The Giving Up Smoking Thread!!

viv0147

How do you feel about a friend who has to go everywhere with you? Not only does he tag along all the time, but since he is so offensive and vulgar, you become unwelcome when with him. He has a peculiar odor that sticks to you wherever you go. Others think both of you stink.

He controls you totally. When he says jump, you jump. Sometimes in the middle of a blizzard or storm, he wants you to come to the store and pick him up. You would give your spouse hell if he or she did that to you all the time, but you can't argue with your friend. Sometimes, when you are out at a movie or play he says he wants you to go stand in the lobby with him and miss important scenes. Since he calls all the shots in your life, you go. Your friend doesn't like your choice of clothing either. Instead of politely telling you that you have lousy taste, he burns little holes in these items so you will want to throw them out. Sometimes, he tires of the furniture and gets rid of it too. Occasionally, he gets really nasty and decides the whole house must go.

He gets pretty expensive to support. Not only is his knack of property destruction costly, but you must pay to keep him with you. In fact, he will cost you thousands of dollars over your lifetime. And you can count on one thing, he will never pay you a penny in return.

Often at picnics you watch others playing vigorous activities and having lots of fun doing them. But your friend won't let you. He doesn't believe in physical activity. In his opinion, you are too old to have that kind of fun. So he kind of sits on your chest and makes it difficult for you to breathe. Now you don't want to go off and play with other people when you can't breathe, do you?

Your friend does not believe in being healthy. He is really repulsed by the thought of you living a long and productive life. So every chance he gets he makes you sick. He helps you catch colds and flu. Not just by running out in the middle of the lousy weather to pick him up at the store. He is more creative than that. He carries thousands of poisons with him which he constantly blows in your face. When you inhale some of them, they wipe out cilia in your lungs which would have helped you prevent these diseases.

But colds and flu are just his form of child's play. He especially likes diseases that slowly cripple you, like emphysema. He considers this disease great. Once he gets you to have this, you will give up all your other friends, family, career goals, activities, everything. You will just sit home and caress him, telling him what a great friend he is while you desperately gasp for air.

But eventually your friend tires of you. He decides he no longer wishes to have your company. Instead of letting you go your separate ways, he decides to kill you. He has a wonderful arsenal of weapons behind him. In fact, he has been plotting your death since the day you met him. He picked all the top killers in society and did everything in his power to ensure you would get one of them. He overworked your heart and lungs. He clogged up the arteries to your heart, brain, and every other part of your body. In case you were too strong to succumb to this, he constantly exposed you to cancer causing agents. He knew he would get you sooner or later.

Well, this is the story of your "friend," your cigarette. No real friend would do all this to you. Cigarettes are the worst possible enemies you ever had. They are expensive, addictive, socially unacceptable, and deadly. Consider all this and NEVER TAKE ANOTHER PUFF!

ageing_biker

morning all
morning struggling mfd, day 10 now 11 is hard coz the first few days you expect to be hard due to withdrawal, the next 5 or 6 are not too bad as youre excited coz youve stopped and people are saying well done, then suddenly youre here day 10. whats happened is the novelty of stopping has gone, people no longer mention it as they think youve cracked it and its no big deal, well its a massive deal for the ex smoker, so what can be done.
mfd, what exactly do you mean when you say struggling, are you pulling your hair out, ranting and raving, snapping peoples head off or is it just theres something missing, a memory of something comforting.
remember when you said well done to me for reaching 11 days, well now youre here and in 3 days time youll be at the two week milestone, so take time to really think about all the benefits of being smokefree, summers on the way, be strong, be happy and be healthy, i'm rooting for you, good luck, ab

emmy05

congratulations to all of you, youre doing so well,

hiya lurkio hope youre well

My_Fathers_Daughter

ageing_biker wrote: »

morning all
morning struggling mfd, day 10 now 11 is hard coz the first few days you expect to be hard due to withdrawal, the next 5 or 6 are not too bad as youre excited coz youve stopped and people are saying well done, then suddenly youre here day 10. whats happened is the novelty of stopping has gone, people no longer mention it as they think youve cracked it and its no big deal, well its a massive deal for the ex smoker, so what can be done.
mfd, what exactly do you mean when you say struggling, are you pulling your hair out, ranting and raving, snapping peoples head off or is it just theres something missing, a memory of something comforting.
remember when you said well done to me for reaching 11 days, well now youre here and in 3 days time youll be at the two week milestone, so take time to really think about all the benefits of being smokefree, summers on the way, be strong, be happy and be healthy, i'm rooting for you, good luck, ab

Morning ab - first of all, I have deleted my post from last night because I was being a cow.
By struggling Yes I do mean I am snapping peoples heads off, losing my temper, crying and generally being a complete cow to my poor DH.
Funny you should say about pulling my hair out, I seem to be losing a lot of hair too!

Your words have made me stronger for a little while ab - I've stuck my patch on and I am facing day 10 with a big grimace on my face lol

emmy05

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Morning ab - first of all, I have deleted my post from last night because I was being a cow.
By struggling Yes I do mean I am snapping peoples heads off, losing my temper, crying and generally being a complete cow to my poor DH.
Funny you should say about pulling my hair out, I seem to be losing a lot of hair too!

Your words have made me stronger for a little while ab - I've stuck my patch on and I am facing day 10 with a big grimace on my face lol

you can do it, you know you can do it, dont let that voice in your head win, hugs x

ageing_biker

I like moody people, glad I can see a little humour in youre post, youre allowed to be a cow for the first six weeks then you must become the most joyful of joyful people
off out cycling now as I need to get some belly off

ailsajayne27

Morning everyone...... I'm feeling horrible today but thats because I somehow nevr managed to not smoke this weeked. So my big day of not smoking came and I convinced byself that just another day wouldn't hurt... then another and so on.... been re reading my allen carr book and trying to get my head into it again... I really don't know why I want to smoke I just can't help it, I get this horrible feeling inside when I think I can't smoke.... making me incredibly miserable and skint cos I always spend too much money!

Lurkio

emmy05 wrote: »

congratulations to all of you, youre doing so well,

hiya lurkio hope youre well

Who's stalking who here, emmy? :rotfl: :rotfl:

:wave:

Lurkio

ailsajayne27 wrote: »

Morning everyone...... I'm feeling horrible today but thats because I somehow nevr managed to not smoke this weeked. So my big day of not smoking came and I convinced byself that just another day wouldn't hurt... then another and so on.... been re reading my allen carr book and trying to get my head into it again... I really don't know why I want to smoke I just can't help it, I get this horrible feeling inside when I think I can't smoke.... making me incredibly miserable and skint cos I always spend too much money!

Hi ailsajayne :hello: (met someone on holiday once called ailsa.......:think: )

I may have said this before ( :shhh: Edi!).... You want to smoke because your brain has convinced itself that it needs to smoke to get rid of that slightly uneasy, hungry feeling you get about an hour after having a cigarette. What your brain refuses to accept is that that feeling is actually caused by the previous cigarette. This is the smoking trap. The more you understand about it and the nature of your addiction the better equipped you will be to beat it. Read through the whyquit site (link in post #1), JoeHel - a very wise and prolific former poster on here could quote chapter and verse from it (and often did!:D).

Have a look at some of the other links and heck, read through this thread. There's wisdom and inspiration for every type of stopper, whatever method you are using

I stopped having read Neil Casey's 'The Nicotine Trick' and would recommend anyone to try it. It costs just the price of 20 fags, so you haven't a lot to lose

Essentially, don't despair and never stop trying to stop.....

Same applies to you - MFD

HTH

ailsajayne27

Thanks! I think I'm just trying to get thru the panic of not smoking anymore! Stupid cos I've quit for three wks in the past and didn't really have any problems!

Where did you meet the ailsa on hol? You never know might have been me lol!!