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Buffy takes babysteps.

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  • I can't do this.

    I mean I am doing it but I am so !!!!ing sick of things not working out with men.

    It HURTS so much.

    I don't know. it was so difficult with ex OH. changed me.
    Nevertheless she persisted.
  • Buffy love, it will happen, you have so much going for you. You are clever, sweet and kind, and the right man might be just around the corner x I hate to think of you feeling sad xxx
    'Forget injuries, never forget kindnesses' - Confucious

  • gothrockchic1
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    I agree with Northern Lassie, Buffy it has taken me years and many many heart breaks later to find my man. The amount of !!!!holes I had to go through though I actually lost count.

    It is so worth it in the end to find someone who loves you and supports you no matter what. When it's the right time it will happen.

    But first mend your heart so when he does come along your ready for him!
  • tattycath
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    (((Hugs))) Buffy.
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  • thank you all

    keep waking up early and going to bed late.

    been awake since five. Want to sob myself unconscious. can't phone in sick.

    oh God. I know worse things happen I know that. but I feel like I can't breathe.
    Nevertheless she persisted.
  • Snagggles
    Snagggles Posts: 434 Forumite
    Oh Buffy, it's heartbreaking to see you like this. :(

    I wish I could do anything at all to ease your pain even a little.

    Love is strange and slippery. One minute everything is great, you are with someone and it feels 'right'. The next, it's gone and you feel like someone has ripped out your heart, shoved it through a blender and handed it back to you in a scruffy carrier bag. It's bewildering and it hurts like hell.

    Please take at least one thing from this. You loved, and were loved by, a nice man. You are capable of that, and are worth it.

    It will come along again, and next time maybe you will be in a better place. Relationships are hard enough on their own, but you had so many other stresses to contend with. Focus on how you can improve your life and find happiness regardless of others. And don't forget to lean on your friends when you need to. That's what we are here for, after all.

    ((((((((Buffy)))))))) <--better than the MSE dodgy hug :)
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    Can only echo what Snaggs has said so much better than me xxx
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  • Sun_Addict
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    Hi Buffy - you cry your heart out until all the tears have gone. Then do whatever it takes to make you feel better. Like the money situation it's another case of baby steps. Hope you start to feel a bit better each day. Big hugs from me too!
    I get knocked down but I get up again (Chumbawamba, Tubthumping)
  • Pooky
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    Life is pants Buffs, have a good cry, be kind to yourself. It will get better, I can promise that.
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  • Thanks all xxxxxxxxxxxxx

    Seems mental that I am so upset - only together 8 months, but it was at the point were

    Oh !!!!. you know what I do not want to talk about it.

    Bloody hacked off with it all. idiot man.

    have updated dating profile and been on two dates this week - yes folks I will say yes to anyone! ANYTHNG is better than sitting in feeling like the world is coming to an end.


    In other news, I have lost weight - lets face it the break up date is the only one that works. So on the back of that I am reading up on the 5:2 diet. opinions welcome.

    Spent very little money. which is good. Have tutoring which is the last session but have made 60 quid from it so that is good.

    going back to bed for a bit.

    thanks again xx
    Nevertheless she persisted.
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