MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 2

lazywife

oh er, not sure about the smiley though!

Gillyx

lazywife wrote: »

You know what's coming..... what recipe do you use?

Thanks:kisses3:

I go between this recipe and this one, depending on what type of loaf I want to make. They've both been great for me, never had any issues xx

BadlyWrittenPoem

Lola888 wrote: »

I have a Manduca, but I didn't use it that much as I got it for DH. My mum wore it once and said it was great. I found it easy for people who didn't wear often like DH and mum. I had a Opitai carrier which was prettier and a more girly carrier, but when I did use the Manduca it was great. Easy to adjust and comfy for baby plus it extends so lasts longer than some carriers.

How've you found the opitai? Which options did you go for what do you think of them? I've been pondering a wrap conversion from her but I'm not sure which of the options to go for.

Lola888

I love my Opitai, I got it second hand from a friend. It's a full buckle carrier with a flat hood, it is on her fb page somewhere, but I'm in work so I can't post a link. It's called On your bike. I didn't want to get something made especially just in case I didn't like it. I also have a couple of wraps, but tend to use the carrier more. It's easy to use and comfy for my LO, well she slept in it often enough

BadlyWrittenPoem

Lola888 wrote: »

I love my Opitai, I got it second hand from a friend. It's a full buckle carrier with a flat hood, it is on her fb page somewhere, but I'm in work so I can't post a link. It's called On your bike. I didn't want to get something made especially just in case I didn't like it. I also have a couple of wraps, but tend to use the carrier more. It's easy to use and comfy for my LO, well she slept in it often enough

Thanks.

Lola888

I just want to see what other people think. My DH rang me earlier and told me that MIL and her partner were having my LO overnight. I asked why- because he wanted to go out and because they asked to have her overnight. He didn't see a problem with this, I'm just wondering if other people do this? Do you randomly let your in laws/parents have your children overnight?

He was saying when my parents retire they'll want her overnight. Well no it's not the done thing in my family, I never slept out until I was older and stayed at friend's houses.

She's almost 18 mths so she's not a tiny baby. Also we've been getting her new bedroom ready, as we are expecting our second at the end of November, and MIL was talking about putting her in the spare bedroom and not the travel cot when she stays over with her. Am I being stupid in thinking no I want to be the one who puts her in a bed first. We have the bed ready, but I'm not sure she's ready yet so I'm going to move her cot bed into the new bedroom and get her used to that first and then evaluate things when she sleeps okay in there. I don't forsee any problems, but you never know.

Gillyx

Hmmmm my parent looked after my LO in July for 3 days while we went to London and recently as we were moving country I let my in-laws have him overnight twice, purely because we were moving though and it would be a long time before they would get the chance to do anything like it for a long time

I don't like the thought of him going frequently though and agree 100% with the bed thing, I'd want to be first too x

*Nutella*

It's not a dilemma we've ever faced here, as both sets of grandparents live abroad But for me, it would all depend on LO's personality and relationship with your parents/in-laws. My LO is quite clingy and definitely wouldn't be happy to stay over/be put to bed if I wasn't there, but if she were the type that would be happy with this, then personally I think I'd be fine with it as long as they stuck with her normal bedtime routine, as routine and predictability is very important to me. Ultimately though, what matters is how you feel about it. If you're not happy then I think you should say that, but I guess your OH could interpret it as you having an issue with his parents rather than you being uncomfortable with your LO staying away from home at such a young age, so you might want to try to explain how you feel to him.

sunshine_1988

I agree with Nutella. Its personal preference.

Personally, Ive never left him with anyone other than OH during bedtime/evening, the thought of it makes me nervous to be honest but thats just me. My mum looks after A every Thursday for 4hours and he is fine, he has slept over there but it was Xmas and new year so we slept there too. My mum is desperate to have him overnight on her own, but my LO is very clingy too and I would hate to think my mum was struggling with him or that he was getting distressed.

On the other hand, my friends mum has her 9month old once a month overnight and neither have any problems.

If you feel uncomfortable though, thats all that matters and I would talk to your OH about it.

x

BadlyWrittenPoem

Lola888 wrote: »

I just want to see what other people think. My DH rang me earlier and told me that MIL and her partner were having my LO overnight. I asked why- because he wanted to go out and because they asked to have her overnight. He didn't see a problem with this, I'm just wondering if other people do this? Do you randomly let your in laws/parents have your children overnight?

He was saying when my parents retire they'll want her overnight. Well no it's not the done thing in my family, I never slept out until I was older and stayed at friend's houses.

She's almost 18 mths so she's not a tiny baby. Also we've been getting her new bedroom ready, as we are expecting our second at the end of November, and MIL was talking about putting her in the spare bedroom and not the travel cot when she stays over with her. Am I being stupid in thinking no I want to be the one who puts her in a bed first. We have the bed ready, but I'm not sure she's ready yet so I'm going to move her cot bed into the new bedroom and get her used to that first and then evaluate things when she sleeps okay in there. I don't forsee any problems, but you never know.

I think if your child is happy with it and you are happy with it then there's nothing wrong with doing so at that age but assuming those things were fine, if it was me I would have issue with a) it being arranged so last minute for such a young child unless it was an emergency and b) it being arranged without us both agreeing together about it first.