MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 2

martafdz

Take his car?
Both DH and I are quite home-loving- people. We like staying in and have a nice meal, watch some tv series or film on the planner and finish a bottle of wine when she's asleep. If I remember well, you two used to go out at night, didn't you? Maybe you could try to have one night a month out when you could arrange babysitting or something like that? I'm sure your DH is into you, just more crossed wires, lol. Maybe he knows you are tired and is letting you rest or sleep whilst waiting for you to make a move?

Fluff, does the Baby Dan chair also lasts into adulthood if you want to? My DH now he's seen the Stokke one wants a wooden one to use at the table, so we can leave it there and takes no space. But he's a bit ocd and I'm sure he'll want it to match.our furniture, which being oak colour might be difficult. But if we buy one of those, and considering the prices, I'd like it to last for as long as possible. Does yours say anything about minimum and maximum age? Would it fit in a 64cm gap? That's the space between thefloor and the wooden frame under the table board.

She's been sleeping since 3pm, I think I'll wake her up at 5pm if she's still napping, otherwise she might be down for the night and decides to be up at 3-4am for the day!!! She was overtired when she managed to fall asleep, she rarely sleeps over 45min for a nap. She did a 5seconds cry at 45min and went down again. I hope I'mnot messing the night by letting her sleep, but I thought that babies should nap longer than 40min at her age? It was supposed to be the lunch nap, she woke up at noon, had milk, played on the gym and jumperoo, sat with DH munching on a teether and then it took us an hour and a bit to make her fall asleep!

She's great, though, and I love her very much I didn't know you could feel this way every hour of the day

Sammie_03

Just back from the nearly new baby sale and bought way too much as usual! I managed to get 4 sleeping bags in sizes 12-18 months though so I'm really pleased as he is starting to grow out of his other ones.

Bamama

I'm not insured on his car Marta I woke him and asked if he wanted to come. He was in a foul mood mind you. I had 3 rows before we even got into the centre.

I'm also no where near ready to leave Dewi. If he would go to sleep earlier we could go for a late meal but he doesn't go until 9 usually.

In MIL's and she's on about Dewi coming over for a night. She can wait a good long while.

Peanut2013

We have a pact on Sundays (OH's only day off). Housework till 12, at my mums for tea at 4.30. The time inbetween is fun family time! We try and go somewhere or if it's raining we spend the day in the front room playing together

Oh and to show you the height of romance here this morning I said to OH 'I think he looks tired, pop him down for a nap' He told me he was ok and was enjoying playing with him. I repeated 'no I think he needs a nap'. So OH put him down for a nap and then I jumped him. Lol.

martafdz

Well, I do understand that you are not ready to leave him, I had to leave mine with MIL for one hour and a half last Monday, at my home, and I wanted to call every few minutes! I think the fact that she was at my flat, with all my Lo's things and well known surroundings made it easier. You can try to bring the bedtime to an earlier one, but it will impact also the time he wakes up, I personally would love a lay - in (sp?)!!! Have you tried to take Dewi with you for a meal out? We took V out with us a few times and she was brill.
Also, my DH put me on his insurance because it workedout cheaper that way, I had not had a ticket or accident since I got the license... because I've not driven since!! Lol But you might want to get a quote together, just in case. Although I heard that they wanted to remove the 'female bonus'.

Bamama

Peanut. I really envy your nap times. I tried some late night shinanagins with OH, had informed OH that I was in much need and he really enjoyed himself. He then promptly fell asleep, telling me I needed sleep too. Yea, thanks love! He was working the night after so I took matters into my own hands!

Marta. He has points on his licence and I've only been driving just over a year. He informed me it would cost £500 to add me. My own insurance was only £700. He refuses to let me get quotes and I don't know the full details of his points.
We've not taken him for a meal. OH has always turned it down when I've suggested it.
I would like an earlier bedtime but as you say, it'd probably result in an earlier morning. I'm also reluctant to push him into a routine as he seems to be finding his own quite nicely.

janninew

Weetabix is the only cereal that Poppy really likes, mashed up with warm milk! She has one for breakfast and another for supper! She ate whole punnet of raspberries after her tea, absolutely loved them!

martafdz

It might be a phase or something, I don't know what else to suggest. My DH leaves all the quotes to me, I'm his personal PA by choice, lol. I love a bargain and I can research for ages. But if you are a new driver then he's probably right.
You could try to go with Dewi out for lunch with a friend or on your own, just to test how he might behave. Maybe with a success story behind, your DH would not be so reluctant. Could he be worried / stressed with something else and subconsciously taking it on you? Or just general grumpiness because of being tired? I would suggest to try to go out other than to family's. We force ourselves to go out around the neighbourhood at least once during the weekend, it does help to have some fresh air and walk together away from gadgets and stuff. Drinking a glass of wine sat on the floor together without tv is also fun . It's been ages, but I play the ps3 with DH when I have a chance, not much since V was born, but quite often before that. Is there any DH's hobby that you can take just to get him out of his cloud of grumpiness? Have you tried a nice meal? M&S delivers if you don't fancy cooking and want something different from a take away. Ask tomorrow for what is owed too ;P I'd be annoyed if I had to sort myself out after he enjoyed his part!

Bamama

Dewi and I often do lunch with mummy friends as part of our day out. He's a happy chappy, if he grumps it's always solved by boobie anyway. I've only fed Dewi out of his sling in public once with OH. I dunno if he feels weird about it. He doesn't talk much...

His hobby is watching football. I don't mind watching local stuff but it's too cold to stand that long with Dewi.

Tbh I'm getting really frustrated with his attitude towards this whole thing. He's always on about me having a break, which I don't want or need. He doesn't seem that interested in being with me. We don't talk much and when we do he seems to get annoyed with me. He's happy to plonk Dewi in front of the tv which I just can't stand. It's the same with MIL, she goes on about seeing Dewi but when we're there she doesn't always seem like she's up for a cuddle and a play. It's a case of chucking the tv on and going out for a fag/coffee. She's even less interested in talking to me. I swear... sometimes I think I'd be better off on my own. At least I wouldn't have to clean up after OH...

When it's just me and Dewi, doing our thing, I am so happy! We have hard days don't get me wrong. Nothing has ever felt more natural to me though.

turtlemoose

Delain that was me going on about the DT books. How did you like the gunslinger?

Bamama having a baby can be a huge strain on a relationship. Not just huge, but enormous, catastrophic, extreme strain. I have really struggled and tbh it really p*sses me off on tv you get those couples who are all lovey dovey and "having a baby has brought us closer together" bullsh£t. Ok for some people that is true, but for many it isn't, and there's this huge pressure not only to be super mum but to be super wife/girlfriend too. I don't have any advice as I don't know what to do about my own situation, but just wanted to send ((hugs)) and let you know you are not alone.