The Giving Up Smoking Thread!!

tattycath

GFN my OH is very supportive of my quit...but he still smokes and I have to laugh when we go out for a meal and he has to go outside between courses for a 'fix'. It's at times like that when I am pleased I am a slow eater-he trots off while I'm still finishing my course (and I don't mind) because I've just about finished by the time he gets back. It's the same with work-we work together- he goes outside for a cig and I'm nice and warm in the office. on the down side, when he's stressed he goes and has a smoke and comes back in all calm and when I'm stressed i now lose my temper more and have a good rant at the offending parties (or anyone else who happens to be in the wrong place at the wrong time!!!)

GFN123

Your post made me giggle tattycath - I liked the image of you having a good old rant with your OH outside dragging on a cigarette instead!

My poor, non smoking OH has agreed that I can spend all next week at his house while I go through withdrawal (my lodger is a smoker so too much temptation in my own home). He has no idea what he's let himself in for, I can have a hell of a temper!! We're still in the honeymoon period of our relationship (6 months), do you think the poor chap is at all prepared to see the 'dark side'?!!

My_Fathers_Daughter

GFN123 wrote: »

The most irrational thing is thinking "actually this is quite easy, I like giving up" and that being some sort of 'excuse' to have just one cigarette as I can give up again :rolleyes:

That's it - that is spot on exactly the way I feel. That and a little bit tearful but I think that's cos things are a bit stressful at work recently (didn't want that to stop me quitting though).



Is it really that irrational?

tattycath

Yes GFN I'm sure he'll cope!!! I have been with my OH for nearly 2 years and he's very mellow-much more laid back about things than I am. And he copes well. My eldest DD (14) occasionally says 'oh mum why don't you go and have a fag'!!! But I just ignore her, it's just a gentle reminder that I am 'going off on one again!!!' Then I slink off and either eat or just get out of the way for a few minutes and have a coffee!!!

GFN123

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

That's it - that is spot on exactly the way I feel. That and a little bit tearful but I think that's cos things are a bit stressful at work recently (didn't want that to stop me quitting though).



Is it really that irrational?

Not in the slightest! I get the tearful thing as well (usually at about day 3 going by past attempts), & feel like I can't cope with anything. It's like exaggerated PMT :rotfl: Just remember all the tears/stress/irrational-ness (is that a word??) etc are very short term compared to a lifetime of being a healthy, happy non smoker. Hey, I am still sat - clinging! - to this laptop, still desperately trying to give myself an excuse to go outside & have a cigarette... "oh look, it's lovely & sunny, why don't I enjoy the sunshine & pop out for a fag" :rolleyes: It's pathetic really! But I just think I won't be beaten because there is no such thing as "just one" fag. "Just one" = a whole new cycle of addiction to break, money to burn etc. It may only be early days for us, MFD, but we are breaking that cycle just but not sticking fags in our mouths!!

Thanks tattycath :cool: My OH is really the most patient & kind person in the world. I would hate to be an old moody misery guts over the next week & make his life hell. On the plus side, he has said I can borrow his boxing gloves & take out my frustrations.... I don't think he meant on him though :rotfl:

My_Fathers_Daughter

Hiya,

Just one last post as I go through yet another wave of 'if I could only have one then I would feel okay' anxiety

I am looking forward to going home a non-smoker for the second day. Makes it all worthwhile when I don't have to suck mints furiously as I walk up the drive or sit on the other end of the sofa until the smell has died down a bit when I come back inside after having a cigarette. Straight down to cuddling up in front of the fire :T that's why I need to quit!

Feel better now - just letting the waves wash over me! You may well be seeing a lot of me on here!
DH is fully supportive of me giving up but is a 'ignore it and she won't think about it' kinda guy. He's never smoked so hasn't got a clue what I am going through and can't really understand why it's so tough.

jo1972

Hiya all the new posters :wave: so glad to have you onboard, I'll catch up with your progress in a minute, I hope you are all feeling ok

Just trying to catch up with everything on here, I have no time anymore!

Where's everyone anyway

skintbutsmiling01

jo1972 wrote: »

Hiya all the new posters :wave: so glad to have you onboard, I'll catch up with your progress in a minute, I hope you are all feeling ok

Just trying to catch up with everything on here, I have no time anymore!

Where's everyone anyway

It has gone very quiet hasnt it? Maybe they are all having crafty fags!!
MFD how did you do last night? My oh has been great not smoking around me, not so great when I 've been snapping is head off at the slightest thing!
I'm fine this week, went for a little run last night and have ben good food wise, the only thing I worry about is the weekend, going to a family do where they all smoke, have to train my mind to pity not envy them and think the smoke smells disgusting rather than nice!
Have a good day everyone!:T

GFN123

Hi
I am here, still not smoking. Unfortunately my mum & I had a meeting with the consultant at the hospital this morning & my dad is not going to pull through Given that smoking is what is killing him (very advanced emphesyma means the collapsed & now leaking lung cannot be repaired) unsurprsingly I do not have any cravings any more.

It certainly brings it home.

I probably won't be able to log on for a while, but wish lots of luck to everybody giving up - keep at it.

skintbutsmiling01

GFN I am so sorry to hear that- the same happened to a couple of close relatives to me and its heartbreaking, you have my thoughts and sympathy.
Please log on even if you just feel down or anything (((hugs))))