MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 2

Bangton

continualdiamond wrote: »

Evening all.

Day 2 for me of not getting dressed. How is it that you can have a really good day (Sunday) and then 2 rubbish days???

Sunday was great. I was on a high with how well it went. We managed to be out the door and at our coffee catch up on time in the morning with the other 3 couples from antenatal class.

Scarlett was perfect, had a small feed whilst we were out but wasn't fussy and never cried. I then went to a craft show with a friend leaving her with daddy for the 1st time for a few hours. He got on really well on his own and Sunday night we had a good night with her.

Then yesterday and today I haven't been able to do anything right by her, she has constantly wanted to sleep on me and when she has its only been for an hour max and then is wide awake for ages but is tired and fighting the urge to sleep.

Will admit her increase of times crying today has got to me and whilst rocking her from side/side with saying 'shhhh' which she does like as it eventually soothes her I had my moments of tears going down my cheeks.

Just when I thought I had things sorted so to speak I now feel it's gone backwards. Doesn't help that I ended up with a slight infection in my c section wound either so now on a course of antibiotics and then had the daft idea yesterday of starting the diet to get the 3 stone baby weight off.

Think I might need to hold off on that for now as just seems too much to do at once.

Hoping for a better day tomorrow, though am at the dentist to sort out my toothache that I've had since July as they wouldn't xray due to me being pregnant. But actually looking forward to it as want it sorted.

It's really hard isn't it. I've been exactly the same. If we have a good day I'm on top of world. If baby is off I can be known to cry once I get some time to myself. Some days it feels like all I have to look forward to for months and months is up and down emotions dependent on how baby is feeling.

At the moment he's lovely but very clingy and won't go down at all. In my pregnant mind, baby was going to cry for feeding and changing and rest of time be sleeping or looking lovingly at me!!!!

continualdiamond

I can totally relate to the way of your thinking bangton with the baby was going to cry for feeding/changing etc.

I've even found myself out aloud saying 'what do you want' to her. I mean seriously, just daft. I think I'd faint if she replied, hahaha.

I have cried more times in the last 3 1/2 weeks of her actually being here than I ever did when I was pregnant with her. I hardly ever had any tears when I was pregnant and assumed I would based on what you hear and see in films etc.

I can't wait for hubby to get in. He's in at 8pm, he left the house at 6:30am today. Though then I feel slightly guilty as he's been hard at work just like me so seems a bit selfish to then pass on the duties to him.

Can now make myself some tea as just taken 2 hours to get her back to sleep after the usual feed, nappy changed and outfit changed.

Oscar_the_Pug

Gillyx wrote: »

Another thought I have had is reflux, reflux and tongue tie do go hand in hand in a lot of cases, reflux babies will feed and feed and feed for comfort, they also want to be held upright all the time and don't tend to lay flat in there Moses basket/cot. Do any of these sound familiar? They also don't tend to be brilliant sleepers.

Thanks Gilly I will look into that. I didn't think it was reflux because she sleeps relatively well at night: she'll go 6 or 7 hours about 5 nights a week, but does seem to prefer being upright even for feeding. I hate the idea of there being something 'wrong' with her

Gillyx

Oscar_the_Pug wrote: »

Thanks Gilly I will look into that. I didn't think it was reflux because she sleeps relatively well at night: she'll go 6 or 7 hours about 5 nights a week, but does seem to prefer being upright even for feeding. I hate the idea of there being something 'wrong' with her

It's often simple to medicate with, but once weaning starts it can clear up as they have more solid stuff in there tummies. Just an idea to keep an open mind glad she's sleeping well for you though, makes all the difference x

Mrshaworth2b

Oscar, just want to but in, my lo suffered from reflux but slept through from 8 weeks, it is common for sleeping problems but doesn't always happen

Bangton

continualdiamond wrote: »

I can totally relate to the way of your thinking bangton with the baby was going to cry for feeding/changing etc.

I've even found myself out aloud saying 'what do you want' to her. I mean seriously, just daft. I think I'd faint if she replied, hahaha.

I have cried more times in the last 3 1/2 weeks of her actually being here than I ever did when I was pregnant with her. I hardly ever had any tears when I was pregnant and assumed I would based on what you hear and see in films etc.

I can't wait for hubby to get in. He's in at 8pm, he left the house at 6:30am today. Though then I feel slightly guilty as he's been hard at work just like me so seems a bit selfish to then pass on the duties to him.

Can now make myself some tea as just taken 2 hours to get her back to sleep after the usual feed, nappy changed and outfit changed.

Oh god me too..in my stupid baby voice I just keep saying 'what's up..hmm? What's up?' as though he's going to say 'actually mum my belly hurts!!'

My sister (god absolutely love her) has him for 2 hrs a week at moment as she is smitten with him. Today when she visited we were chatting about babies and how you can be totally bamboozled by them. I mean, on the whole Jeff is a good baby..really really good in fact but he has his cranky moments (which throw me totally!!) but we were saying it could be a myriad of things - he could have headache (if babies get them!), an itch, his nappies scratching him, belly ache, a huge bogey stuck up his nose (like my LO had today until he sneezed and it shot out...biggest bogey I've ever seen from the smallest nostrils I've ever seen!!)...and we've no idea so we just have to try and soothe them and hope for best which makes me anxious!!!

Last week we had 3 bad days in a row and I woke on day 4 feeling sick with fear..actual fear! No one tells you about that when your pregnant or that you might resent sitting there rocking a moses basket for an hour straight when you have a ton of things to do! Slowly, slowly though I am finding my feet.

I've found little things that keep me sane this week. Last night we all got into bed. I barely spend any time there so just being under duvet was bliss. Baby laid on top under his cellular and OH sat up reading at the side of us while I chatted to baby and we cat napped with OH watching over us to make sure I didn't roll and crush bubs! It relaxed us all and providing we are not both tired or I'm not alone with baby I'll do that if I need a moments relaxation or peace! I'm also trying to go for a walk everyday with the pram which is actually really refreshing in the rain when you've had no sleep!

Defo going to baby clubs as well - I need to know all new mums are like me!!:D

IHateDida

Bangton wrote: »

In my pregnant mind, baby was going to cry for feeding and changing and rest of time be sleeping or looking lovingly at me!!!!

:DOh god...I can relate to that...I thought they slept more during the day - as soon as you put them down in their cot - Ha, fat chance!

Oscar - our LO was tongue tied and sometimes it takes an age to get her settled, especially when feeding. She doesn't like lying down either. But she has got better as time has gone by. I do think she suffers quite a bit from wind as she is still a bit sucky on her bottles.

My LO has been a nightmare today - we visited a friend where she wailed most of the time - so much so, I apologised and left early. Her well behaved baby just looked at my LO with a bemused look!

So I went for a long walk...and butter wouldn't melt when we went round my Aunt's....then wailing banshee returned for the "witching hour" when we got back home!

We have LO's xmas pressie also - I got her some Bella Butterfly lights from Laura Ashley (to match other stuff in her room - they were 40% off!), a VTec baby walker (ok...a bit premature) and a VTec crawling ball thing. Probably spent £40.

We put her Jumperoo together at the weekend - my goodness its large - we've got to take it to bits to transport it through the lounge door! She's still a bit small for it so it will just have to sit around a while longer....!

*Nutella*

Uh-oh, Sainsbury's 25% off clothes is back, ends Monday. I will be strong and stay away, we really really don't need anything.

There. I've said it in public and you can hold me to it

Claree__x

D'you know what? It's really lovely to know that other new mums struggle too. No offence ladies cause I'm certainly not wanting you to struggle or wishing bad days on you but I was beginning to fear that it was just me.

Bangton

Claree__x wrote: »

D'you know what? It's really lovely to know that other new mums struggle too. No offence ladies cause I'm certainly not wanting you to struggle or wishing bad days on you but I was beginning to fear that it was just me.

I'm with you. .. I have to know I'm not the only one! ! I said to my mum today 'this is the pits' .. and I truly meant it! Then baby fell asleep on me and near on purred and I thought 'thus is amazing' ... and on goes this cycle of loving it and disliking it all at once! Oh and tiredness. ..Jesus I passed that ages ago. I don't know what I am now but all I can think of is my bed and how to be reunited with it. .I am exhausted!