MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 2

continualdiamond

I can sympathise with the 'break' thing. A few nights ago when i was in the bath, hubby bought her in and said to me 'what does she want' :rotfl:

I was honest i said i didn't know, the look on his face was priceless.

I knew he wanted me to get out of the bath and have her but i didn't offer, i was selfish for once and let him deal with her when shes unhappy. Thought sod it, why should he just have her when shes asleep or in a happy mood.

amus

Claree__x wrote: »

Usually I would but I'm sniffling away and freezing while all wrapped up in the house, I don't think it'd be a great idea to go out

She's quiet now, shoved in front of the TV with a dummy in her mouth, feel awful.

Don't feel awful give yourself a break!


Don't feel guilty about leaving baby crying for a bit, I have a 6 year old and a three year old, and if I didn't leave the baby crying in her cot sometimes I would never get out of the house in time to get them to pre school/school.


I know its not everyone's cup of tea, but if I know baby isn't hungry, isn't unwell, has a clean nappy on, has been winded I will leave her crying for a bit if I'm in the middle of doing something like making the boys' dinner. Even though i don't like hearing baby cry, It's far less stressful than trying to get things done whilst trying to attend to a crying baby every 30 seconds. They really won't come to any harm being left to cry for a bit in a safe place.


One thing I've learned is not to put too much pressure on myself to be super mum, a stressed mummy benefits nobody. So what if baby is in front of the TV for 20 mins whilst you have a sit down?

lazywife

Cute pjs Nutella, love that she's wearing them already.
Claree, aw, my DH I'm sure thought that the days at home with LO were me eating cake and watching tv. Slowly he's realising that I am working hard too. He sees his evenings as a break from work. What we found worked well was once a week he has LO completely for an hour or so in the evening, I don't ask any more of him than that, I'm not in the room at all so he has free reign. It means he gets a bit more involved and also gets a small indication of how tiring it can be (and I get a cut off). On BLW get the book, but also does your surestart / children's weigh in do a weaning talk? I went to it and they now completely recommend BLW, not purees, the fact it's the recommended way from the professionals might reassure him. Hope you start to feel better soon.
I've had a hard day. Now we've started BLW the whole days seems so focussed around food. T's feeding (bf) a little more often, I'm not sure if it's hunger, thirst, or comfort as we're presenting him with all these new things. We're giving him bits of food as we eat, so brekkie, lunch and tea time, not really prepping anything different, but it's getting him in seat, getting his coverall on, giving him time to explore what he wants tidying him up after etc means meals are 30 mins or so (I'm used to a quick 5 min wolf it down).
So today we've had bf@6am, bf@8am,BLW@9am,bf10.30am,BLW@12, bf@1,bf@3, now he's asleep at least, so may well go through to 5.30.... hopefully, then BLW@6.30 @ start night time at 7.30. Not really more than an hour at any time without doing the next feeding thing! I hope it improves soon. Surely it must stagger at least back to the every 3 hr feeds he used to be on?!? I find myself thinking offering him food is just a hassle, rather than encouraging this next developmental stage. Boo
L.xxx

Saffagal

Claree/ big hugs! I have had a very similar conversation with OH re his view that as he goes out to work he needs a break in the evenings. And my break is when exactly? As I have A all day, all evening, all weekend and if she wakes in the night! So I don't think that it is unreasonable for him to have her for an hour in the evening so I can have a break/cook dinner/just be me. After a strike on his laundry, well I need a break sometime don't I he's starting to see things my way

Re BLW, I told OH early on that that is the route I want to take and sensibly he agreed. I say sensibly as he goes out to work 5 days a week so couldn't realistically stop me. The other thing regarding BLW is with the puree route, babies used to be weaned anywhere from 3-4months old at which stage they could only cope with puree. Even with traditional weaning (purees), finger foods should be introduced from 6months so by waiting to start weaning until baby is 6months old you can skip out on the purees

Nutella LOVE those pjs and of course she can wear them already - need to prepare in advance for Santa's visit don't you

lazywife I'm only doing breakfast and lunch with A at the moment, and that if we're home - cannot face doing it out just yet. If she's still up when we're having dinner (we tend to eat quite late) then I'll let her have a little but at present her milk is still her primary intake and I'm not letting it stress me out. Today she had breakfast and then bf before we went out as I had an appointment. After the appointment I had lunch out, she had bf then we went to baby group. When we got home later (about 4pm) I needed to do some bits in the kitchen, she was in a good mood as had had a nap in the car, so I gave her some finger foods to munch on whilst I did my bits in the kitchen. I keep telling myself it is very early days yet and we will get there.

AFM, feeling a bit rubbish at the moment; basically my (job) service has come up for tender and as a result of the outcome we are losing half the posts and everyone has to reapply for their jobs, myself included. As I have no family in the country and due to the very short notice of any scheduled meetings regarding all of this, in order for me to attend any meetings, I have to take A with me - what a hoot that will be!!! Oh well... such is life!

lazywife

Aw Saf, the last thing you want is your job in question. Does you being on mat leave help? My sis had similar thing whilst off on mat leave and they couldn't make her redundant as her job was secure whilst on mat leave and would return after reshuffle.
If not, the fact you're still attending the meetings despite no childcare shows your commitment to the post.x

BeNiceToMySelf

lovely PJs Nutella and the bottoms could be worn anytime

hugs to Claree, hope you get that 'break' soon

Mrshaworth2b

Hello everyone

Having a night of feeling sorry for myself, I know it's all tiredness and I'll be back to normal in a couple of days but just want to wallow for one night lol.

Sorry to hear your having work probs saffa, last thing you need when your on maternity.

Claree - everyone has their bad days, I used to get so anxious when my lo cried. I just wanted to make it better for him, gradually after time I got less and less anxious and now it doesn't bother me at a because I know it's not going to hurt him if he cries for more than two seconds lol.

We went and ordered mamas and papas sola today, our other travel system is the poopiest! And I wanted rid, didn't have to talk oh round, as soon as he saw it he wanted it got my own way at last.

On a night out on Saturday, looking forward to it but also can't be bothered either. But I haven't done something for myself in a long time

delain

What was your other system mrsh?

Hope everyone else doing OK

We have been reading 'The Very Busy Spider' tonight (Eric Carle - hungry caterpillar man!) was reading it with little miss when she was in bed and we had hugs was lovely

katiechoc_2

*Nutella* wrote: »

A woman after my own heart How did the viewing go yesterday?

It went well-ish -the guy made a silly low offer, even at his best offer it was £9k less than the asking price so turned it down. Oh well, just have to wait for another viewing. Thanks for asking

Love the pjs! I love a good Christmas jumper in a cheesey sort of way

*Nutella*

delain wrote: »

We have been reading 'The Very Busy Spider' tonight (Eric Carle - hungry caterpillar man!) was reading it with little miss when she was in bed and we had hugs was lovely

That does sound lovely I'm really looking forward to the day when my LO has the patience to listen to a whole story from beginning to end! She loves her books and will happily sit and flick through them for quite a while, and also loves sitting on my/OH's lap looking at books, but she rarely spends more than 30 seconds on each