MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 2

Gillyx

Agree with everyone else, our LO only slept on us for the first 6 weeks or so, they say that they should sleep 20 hours or so a day but in my experience, it really wasn't :eek:

It really is so hard, can you try co sleeping so you can both rest a bit? We used to nap together during the day and it really helped! x

*Nutella*

Evening all

Delain, how did you and the kids get on this morning? Hope it wasn't as wet and horrible as you feared!

Katie, hope George feels better/starts behaving soon

Sunshine, hope Aiden is OK now?

My LO's had a clingy couple of days - she didn't want to nap or go to bed by herself yesterday, and she cried when I left the nursery this morning. But I'm told she had a good day in the end, and this evening she seemed happy enough. I hope she's not coming down with something

Hope everyone's well - I'm about to watch 'Hotel of Mum and Dad' and eat some chocolate

delain

Thanks, Nutella, it wasn't as wet as forecast but it did blow a gale

I'm hoping to get everything sorted out for tomorrow before I go to bed tonight, to help tomorrow morning go more smoothly

I'm just watching that health freaks thing on 4... there's 2 blokes who have sworn by WD40 for arthritis and a tight chest from smoking - Typical bloke! If it's not right put WD-40 on it :rotfl:

sunshine_1988

Bangton, big hugs from us all. You are doing fine, read our posts we have all been there! A would only sleep on me for weeks, one of us would end up crashed out on the chair with him or wherever we were with him. Try not to over analyse things and it wont worry you half as much my LO had colic very badly, now Im not saying yours has it too but perhaps look at the symptoms and see if anything matches. My LO suffered between 6:30pm-anywhere between 10:00 and 2:00am, constant crying. Its draining but it passes. Dentinox worked the best for us but as I say your LO may not have colic at all.
Is your HV nice? I know some arent, but mine was lovely and put my mind at rest a number of times.

Hey guys

LO seemed so much better yday and today, slept through again last night and was alot happier this morning and when I picked him up from nursery. BUT when I got there, sign on the wall - 2 cases of chicken pox!! Uh oh.....



Xxxx

tiny_courageous

Bangton, your LO sounds a lot like mine. 8pm-3am is his awake time, he'll sleep (ish) on one of us and will feed fine, but put him down and he's off. I'm sure it'll pass. It sounds like you're doing absolutely fine, but if you're feeling low do speak to your midwife or health visitor for reassurance.

Cake4brains

Bangton, just wanted to say we've all had the new mum meltdown. And like someone said (sorry, I cant remember) it shows you're a good mum to be worrying you are doing everything right.

I co-slept with the twins for 4 whole months simply cos it was the only way they slept . Tbh, regardless of the negative comments I got IRL, as long as the girls were sleeping and happy, and I was sleeping and refreshed for the day ahead, I didn't care about anything else. I'm not saying you should do this, just that you should find what works for you and go with it.

Because of all the comments I got from certain relatives too, I was worried I was 'spoiling' them and they would get into the habit of having to sleep with me etc. They are fab sleepers now in their own room and usually go from 8pm to 8am. Sometimes 9am if I am lucky :T

Mollie hardly slept at all otherwise when she was tiny. It was a nightmare! She didn't even nap through the day most days :cool:

We are all here anytime you need to chat x


BTW ladies, what time do all your 1 year old upwards LO's go to bed on an evening?

katiechoc_2

Hugs Bangton, I can only repeat what the others have said but honestly how you're feeling is totally natural and we all went through it. It really will get easier. But probably not quite as soon as you get REALLY sick of hearing that

Nutella I've only seen a bit of that show but it looked like my sort of telly . Hope your littlie is ok and not coming down with anything!

whoever asked re bedtimes (apologies as I'm using my phone and its driving me mad!) - G is 17 months and goes to bed between 7 and 8, at around a year it was closer to 7 but now we're a bit more relaxed.

Gillyx

We're the same as Katie, any time between 7-8, closer to 8 now I'd say He goes upstairs around 7 or just before for his bath etc.

Saffagal

Evening ladies and welcome to the new mums

We had a fab week away on the narrow boat, despite my previous misgivings about it - it was absolutely fine with A, and dare I say it... easy! During the day I popped her in the sling and if I was out steering then she was with me - at night, we had a cotside on the bunk as there was no room for a travel cot!

Bangton, it will get better - honest! A will be 6 months this Saturday (where has the time gone!) but in the first about 7 weeks she would ONLY sleep if on me at night and would only nap in the day if I held her/had her in a sling. As I had an emcs, this wasn't always comfortable but it did get easier as each week went by. About 7 weeks (I think) I put her in a sleeping bag and she would then go into her moses basket for a few hours at the start of the night. At 11 weeks she would sleep for four hours, then feed then sleep another 2-3hrs, feed etc at night. At 12 weeks she went into her own room as outgrew the moses basket and she suddenly slept through. She's currently waking once in the night for a super quick feed. What I'm trying to say is little ones don't come with manuals and what works one day may not work the next but it will get easier, especially if you are able to get some sleep. Co-sleeping was my saviour and after looking into it, I did it despite OH not being in agreement. Like I said to him, he's sleeping anyway (didn't hear A and I BF) and if I don't sleep, I won't cope. This stage will pass.

Everyone else, will try to post properly soon - I have read back but can't remember now. It's my folks last week with me before heading home and I am ready for them to go home, much as I'll miss them when they're gone.

Night all!

IHateDida

Bangton wrote: »

New mum meltdown alert!! I truly don't know what I am doing..really, I don't. I wish I could employ some sort of baby coach to show me the way. I spent yesterday in tears, refusing guests and just generally feeling low and anxious. Is this normal?!!!

YES!x
I felt really rubbish and cancelled visitors in the first 4 weeks - no one minds honestly! I didn't feel I could see anyone for ages - sitting on a rubber ring, bawling my eyes and thinking "oh god what have we done".

BUT...it does get soooo much easier and routines will start to establish. I felt terrible when I was still up in the lounge with baby at 11pm (and then 2am etc) when others were telling me that they had put baby to bed at 7pm. I felt as though I was in a real haze - almost like an out of body experience! LOL! (I didn't know whether I was coming or going!)

But now.....(and it started coming together around 1.5-2 months - although I know for some it can take longer), she sleeps through the night (I have found waking her at 11-11.30pm for a bottle and nappy change helps) from 7pm until 8am. I am a totally clueless mother - my baby is the only one I have ever held! Seriously, it becomes so much easier.

Don't ever think you are rubbish - you are doing a fab job - and you will find most of us on here have had a similar experience....although at the time you are in such a haze, that you just start questioning why baby isn't in the routines that you here others talking about (I was soooo peed off with some of the girls who were on my NCT course bragging about how they bathed at 6pm.....read a book at pm.....and how wonderfully their 2 week baby slept through the night!:mad: - Now looking back, I know they were talking a load of poo!!!).

It does get so much easier - promise you - and you will start being rewarded with grins, gurgles and hugs! x