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sunshine_1988

Candlewax wrote: »

Hi, has anyone had experience of their child going to nursery on a full time basis? I am having to return to work full time (financially we can not afford for me to go part time) when baby is 9 months. When I think about it I cry. I am dreading it. I am so worried he will hate it, or it will affect him emotionally being in full time nursery. Does anyone have any experience of this? Any success stories to make me feel a little less worried?

Hey Hun

A few of us on this thread have experience of this, me, Nutella and Mozzy (sure there are more too) we all returned pretty much around the 9-10 month mark I think.

I was exactly like you too, if you search back to November last year you will find posts just like yours from me!! I was crying about it, dreading it and just generally fearful of being without him.

Whilst I haven't returned full time, he is in nursery three days a week and with MIL one day a week - as I do 32 hours over four days.

You will be worried and dreading it - I can't deny that, and on his first day when we dropped off and he cried - so did I. However, it really does get better I promise you. Once you have done the first week, it will start to get easier. Has your LO got some settling in sessions booked at the nursery? These really helped me feel confident that he would be okay. I had two weeks of settling in, building from an hour or two with me there, and eventually a 5 hour session with lunch and a sleep. If you don't want to leave LO, just mention it to the nursery and they should allow you to stay with them for as long as you need for the settling in. Also on Aiden's first week, I phoned the nursery quite a lot just to make sure he was doing okay (of course he was!!) they are really experienced in these situations and I found all the staff so helpful.

You just sort of fall into a new routine I suppose, my LO has been at nursery for 6 months now and he really does love it. On nursery days now he knows that he watches Postman Pat with his milk whilst mummy does her hair and make up, and daddy packs his bag, he even gets his little nursery bag now and walks to the door! He has come on loads as well since nursery, he does the little 'wind the bobbin up' song actions and is always coming home with pictures and little bits and pieces he has made.

Also....when I went back to work, it was quite nice to drink a cup of tea whilst its still hot, manage to stay in the same top all day and not have snot/food rubbed on it and have a bit of adult conversation!!

Please try not to worry, although I know how hard it is as I used to stay awake all night worrying....but it really isn't as hard as you think.

xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

delain

We like scooter

Being a house full of primary age kids we have still not quite shaken gangnam style off yet. Squeak actually does the dance pretty well for not even three lol. Her sisters have spent ages teaching her!

Have been enjoying the glorious sunshine all week, shame rain is forecast tomorrow just in time for the nursery's toddler picnic

Candlewax

Thanks for replying Nutella and Sunshine. I am going to use some leave so that he is not in full time straight away, to ease us both in gently. We have found a nursery we are really happy with, they were lovely and made such a fuss of him.

Sunshine, your post just made me cry (in a good way...with relief I think). Your little one sounds so sweet with his little nursery bag. Thank you!

PurpleFairy26

Candlewax wrote: »

Hi, has anyone had experience of their child going to nursery on a full time basis? I am having to return to work full time (financially we can not afford for me to go part time) when baby is 9 months. When I think about it I cry. I am dreading it. I am so worried he will hate it, or it will affect him emotionally being in full time nursery. Does anyone have any experience of this? Any success stories to make me feel a little less worried?

Candle I went back FT after my first, now 3 and am going back in August full time again. This time LO will be about a month younger than DD. they do 4 days at nursery 1 day with my mum. It's difficult, however they go to a fab nursery who are very obliging (neither oh or I have permanent basis of work so could be any where, sometimes several hours away - although rare, which can be stressful in itself). DD has learnt a huge amount and does things if I'm honest I would never do with her at home.

Just make sure your happy with the nursery, get yourself in a routine. I have to put DD clothes out the night before to stop looking for things in a rush in the morning. Visit the nursery several times before you commit if you need to at different times so you can see how meals and play happen.

It will work out as it has too. Let us know if you need anything else

sunshine_1988

Candlewax wrote: »

Thanks for replying Nutella and Sunshine. I am going to use some leave so that he is not in full time straight away, to ease us both in gently. We have found a nursery we are really happy with, they were lovely and made such a fuss of him.

Sunshine, your post just made me cry (in a good way...with relief I think). Your little one sounds so sweet with his little nursery bag. Thank you!

Ahh big hugs hun he will be just fine. Your post made me a bit emotional, remembering those first few days back at work

Someone in my office said something which stuck in my mind, she said 'just remember, you are doing it not just for yourself but for him now too' Like you, we couldn't afford for me not to go back, so whilst we do have to pay nursery fees etc there is money left over from my wage - which means we can treat him and do nice things at the weekends/when we are all off together. xxx

RebekahR

martafdz wrote: »

Rebeca, thats one of the reasons I want some kind of bed.in her room, so I can sleep there if I need to.

Mrsharworth, mine did the same, with or without sleeping bag, because when it's not the legs it was the arms. My sleeping bags have zips all over though, she cannot get the feet out. I bought some air wrap / bumpers from safedreams, it has little holes so lo can breathe, but it's soft and slightly padded too, instead of being just a mesh. It attaches to the cot with Velcro around two bars, but it's quite adjustable because of it. I can measure it if you want.

Edit: lol, sorry rebekah, I mixed up your name and your daughter's before in this post!

Lets just put it off a little longer shall we ;-) They are only tiny once!! :rotfl: (Thats my excuse anyways!)

Mrshaworth2b

I feel for you candle, I know come October my maternity stops and I have to decide what I'm doing with work, I won't be going back full time at that time but even thinking of 16 hrs away upsets me. So I understand how you must feel, just think of all the friends theyll meet, what they will learn and how socialable they'll become.

I'm sure you'll feel it more than your lo.

*Nutella*

sunshine_1988 wrote: »

Also....when I went back to work, it was quite nice to drink a cup of tea whilst its still hot, manage to stay in the same top all day and not have snot/food rubbed on it and have a bit of adult conversation!!

I'd second that - my morning coffee and porridge (both hot!) at my desk is something I always look forward to

Mrshaworth2b

Morning ladies,

Another unsettled night for me and lo in his crib, up at 12, 5, 6, an then I put him in our bed for the last hour.

Hope this gets better

katiechoc_2

Morning ladies.

Hope you're feeling a bit reassured Candlewax. I can't offer any experience as I'm self employed and work at home, but the everyone I know, on here and IRL say that once the initial settling in phase is over the LOs really enjoy it.

So I've been thinking and I've kind of got the opposite question - I know I'm very lucky that I get to spend all day with my boy but I do worry that he is going to be at a disadvantage (Iknow, never right!) by being at home with me all the time. When he's old enough for the free hours he will be going to nursery but obviously thats not for ages yet. I get him out to groups and things so he does socialise with other littles, but a few of you have mentionned things your LOs do at nursery that they wouldn't do at home - like what? Now he's a bit bigger I want to make sure I'm giving him enough variation in what we do so ideas on what the nurseries do with them would be great. Thanks

Anyway, speaking of work, I've just got a new job to do for a new client so will attempt to close MSE and FB and actually do something useful while the monkey naps. Once the kettle is on and cuppa made. Obviously