I can't get the missing little girl in Portugal out of my head

mae

Do you know what, the people who are choosing not to judge the parents are being called 'the candfloss brigade' but yet the OP never asked for peoples opinion it just said she can't stop thinking of the little girl and that we should send her positive vibes. I personally don't see the point in arguing about what they did, it can't be taken back, its tragic and like I've said before I think they will judge themelves enough for all of us. Its just so a waste of time even slating them what good will it do now. And thats a sweeping statement made a poster that if it was a single parent off a council estate would there be all this fuss.. Of course there would. I for one would be mortified as I am in this case. At the end of the day a child missing and do some of you really believe these parents 'deserved' this? No amount of mud you sling at them will hurt them more than their own tradgedy, loss and guilt. Give them a break for gods sake their pain is unimagineable and people jumping on the band wagon of well I would never do that, how could they etc etc will just fuel the wrong kind of press and attention.
Oh to be perfect!!!!!!

Zara33

TBH this tragedy could so easily have been avoided.

This wasn't a random pinching the child of the street, this was a well thought out plan, which would have failed if the parents had did things differently.

Why did they not choose the babysitting service?
Why when there was so many other adults in this group did no one just stay with these kids?

It's not about perfection it's about common sense.

mom23

I don't feel we should judge the parents.
I have 3 children ranging from 8 to 21 and i cannot" hand on heart" say i have watched them 24/7! not intentionally or knowingly have i left them alone, but there has been many a time we have sat in the garden ( i have a very long garden quite away from the house)and the kids have been upstairs asleep! on holiday we sit out on the balcony and the kids are in another room asleep!!
Ok there are many if's and but's and maybe's but it has happened.
Our thoughts should be with the parents (who will feel bad enough)and the safe return of Maddie god love her!

On the news this morning the reporter walked from the bar to the apartment and it was more or less next door

candygirl

It's ok saying don't blame the parents, but if they had been doing their jobs properly this wouldn't have happened at all.It is a tragic thing to happen and i now fear the worst for poor little madeleine, but it's a blessing the other kids are safe.With their salaries they could pay to take a nanny away with them, if time away from their kids is that important to them.Surely a family holiday is all about the kidsWhen my daughter was little it was anyway, and i can say hand on heart i have never left her alone like this, i would be too worried about things like this happening.Please god let her be ok but i am really fearing the worst now:eek: :eek:

Curious_George_2

mae wrote: »

people jumping on the band wagon of well I would never do that, how could they etc etc will just fuel the wrong kind of press and attention.
Oh to be perfect!!!!!!

ohh come on!
how can letting people know that leaving your children "home alone" is not the right thing to do be the wrong kind of press?
its quite obvious to a lot of us that you shouldnt do it but apparently not everyone realises, there isnt a month that goes by that you dont hear about some poor children left to fend for themselves while thier selfish parents go off on holiday, or that the kids got left strapped into the car while some idiot went to the pub... or even that some holiday revellers left thier kids in the apartment to go to the restaurant round the corner,
very sadly in this case the parents will regret the descision for the rest of their lives, and call this a harsh opinion....but if your actions are this stupid then you have to accept the consquences.
im not saying the parents deserved this.... no-one does, but it was more likely to happen to them that it is to a parent who knows that they cant swan off for a night out after the kids are in bed, holiday or not.

I have taken my DD on holiday, we stay out doing all sorts until she is ready for bed, then we go back to the apartment, if that happens to be early then we are prepared for it (with food, entertainment etc for us) if you take your kids away from home you have to accept this.
but i have also gone on holiday with my other half WITHOUT my DD, because we wanted to be out every night, eating, drinking and sleeping when WE wanted.

im not claiming to be the perfect parent, but apparently i have more common sense than to think life carries on as normal after you have children, things have to be sacrificed while your babies are young and I didnt think you needed a higher education to figure that one out.

and whoever it was that says this thread should be deleted.... why is that exactly?
people are worried about Maddy, and they want to talk about it.... obviously in this case the talk is going to turn to the parents because of the situation,
I dont want to be rude but if you dont like the way its going? you know what to do.

Miss_Scarlett

I'm also fearing the worst for this little girl and it makes me sick to my stomach to think about it.

Curious_George_2

Miss_Scarlett wrote: »

I'm also fearing the worst for this little girl and it makes me sick to my stomach to think about it.

unfortuantly we have watched situations like this develop way too many times now, Sarah Payne, Milly Dowler, Jessica Chapman and Holly Wells.... the list is painfully long

4 days is an awfully long time and i hate to say it but im not holding out much hope for her safe return now.
I hope im wrong

GlennTheBaker

The resort will probably be blamed in the end for not putting up warning signs saying 'Do not leave your young children in apartments unattended'. Whilst I would not wish what is happening to the little girl's family on anyone, it just strikes me that people have to be told everything these days, like 'an apple is better for you than a cheeseburger' or 'getting drunk and dancing on a roof may result in you getting injured'. I'm just waiting for the inquiries as to why 20-foot fences, CCTV and security patrols were not in place to prevent this happening.

mystic_trev

Curious_George wrote: »

4 days is an awfully long time and i hate to say it but im not holding out much hope for her safe return now.
I hope im wrong

I would assume the Family liason officers are preparing the parents for the worse. As has been said, these situations rarely have happy endings.

Zara33

Lets hope we are all WRONG, that the little girl is actually with a couple who perhaps can't have children and they are indeed taking very good care of her.