once it starts does it?

Hope everyone else is ok

fluffnutter

continualdiamond wrote: »

Coming on for a bit of a rant, sorry all but need too....

Anyone else had family annoy the hell out of you when you had your 1st child? Im from Australia so of course family have only seen my daughter via skype.

My husband is an only child and i am tired of how many times my mother in law rings. The 1st two weeks it was everyday....

Then on Sunday she came round to help get our floor up ready for the new one and noticed Scarlett had a cold (we'd not said anything on purpose) so when hubby dropped her home she wanted the heating in the car turning up. Scarlett had a vest, sleep suit and a blanket round her, i hardly think she needed heat on full blast in the car.

Then Monday, Tuesday and today she rings to see how she is, arghhhh. Thankfully hubby got annoyed as i thought maybe i was over reacting.

Then getting annoyed at sudden invites for Sunday dinner. Ive lived in the uk for just over 10 years now and never ever have we been invited for tea. Only ever time we eat with them is xmas day. Now we've been for Sunday dinner twice and suddenly got invited for fish/chips when it was my father in laws bday and then again tonight get invited for sunday dinner.

Now i know they wanna see Scarlett but that is kinda the annoying thing, we know its because we have her now. They weren't bothered about just having us round/wanting to see us when we had no children.

Thankfully we actually have something on on sunday so can't go as would of felt bad coming up with an excuse.

I know i sound harsh and i know they wanna see their grand daughter but at the moment its all just a bit too much....

Sorry, rant over now.....and i can breathe

I really struggled with my mum in the first few months. But it gets easier. If your inlaws are local, then foster that relationship. It comes in handy when your baby is a toddler, you're exhausted, and your child's bored. I go to see my parents for a few hours most days in the week and I can honestly say they've saved my sanity.