MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 2

Mrshaworth2b

Aw Nutella I hope lo isn't coming down with something, sounds like a very hard day for you

Delain yey for a nice day, I love it when it's a great day with los

Katie yey for g at teatime, it would put me off my tea if lo was screaming through it!

Have you "more southern than me" ladies had any of these spiders every one is harping on about? I'm inspecting every incey and thinking I'm going to get bit and die...... If there's on in the house I'm not afraid to kill it but just the thought of them give me the jeebies!

katiechoc_2

Sounds exactly like how I've felt recently Nutella, hopefully it'll be short lived in your little lady.

Mrsh2b nope no bitey spiders here - although I don't normally look too closely before getting OH to chuck them out the window/squish - depends on size, we've had some monsters recently that even he didn't want to pick up!

Glad you've had a nice day Delain

Night all

Metranil_Vavin

A bit late to the party here, but just wanted to add my 'the first few weeks are really tough, dare I even say horrendous in parts' post!
I'm a second time mum too so you'd think I would have been ready for it but nope! It's sleep deprivation..it can drive you a bit barmy, and all rational thought goes out the window.
Being a first time mum is (I think) one of the scariest and most disorientating things in the world. It doesn't matter how many books you read or classes you go to, nothing prepares you for it..you just have to jump in and get on with it.

As everyone has already said, it does get better and all of a sudden you find yourself really enjoying your baby, but those first 8 weeks or so are tough.

My DD is 9 weeks old now and although she is still waking for feeding every 3 hours, we have managed to establish a routine in the evenings which means we can now at least eat our dinner in peace and have a bit of quiet time. Up until about 2 weeks ago from about 5pm we had the 'witching hour' which would go on till about 10pm. DD would be screaming and nothing I could do would calm her..it was awful. I think she had colic which didn't help matters.

That has finally seemed to have settled down now, and I am finding it a lot easier to cope. Coupled with a demanding toddler, I sometimes wonder how I hang onto my sanity, but in all seriousness, it does get better and by about 12 weeks things are normally a lot easier to handle.

I am looking forward to DD sleeping through the night I have to say, and I think we will be moving her into her cot/own room in the next couple of weeks. She has practically outgrown her moses basket, and from memory DS slept so much better when we moved him out of our room.

IHateDida

Hi MV! Lovely to see you again!

Haha @ "the witching hour":D - that's exactly what we call it - for us its 5-6pm (but could start around 3pm and end when we finally manage to get her to sleep around 7pm). Sometimes we are very lucky and it doesn't happen (especially if we have managed to somehow get her to sleep during the day.....this is like the lottery....sometimes we win....and she sleeps....sometimes we lose....no sleep and "witching" will start mid afternoon!).

In fact we were looking at taking her to a firework display (with ear defenders) which starts at 5.30pm....but have decided we probably won't.....as it overlaps bedtime and she could be totally foul! So maybe next year.....! Anyone else thinking of taking their LO???

Cake4brains

I'm really struggling with the time capsule letters. When I even think about trying to write them I get really emotional, and all I can think about is what if I'm not around anymore when they read it 18 years is such a long time and obviously a lot can happen in that time.

When I 'write' it in my head it all sounds so maudlin as if I'm talking as if I'm not there anymore if that makes sense

This is very hard

mozzyc

Eeek! Haven't been on here for a while, sorry! So good to see so many new boomers, yay! Welcome everybody!

Will pop on tomorrow for a catch up. Hope everyone has a good night xx

nessie216

Up with DD feeding - I swear she must be going through a growth spurt - second feed within the hour!

DH annoyed me earlier, I know it is probably lack of sleep (he still gets at least 7hours a night & hardly stirs when DD cries) but it really hurt me

Apparantley I am not managing my time well, I should be sleeping when DD does in the day, but when she is not settling well & starts fussing within 10 mins of putting her in her Moses basket, I can't see how I can sleep then! & when she does go down for 10 mins I get myself some food or try to do some bits around the house - especially as he gives me the guilt trip when he comes in from work & just says 'I'm getting in the shower & after I will carry on working' I don't think he realises how bad I feel for not being able to do things ATM - I feel totally useless, especially as I can't drive so he has to take me shopping or do it for me & I can't carry/lift heavy things yet

Sorry for the rant, I think lack of sleep is getting to me now - this is always the worse part of the night for me!

Mrshaworth2b

Nessie, at the beginning, I did the same, the only sleep I had was at night between feeds, when lo slept during the day I did washing up, housework, dinner etc. I tried to be the perfect everything! But seriously something will have to give at some point.

If your not getting enough sleep at night then a couple of days of napping when lo does will not hurt. Have you tried co sleeping during the day? My lo slept for a good hour sometimes two if we co slept. It meant I could have a nap. I got so tired once I fell asleep half led down half sat up on a chair for an hour! Very silly!

*Nutella*

Morning

Nessie, I'd second the co-sleeping suggestion. My LO would sleep for 20 mins max in the basket, but cuddled up to me in the big bed she'd sleep for two hours. We had an afternoon nap together every day for several months and I can honestly say it kept me sane. Sleep deprivation is truly awful. I also think most of us have had arguments with our OHs over things that are trivial, but which in a sleep-deprived haze feel like big issues. Having a baby can be tough on your relationship, as suddenly it's all change and nothing can prepare you for that. Have you tried making some practical suggestions to your OH? I found with my OH that he wouldn't necessarily notice what needed doing or realise what he could usefully do, but he did respond positively when I asked for help with specific things. Including letting me sleep one whole, glorious uninterrupted night after I threw up from tiredness (something I never knew was possible until I had a baby). But I had to ask, and asking for help doesn't sit naturally with me. Do whatever it takes to get you through the first few weeks with your sanity intact, and then one day your LO will reward you with the cutest little smile and you'll realise it was all worth it. Big hugs x

My LO ended up in my bed at 11pm last night, then slept all night and was all smiles this morning. Happily waved me off when I left the nursery. So confusing, although I'm of course very pleased that she seemed happy in herself!

Have a good day all x

delain

Mrshaworth2b wrote: »

Aw Nutella I hope lo isn't coming down with something, sounds like a very hard day for you

Delain yey for a nice day, I love it when it's a great day with los

Katie yey for g at teatime, it would put me off my tea if lo was screaming through it!

Have you "more southern than me" ladies had any of these spiders every one is harping on about? I'm inspecting every incey and thinking I'm going to get bit and die...... If there's on in the house I'm not afraid to kill it but just the thought of them give me the jeebies!

We get some really odd looking ones here but none that look exactly like the false widows on the news. We have the big house spiders (we call them 'boris-sized' after an enormous one OH squashed that we called Boris), and crab spiders, and some really creepy looking ones that I find in the bathroom mainly.

Hey MV :wave: it does get easier, I promise!