MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 2

Sammie_03

Hi everyone,

Sunshine - not long now until Aidens birthday!

Been busy with ds2, I have had a few meetings with his teachers to find out how he is coping regarding the aspergers etc. he will be going up to junior school in September and I'm worried how he will cope with the change. he is coming on leaps and bounds with his learning though which is fab. He's my little professor.
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Gillyx

Sounds perfectly normal to me Cake. We fed in the night until around 28 weeks, he stopped waking himself x

Cake4brains

Thanks Gilly, Granny also said they should be on purees now. And they will definitely sleep through the night then. Really annoys me when she says that :mad:

She also told me I was a bad girl for having them in with me so we could all get some sleep. I told her as long as the babies were happy and I had enough sleep to be able to function and look after them, that was alright with me!

The girls have just woken up from their afternoon nap. 3hours long! I normally put them down for 45 mins or so about 10.30 then an hour at 2ish (if it ever goes to plan that is!) but we were at docs this morn so thought I'd let them have just 1 long nap. What naps does everyone else do?

Gillyx

I think with the older generation it was the done thing to wean earlier but things are so different now. The calories in any sort of fruit/veg puree are a lot less than there are in milk. So the body burns through it just the same if not quicker. I don't think once a night is too bad at all, but it's really how you feel

We only have one nap now (if he even takes it :eek: ) but he was 2 a day up until around 10/11 months x

P.s We used to co-sleep in the early days, I didn't mention it to parents or grandparents as I knew it would be frowned upon but as long as it's done safely there is no reason why it's 'bad' sometimes you just need a bit of sleep x

martafdz

Cake, just ignore all that "advice", it is generally over two or three decades old and the guidelines and recommendations have changed. Previous generations think it's mad this thing of feeding on demand. Just remember that in all those same years, a lot of research has been done and they would not change the official advice if the old habits were better. So, basically, you are right and know better

My LO is 12 weeks. During the night I can put her back in the cot after a feed without problem, but I cannot just "put her in the cot" for bed time or for a nap, I need to bounce her and walk up and down the room. I read that after this week they get very settle into current habits, so I really want to change them, even if it is by having her to sleep on my lap, instead of having to keep moving all time! I have only tried a couple of times to get her to sleep in some other way, first on her cot and me leaning over her and touching her belly, then on the bouncer with a similar approach, on my lap and bouncing on the gym ball... nothing, she just screams until purple red (she never does it) and I have to put her again upright, leaning on my breast and me walking up and down. I know I brought it on myself by having her on the sling at all times when she was little, but ... well... what can I do? She is getting bigger, heavier and I know I have to change the routine, I just don't know how.

Aimless

Cake4brains wrote: »

Back into a routine today, the girls are in their cot having a nap while I sit with a cuppa and a bakewell tart :T. Wasn't a bad night really, they both went to bed at 9.30, took a while to get them to sleep cos of wind pains. Mollie was awake at 3.15 and was wide awake til 4am. I'd just got her to drop off as Amelia woke. She had a couple ounces of formula and fell back to sleep at 4.30. Then was back up at 6.30 with them both wide awake so had them in my bed BF while I had a little snooze

Can I just ask how old were yours when they stopped feeding though the night? We only usually have the 1 feed before 6am is that normal? According to Granny they should be sleeping all night long without feeds at this age :cool:

I'll let you know when he finally does! 14 months soon and still likes a night feed.

We were given the paracetamol too, guess they don't read the studies as nothing was said about using it or not.

morocha

cake, today Jis 6 weeks and she naps at 11, at 1 at 3 at 5 at 7 and at 9. everytime no more than 30 min.

marta, i used to put dd1 in the pushchair ad rock her to sleep every night for 4 months, it was not fun but it was the only way she would sleep 2 hs then feed then anotherr hs rocking.. it was madness... at 4 month i decided to put an end to this and put her in her cot, let her there, she cried i went in, cuddle then out again, until she settled, it tooked me 2 days and it was great afterwards.

ive finally done !! Jade slept in her basket last night but in the middle of the night she seemed to have a blocked nose so i kept her with me, i need to be strong and let her sleep there tonight otherwie she will get mixed messages.

fluffnutter

Cake4brains wrote: »

Thanks Gilly, Granny also said they should be on purees now. And they will definitely sleep through the night then. Really annoys me when she says that :mad:

She also told me I was a bad girl for having them in with me so we could all get some sleep. I told her as long as the babies were happy and I had enough sleep to be able to function and look after them, that was alright with me!

The girls have just woken up from their afternoon nap. 3hours long! I normally put them down for 45 mins or so about 10.30 then an hour at 2ish (if it ever goes to plan that is!) but we were at docs this morn so thought I'd let them have just 1 long nap. What naps does everyone else do?

I think my parents are pretty enlightened and relaxed about stuff but, even so, I know deep down that they don't think I should still be offering Freddie the boob. When my brother and I were babes it was the norm to start weaning at three or four months. As a consequence my parents think it's odd that my baby's not now eating three meals a day (he's eight months). They think baby-led weaning's some bizarre nonsense and despite my saying that Freddie can manage some banana, my mum's still mushing it up for him with a bit of milk so that he can be spoon-fed.

Each generation has its own child-rearing protocol and it's very difficult to shake that. No doubt we'll all be looking at how our sons and daughters do things with their kids thinking 'In my day, we did *this*'...

In terms of naps... ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha. If only. That's all I have to say on the matter

fluffnutter

Cake4brains wrote: »

Can I just ask how old were yours when they stopped feeding though the night? We only usually have the 1 feed before 6am is that normal? According to Granny they should be sleeping all night long without feeds at this age :cool:

Cake, Freddie's eight months now and still wakes every two hours for a feed during the night. Now, that's fairly unusual and is in part to my laziness around weaning him. But rest assured, your girls are very young to be sleeping through the night.

I heard some stats today. By 9 months most babies will have slept through the night, just not every night. However, 27% will still be waking for feeds/comfort most nights. The official advice is not even to try influencing a baby's sleep patterns before 6 months because it can raise their cortisol (the stress hormone) levels. After 6 months you can try some sort of sleep training if you like, but studies have shown that the benefits are usually temporary.

Babies will find their own patterns eventually, in their own time.

katiechoc_2

Evening all, cake did you have any luck taking your phone into a shop?

Re sleeping through - George is 10 months and he's slept through (bedtime 7.30pm til 6am) three times without a peep, more recently he does that but wakes up once or twice needing us to pop in and give him his rabbit. I stopped night feeds when he was 8.5 months as he was up every 1.5 hours and barely feeding, just comfort sucking and it wasn't doing either of us any good. He's much better now. I waited until he was eating plenty of solid food before cutting the night feeds, and in missing the night feeds there was a jump in the amount of solids he was eating.

My little is growing up - at soft play today he stood up by himself for a good 30 seconds and was racing up and down with a walker. This is definitely my favourite stage so far, he's so much fun